Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

Oh come on op
Are you a nieve teenager or a grown sensible woman

Isn't it? It's feudal, when women were chattels and the possession of their father, than their husband.

Tbf, OP, I know two women who met their husbands in much the same way you have - both men were working in hospitality and met when they were on holiday in Turkey. They've both been married for coming up to 30 years and have adult children.

One of them had a degree obtained in Turkey but couldn't work for a UK company in a professional capacity because his degree wasn't recognised here so that might he something to bear in mind.

But I would caution anyone against considering their relationship a success story after only 3 years. A three year relationship which was conducted long distance for some time and has resulted in marriage and 3 children still isn't a success story. It's still very early days and very quickly done.

I hope it works out for you but you're not really there yet to be claiming it worked out for you.

A warning?

WTAF. Try considerably harder next time, OP.

its not attention seeking
it is a warning to posters to behave better

It’s because he’s Turkish. Were he Norwegian or French, people would be telling the OP to go for it.

Are you okay?

And if your husband said no? You were willing for your daughter to miss out on love and marriage and a life together? Why does you husband get to make that decision? I assume you daughter is an adult of sound mind? What a ridiculous concept

This.

I don't really believe the thread tbh, but a lot of people fell over themselves to spout off all their pet prejudices about Turkey, Islam, furriners....

They are now feeling tricked? Tricked into being a bigot, lol?

Sure.

Very surprised, but incredibly heartened at the update. Good for you OP and well done!
Sometimes you have to take a calculated risk and yours paid off in spades :-)

To all the racists on this thread, a colleague of mine (Germany, female) went to Bulgaria on holiday when she was 16 and Bulgaria was still behind the iron curtain.
She met someone, they fell in love and, although it was VERY difficult at the time, her family supported her in getting him to Germany.
They have been very happily married for over 40 years.

Don't rise to the bait, guys. This isn't Yahoo Answers (RIP).

This 100% !!

OP could’ve posted this in AMA, that would’ve actually made a good thread. (The honest story, I mean. Not the weird uno reverse 😂)

Those are excellent points, @CatHealy .
That would definitely have been better.

Same !

Exactly. She’s also, in her blinkered vision, accused EVERYONE who doesn’t agree with her posting this scam on here as thinking the same, that we’re all racists and narrow minded.

She’s accused me of being one and I want the proof.

Happy to share any answers you'd like scrutinised. Ask away....

No. It showed that he thought control of your daughter's future was not with her, or even you, but the patriarch.

You went to all that trouble just to catch people out by writing an original post that suggested that there were possible red flags to going doolally over a perfect stranger and fantasising a future with him. Then coming down hard on people who took the bait and flagged up that you were putting yourself in a vulnerable position, which you would have been if the op as written was true.

If you had really written this in real time, as it happened, I doubt you would be revealing that you thought there would be a future in it because that would be total madness and you would know that. You might fantasise about that (many women do fantasise about weddings etc after meeting someone promising - it's natural to do that) but you would probably keep it to yourself. You would only have turned to Mumsnet if you suspected there were red flags. You got the responses that you anticipated because your op was written to solicit that.

This post would have been more honest if you had just shared your good fortune from the off and told us how happy you are and that relationships that start this way can sometimes work out, and that you were posting because you wanted to counter the usual narrative about the perils of "holiday romances."

Really? I'm not the sharpest tool, granted. But went out with a German guy I met in Antalya for about three years. Best three years of my life. Only broke up because of my habit of trolling the interwebs - in my bikini- in pursuit of racist responses. Heinze proposed. Gave me 57 varieties of ring. True fact dat.

Good idea.

Please be careful. Have you not seen many TV programmes and media reports about women who've gone this route before and it doesn't end well. They're either duped out of money, jilted or used as means to get UK visa. Sorry to be so harsh but it's better to know about this especially as you've just come out of long term relationship. Your dad is right