Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

I think you owe your DH an apology for this thread, OP. You've deliberately goaded posters into sharing racist and xenophobic sentiments towards his fellow countrymen for what – to prove how much you really love him and that he's a decent bloke? Warped.

I disagree with that. My son in law phoned my husband to ask his permission to marry our daughter. I thought it was lovely and showed respect.

Great it worked out for you! It also worked out for an Australian friend visiting here - met her DH and after two years here are now going to spend a few years in her country. A Polish friend met her Portuguese DH on holiday and have ended up here.
But I’d say for most it doesn’t - not Turkish men, but anyone met on a holiday. I’ve met three English guys when on holiday and had little flings with them, all starry eyed and wow how amazing that we met etc. Only to go home and somehow the daily grind and absence of hot sun and carefree days and it fizzles out fast. Or a guy I met in France, or that Irish guy or that Spanish guy… some it was just a few days flirtation, others a bit more. Most holiday flings are …holiday flings! I think what got most people on here concerned was that you seem to have fantasised a whole future before the first date! They were just urging caution as you appeared all to ready to be swept off your feet.

There is classier ways to prove a point than pretending being a woman in distress.
It's immoral and goes against what this forum is all about.
Maybe you are right. Maybe what you did is an elegant way of proving a point.
I'm reporting the thread and let MNHQ decide.

Now that you have made an accusation against me, I expect you to back it up with proof. Show me the proof.

If you don’t show me the proof, I expect an apology.

I’ll wait.

I think it would have been all the better as an AMA though, and interesting.

Or maybe he is asking your parents to see if they are gullible?

You need to take off the rose tinted specs OP.

Well I for one love this thread. Congratulations @theoneortwo !

Love a fairytale ending, personally.

Right!

Here is proof of how impossible it is to get through someone’s self delusion.

Go and polish the writing badge you got when you were 12 and convince yourself you’ve just started what will become a really, really amazing novel with a ‘plot twist’.

🤣

This whole thread is just the biggest cringe 😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩

This post is either:
True
A journo looking for some juicy stories to follow up
It’s near the end of school holidays; lots of bored young ones about

For us, it was love at first sight

You’re missing the point OP.

Most people don’t care (obviously some do) where he’s from, what race or culture he is.
They aren’t actually judging him.

They are judging you because you claim to have fallen in love at first sight.

It was 4 days and you were already head over heels and not thinking it straight.

If an OP came on here and said she’d met a waiter last weekend in her home town we’d all be saying by all means go to dinner but calm down and stop acting so silly, talking about her friends meeting waiters and getting married and having kids with them etc.

OP you have to see how it looks.
It’s not even about his culture (although some men and women do pretend to fall in love for a visa).
It’s about how desperate you acted. You were meant to be on holiday with your parents and you ditched them for a man you’d known for 4 days and it was ‘love at first sight’.

I don’t understand how you can’t see how ridiculous that sounds. It’s like a teenager.
Of course your relationship worked because you had to make it work because else you’d end up being another statistic.

I am not having a go and I 100% believe in love and that can be with any race or culture or country etc.

But you have to acknowledge how ridiculous your story is and how you acted easy and desperate (like many women do on holiday) and that this isn’t normal behaviour and not something you would ever do back at home.

OP, this post sadly confirms that MN has indeed become a far right site with really unpleasant racist views.
I’m so pleased everything has worked out for you and your family x

What a strange attention seeking post.

OP I worry he has done some weird Kurdish voodoo to you and you're being delusional here, please go see a British doctor and get a British MRI

All those pesky olive skinned forrins can do weird juju stuff to steal your organs and your passport, google it if you don't believe me

Oh hang on, Amazon just delivered my spray paint, I'm off 😊😊😊

I met a couple on holiday in Turkey in July - they were in their late 50/60’s. He was Turkish and they live in the UK and had been married for 40 years. She met him on holiday in Turkey

And it's telling that even now these posters are using their "experience" and "wisdom" to tell you it'll still never work out and you're still too stupid to realise that (as if marriages between white British people are so reliable).

And LOL at the idea that you've abused a site designed to help struggling women. AIBU is not and has never been that place - it's primarily about batshit bunfights and being catty. The racism has proliferated here of late.

Huge round of applause for exposing them!

@theoneortwo I can't stand untruthful posts, so I won't waste too much time on this one. Thankfully I decided against sharing my stories of being engaged to an American (couldn't make the money and visas work for marriage) and an Egyptian (living in the UK, but cultural differences) last night as you were just here goading and insincere.

All I hear is you have young children and a husband who isn't around for long periods of time because he needs to work in a foreign country, you need to live over two countries. I don't buy your smug little gotcha honestly, that scenario is HARD. I suspect you were and are a troll all along.

Ok, but let's be fair. We all know about holiday romance scammers, it's not uncommon. You did seem a bit naive. Instead of just slating people, maybe just reflect on that, a little.