Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

Where you a smug time waster before you met him, or is that a recent addition?

You are so blissfully happy, you have nothing better to do than to make things up, to wind up a group of strangers?

You are also minimising the experience of many women who do get taken in, used, and ripped off, by men who deliberately target single British women. Your one-off story, is not typical of people experiences, and just because it’s worked out for you (for now), let’s hope this doesn’t influence other women into letting thier guard down.

In 3 years you have met, married, had 1 baby, second on the way (so you must have got preggers pretty quick), despite living apart for the first year, he’s got a degree, a visa, permission to work over here, and you live 6 months in each country (what an understanding workplace)

Either you own a Tardis, or there is something very odd about these dates.

Howling!
Racist poster complains about being tricked to reveal they're racist KLAXON

Because you specifically utilised the AIBU which is meant to help women going through a hard time to play a stupid practical joke on people who were trying to help you, many of them may actually be struggling in real life.
Your behaviour is despicable.

lol. The self-congratulatory attitude of you. Plot twist. 🤣

Before you flounce, please get some legal advice with those visas asap OP. You're on rocky ground

Just a holiday no strings attached romance = fine. Anything beyond that = red flags.

Why do this? There are plenty of women looking for advice and you just came here to wind people up. People who were concerned.

Posters don’t like being deceived by a smug ‘fiction’ writer.

Very well played OP.

So much advice on MN is just judgmental prejudice based on stereotypes (very frequently classist, racist or both) wrapped in a disguise of "concern" from "experienced wise women". You completely exposed them.

The first few pages are disgusting - poster after poster telling you that all Turkish men are untrustworthy scammers who just want a passport (and that you, as a young woman, are simply too stupid to realise that). Obviously all their experience in reading lurid tabloid stories about romance scammers makes them substantially wiser than you.

It's ironic because their narrow-mindedness just reveals their inexperience - they've obviously never interacted with Turkish people in any meaningful way. Oddly enough Turkish men can be educated, in no need of a British passport, and as kind and loving as British men.

It doesnt matter why or how it ended, the point remains that 3 years is not long enough to say "its all worked out great".

20-30 years- sure. But your relationship hasnt yet stood the test of time and that is the point.

posters are not liking being proved wrong op, it just gets worse

I don’t want to be horrible, but three years is way too soon to say “gotcha”. A lot of men get more extreme in their cultural views as they age (I’ve seen this happen to a close family member- her marriage lasted 15 years). I wouldn’t recommend a marriage of two very different cultures to anyone, even if the young man describes himself as modern and feminist (my former BIL drank, claimed to not believe in god and thought women were equal- in his 40’s he totally changed his tune).

My advice to you- don’t become financially dependant on this man or isolated in his country.

I agree. Just not interested now because of how the OP was on this thread

Oh I see, you are basically either a liar or a fantasist.
You have serious mental health issues.

Is that a very common Kurdish name? What's it short for?

But you havent proved people wrong - your first marriage lasted longer than 3 years and still ended in divorce didnt it?

Also agree.

You've not 'proved' anything.

Maybe have a bit of sympathy for all the people who hook up with someone from another country and it really doesn't work out.
You are beginning to sound a bit ridiculous now

I agree.

OP for me it’s nothing to do with where he’s from or the cliche for marrying for a passport etc.

In fact most of these men are in relationships and just have sex with the tourists - that’s not a race or culture thing, it happens in every touristy place, even Cornwall.
My friend did the same with an Australian guy and would even fly out there regularly afterwards, until she found out there was at least 5 other women doing the same.

I have male friends who’ve gone to work abroad for the summer because one of the perks is shagging the women on holiday because they’re easier to get when they’re on holiday.
It sounds harsh but it’s true.

You are the perfect example and why posters are not giving you the answers you want to hear.

You acted very easy and sounded desperate for a relationship.
You’d met this man 4 days ago and instead of a holiday fling, you were already thinking about the future.
You even compared it to friends who’s got married and had kids - that’s not normal for someone you met 4 days ago.

You wouldn’t have done that in back at home with someone you met in tesco.

Women like you push the narrative of these men using women for passports etc because it is not normal to behave this way.
You acted desperate because like so many other women, you wanted to find love on holiday and you forced it to happen.

Yes, definitely deceitful and OPs smugness is vomit inducing. Should we not give it anymore attention with the AMA?