Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

Wow, that doesn't sound like a pageful of lazy stereotypes at all.

Emma is still feeling the after effects of whatever glue she was on last night.

Well I'm very jealous of you getting to spend half the year in Turkey. What a beautiful country! I'd love to walk the Lycian Way. What area is your villa in?

My well travelled journalist friend has encountered the classic charming Turkish man many times... but oh my - tell them that you're still on good terms with an ex and you might see another side to them. Plenty of travel blogs with stories to support this. My friend, being an ardent single independent woman of means said the relentless attention was wearing.

https://pinkpangea.com/2014/08/three-truths-typical-turkish-men/
https://turkishtravelblog.com/turkish-men-holiday-romance/
https://theartoflivinginturkey.com/men-in-turkey/

I'm glad it worked out well for you, OP. Has Emma been back to apologise...?

They will never ever be let into the EU.

Op must surely know why.

You’re right, they are candidates to be in the EU. I got confused as they are in NATO (which I know are totally different things 🤣)

Generalising.

I would LOVE to get answers to these. It would make it all a lot more relatable and so interesting to hear.

If it really did work out for you and your newly baked family you must be living a really interesting life with a very interesting and rather unusual cultural mix.

You must be very open minded as a person and intelligent too and and open minded to learn about Kurdish culture.

I presume you have taken a Turkish language course and your husband is teaching you Kurdish. Your dc is bilingual, am I right?

When such a contrasting mix of cultures works out as it has in OP's case, it can be very enriching indeed.

The religion aspect would be super interesting.

I presume @theoneortwo knows all about Alevism? You know you owe it to your husband to enable his religious communal traditions, which will run very, very deep in his culture? Have you had experience of this?

Are you willing for a potential son to have a circumcision, publicly in Turkey? He'll be paraded up and down the streets, before his genital surgery, you must have seen many of these rituals when visiting Turkey?

I would love to know, did you got married in England or Turkey? What was it like??

Such an interesting experience when it works out. Please share some of your insights OP.

Yes. Isn't he? What a drama, eh? Everyone who doesn't think a holiday romance possibly doesn't have longevity is a racist now. Big wows from me.

What was your intention?

by the way, you accused me of being a racist like ‘everyone’ else. Proof?

They are just a bit worried for the OP as you read so many stories. I'm sure they hope he is genuine and it works out.

In a strange way, op has set herself up as the racist one because of the assumptions she makes about how people would react to the thread. And the way in which the thread is set up to elicit those exact responses (even if OP didn't intend this it is incredibly revealing).

And what's worse is that people paint it as the most romantic and honourable thing .

You should stop accusing people here of racism and narrow mindness. You wrote it purposely to sound vulnerable and as if it is typical holiday romance, possibly scam.

I think so too.

To be fair, romance holiday scammers are not usually Norwegian, or French. Unless you have other evidence?

Still waiting for the proof you have of me being a racist.

I'm British Turkish...it would have been meant as a thoughtful and respectful gesture. Turkish people generally have a lot of respect for parents and elders.

Look have fun, take it slowly and don't take everything he says at face value. I know we shouldn't generalise/stereotype but I will anyway. In my experience (ive never dated a turkish man myself) turkish men are prone to being jealous, possessive, demanding, be mummy's boys and some won't have the same level of respect for English women as they do for turkish women. On the plus side, they can be very romantic, attentive, affectionate, chivalrous, great with kids and IF serious about you....loyal. Also they are more likely to favour traditional gender roles (ie you cook and clean, he pays for everything and lifts heavy things). On that note, my advice is definitely let him pay for everything on any date...its expected and he'll prefer it (unless he is trying to scam you.)

Just have fun on your date but keep your wits about you. If he starts declaring true love early doors (another turkish man trait) then be cool and cynical otherwise if you start swooning he could well take advantage. If you are more reserved then his true feelings will emerge I.e. he'll move on to someone else or he'll remain interested if he really likes you.

UPDATE...just seen the plot twist...brilliant OP! Really pleased to hear it worked out. Very interesting to see all the knee jerk reactions on here and hopefully it'll make people think. Although some people are choosing to still be cynical...perhaps to justify their initial response.

Sounds like a lovely life you've made together, very happy for you.

Was I right about any of those character traits by the way?!

It would be another lady for him : next week ! Don't bother !

there was never any distress

I think a fiction AMA might be quite challenging for the gentleman who started this thread though.

No, deluded OP is riding high on some kind of writing flop.