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polkadothorse · 29/08/2025 21:52

You might get a Take a Break story out of it.

Digdongdoo · 29/08/2025 21:52

theoneortwo · 29/08/2025 21:50

@meganorksI get what you mean.

I can’t really put my finger on why I felt like I needed to get to know him when I saw him. It was just an instant gut feeling and attraction, but I’m not naive to the fact that problems can and do occur in situations like this.

Ive seen plenty of horror stories, but also seen first hand plenty of lovely happily ever after.

I am not skipping ahead to that - in this situation - whatsoever but I’m just curious as to how and why people come up with the responses that they do. Some are pro and some are so heavily against and this is why I was curious ☺️

There is no right or wrong answer to this in my opinion, I am just asking for peoples thoughts. I’m going to sleep on it and decide tomorrow.

You just fancy him. Which is fine but you need to chill out.

BatchCookBabe · 29/08/2025 21:52

Neemie · 29/08/2025 21:50

So long as you are doing it just for fun then it is fine. Just bear in mind that it is very common for Turkish men to target women from the UK. I’m sure they aren’t adverse to the free sex but I think the main motivation is money and visas.

This. ^

A pp talked about 'soooo many stereotypes,' but the thing is, stereotypes all come from somewhere, and for good reason.

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/08/2025 21:52

Did we ever hear again from the woman who was going to send money to a bloke she met in Tunisia?

Bunny44 · 29/08/2025 21:51

theoneortwo · 29/08/2025 21:50

@meganorksI get what you mean.

I can’t really put my finger on why I felt like I needed to get to know him when I saw him. It was just an instant gut feeling and attraction, but I’m not naive to the fact that problems can and do occur in situations like this.

Ive seen plenty of horror stories, but also seen first hand plenty of lovely happily ever after.

I am not skipping ahead to that - in this situation - whatsoever but I’m just curious as to how and why people come up with the responses that they do. Some are pro and some are so heavily against and this is why I was curious ☺️

There is no right or wrong answer to this in my opinion, I am just asking for peoples thoughts. I’m going to sleep on it and decide tomorrow.

I felt like that with my ex too. Turned out he has played a significant role in my life but not the one I had in mind!

My ex seemed so sweet and innocent but he was actually a narcissist. I literally couldn't have known.

polkadothorse · 29/08/2025 21:51

Is his name Mustapha Passport?

B1anche · 29/08/2025 21:51

theoneortwo · 29/08/2025 21:35

Thanks all for your comments so far! Really helpful :)

I am going to think about it overnight and let him know tomorrow.

Just out of interest, as this is all new to me… is there ever a time things like this COULD work out and become something serious? has anybody ever had this experience? All I seem to be seeing is that I shouldn’t trust him and he could have multiple other girls on the scene etc.

Again, not doubting this could be the case so I’m not disagreeing, but just curious.

But you also said "I’ve got friends that have met the love of their lived abroad, married with children and lovely happy lives - so I know it CAN happen."

So why are you asking us if it could work out when you have previously said that you have friends who have had successful relationships in these circumstances? 🤷‍♀️

Froggy623 · 29/08/2025 21:51

OP do it for the plot!
Life’s too short. Just stay level headed.

Neemie · 29/08/2025 21:50

So long as you are doing it just for fun then it is fine. Just bear in mind that it is very common for Turkish men to target women from the UK. I’m sure they aren’t adverse to the free sex but I think the main motivation is money and visas.

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theoneortwo · 29/08/2025 21:50

@meganorksI get what you mean.

I can’t really put my finger on why I felt like I needed to get to know him when I saw him. It was just an instant gut feeling and attraction, but I’m not naive to the fact that problems can and do occur in situations like this.

Ive seen plenty of horror stories, but also seen first hand plenty of lovely happily ever after.

I am not skipping ahead to that - in this situation - whatsoever but I’m just curious as to how and why people come up with the responses that they do. Some are pro and some are so heavily against and this is why I was curious ☺️

There is no right or wrong answer to this in my opinion, I am just asking for peoples thoughts. I’m going to sleep on it and decide tomorrow.

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Toddlerteaplease · 29/08/2025 21:50

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 29/08/2025 21:20

I don't want to derail this thread but there's nothing charming about a guy asking your parents for permission to take you out

I agree it would give me the ick. You are not a child being asked out to play. 🤮 He’s not the love of your life. You’ve met him once.

Bunny44 · 29/08/2025 21:50

theoneortwo · 29/08/2025 21:11

And I know they say ‘people come along when you least expect it’ but I never ever thought this would happen to me.

im 29, British, recently I came out of a long term relationship and I am currently on holiday with my family.

I’ve met a lovely Turkish man whilst here. Completely unexpectedly, he was working on one of the tours we went on 4 days ago.

I know it sounds silly and cliche, but as soon as I saw him it’s like I just knew I needed to get to know him. We didn’t speak much on the trip itself since he was obviously busy working - but after when he was showing us the photos he’d taken, we swapped numbers and have been chatting ever since.

He has asked to take me for dinner tomorrow evening (locally in the resort town we are staying in) my mum is saying go for it, but my dad seems to have reservations and is telling me not to be so stupid and naive..

This man hasn’t shown me any red flags or given me reason to distrust him.

Im kind of in the mindset that I’m here on holiday, it’s probably not going to progress.. so let’s see what happens?

has anybody else ever been in this situation, meeting a guy abroad / getting to know somebody from a different country?

I know there are huge complex loopholes and issues IF we did get to know each other more and develop a relationship - due to distance etc.

would love to know thoughts please, as I’m really in two minds.

Thank you ☺️

Yes I met a guy in Latin America..we stayed in touch and he promised me the world and that he wanted to get married, have kids etc. we begun a long distance relationship and then he came with me to the UK. Found out he had cheated on me with his ex at the same time that I found out I was pregnant. He hated the UK anyway and didn't adapt. He went back to her. They got married...

My little boy is lovely but not what I had envisaged! Thing is he did have economic motivations.

I know many better stories but just letting you know mine. I'd say just don't rush into anything and actions speak far louder than words.

BatchCookBabe · 29/08/2025 21:50

Lksjoan · 29/08/2025 21:49

So many stereotypes on this thread.
My friend met a Turkish man on holiday 30 years ago. They got married, had two children and now live happily together spending time between the UK and Turkey, as they are both retired. He is a decent, hard working man who had no agenda other than falling for my friend.

Well, that 1 in a thousand is bound to appear now and again.

BatchCookBabe · 29/08/2025 21:49

theoneortwo · 29/08/2025 21:35

Thanks all for your comments so far! Really helpful :)

I am going to think about it overnight and let him know tomorrow.

Just out of interest, as this is all new to me… is there ever a time things like this COULD work out and become something serious? has anybody ever had this experience? All I seem to be seeing is that I shouldn’t trust him and he could have multiple other girls on the scene etc.

Again, not doubting this could be the case so I’m not disagreeing, but just curious.

99.99% chance he will scam you/use you. You can't really think it's real love? Get your head out of the clouds!

Lksjoan · 29/08/2025 21:49

So many stereotypes on this thread.
My friend met a Turkish man on holiday 30 years ago. They got married, had two children and now live happily together spending time between the UK and Turkey, as they are both retired. He is a decent, hard working man who had no agenda other than falling for my friend.

ILoveWhales · 29/08/2025 21:49

Just like my friend who had a bloke in turkey hit on her when she was with me

Luckily she saw through it

Harriethulas · 29/08/2025 21:48

He’ll do this weekly with the tourists so if you’re happy to be the next in his long line of girls then crack on, and practice safe sex!

CherrieTomaties · 29/08/2025 21:48

Some strange comments on here.

It’s mainly middle aged and elderly ladies that are more at risk of the love-rat holiday romance scams for money and a passport.

@theoneortwo if you want to go for dinner with him, then go for dinner! Just make sure you’re safe and meet him in a well-lit busy area. Don’t get in transport with him alone. You’re 29, not 9, you can make your own decisions.

meganorks · 29/08/2025 21:46

theoneortwo · 29/08/2025 21:37

I’ve not at all said that I’m considering anything! I’ve said above I’ve not even said yes to dinner yet..

I am just genuinely interested in the stories and experiences that others have had. That’s all.

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You might not have said yes to dinner, but you are on here talking about complexities of long distance/cross cultural relationships, but you know people's it's worked for etc. etc. Saying as soon as you saw him you knew you had to get to know him etc. That's what I mean by it sounds like you've lost your head.

If it was me and I was single and liked him I'd probably go for dinner, maybe have a fling and leave it at that. But you aren't interested in a fling, so.....?

Danfromdownunder · 29/08/2025 21:46

I married a guy on a tourist visa who was in my home country - 28 years ago. Still happily married so it does happen.

CNDflag · 29/08/2025 21:46

Go for it! Not as if this kind of thing happens all the time..what could possibly go wrong..?

ArtesianWater · 29/08/2025 21:45

I cannot imagine running my potential holidays shags past my mum and dad, however.

Was also my first thought!

whitesheepie · 29/08/2025 21:44

You haven’t told us why you like him yet. You said as soon as you saw him you knew you needed to get to know him. What about him made you think so?

I agree with others who say be careful with money.

Lksjoan · 29/08/2025 21:44

Iamfree · 29/08/2025 21:14

He wants a British passport or a shag, or if it continues he will turn into a religious mysoginistic pig. Please let us know in the next few months

Wow, do you only think in stereotypes?

MidnightMusing5 · 29/08/2025 21:43

Listen to dad.