Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

Turkish men have been targeting British women for decades. I remember going abroad with the girls when I was 18 and a lot of the Turkish men were disgusting. Older men saying they had a nice Turkish boy for us to f*ck, being followed down the road and harassed by a group of men if we politely declined their advances, being groped, drink spiking in clubs was rife.

By all means enjoy your holiday romance but don't be duped into thinking you're the first or the love of his life.

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Listen to your dad! I have a niece who’s 11 years younger then you who’s wise to what men in turkey and ME can be like (through her job) . they’re young, good looking , clean, wear nice clothes, flatter you & spend money on you. but it’s all a … . Many literally see us white British lady’s as a passport to Uk

why at nearly 30 are you not aware of what my 18 yr old niece knows? If you was a youngster i
would feel sorry for you. do some research!

Just go for dinner, have a drink, have a snog, and wave hom goodbye when you go home. Nothing wrong with a little holiday romance, but don't fall into the trap of thinking it's the great love of your life.

My mate was you. She kept going back out to spend time with him, was never off the phone with him. She married him a year after the holiday romance and brought him to the UK where he promptly refused to work. He expected to claim benefits, be a kept man who could go out wherever and whenever he wanted, drink heavily and finally he would go on to beat her.

She is a teacher. Educated intelligent woman. Took her years to divorce him and he fleeced her of every penny he could in the meantime, even locking her out her own home at one point.

She lost most of her friends because she refused to listen to anyone who was worried for her. None of us were invited to the "intimate" wedding. And she hid all the problems for a long time.

Don't do it. Have a laugh and a shag if that's what you want, but leave him there and block him on your phone when you go home, because the love bombing will continue.

You do realise you won’t even be the first he’s asked out this week. They can be very charming.

when you say, “I didn’t think this could happen to me” it sounds like you already have a huge dream of this being the love of your life. In reality it’s a Turkish tour guide who will be schmoozing the ladies day in, day out.

please don’t be so naive.

He will be over 90% of the population are.

I have had a holiday fling or two. But I knew that's what they were.

You're asking questions about it going further and that's concerning. Very concerning.

Then what's the problem ? You've found your new soulmate ✨

But on a realistic level - use condoms (pills ect. not enough as doesn't protect from STDs) don't stray into any dangerous areas or places you can't safely get back from & prepare to never see each other again if it goes tits up.

He asked the permission of your parents? What?? Come on OP.

Just how daft are you?

Multiple people are telling you no and telling you why but you’re already halfway up the aisle before the first date??

just go with an mind, enjoy yourself and don't rush into anything.

I've had such a passionate relationship with someone abroad, it didn't work out but no regrets.
I know a small minority of people who meet abroad and it works out, so it does happen.

Christ a lot of people on this thread could do with a good shag.

Go OP. Nothing wrong with someone taking you dinner. Some people's expectations and views on men are so screwed. I hope all these people berating the guy dont have sons. Not every guy is looking for a visa / money / a shag / is married. Sometimes some people just like to shoot their shot.

Go for it OP, just keep your wits about you!

Or that you’re just a feeble woman with no autonomy?!?! Ew

If you want a relationship, don't go for dinner.
I met an female ambulance driver who was telling me about her Turkish boyfriend over there. Started like you OP.

She said he never wants to come here. Instead, she takes stuff over to him that can't be bought there, but not money. Oh and she stays with his family, so they get gifts too.
She showed me him on her phone, he was ridiculously good looking. So what she was doing was working all hours until she had the fare and money for the gifts and off she'd go, until the next cycle.
She was basically working to repeat that cycle. Two or three women doing that and he'd be well supplied.

No way focus on your family and listen to your dad.

Yes but some countries many people do really want to move abroad especially if they're not very well off. Turkey is one of them from what I know..I didn't underestimate this part with my ex, but he was very convincing in getting me to believe he was genuine.

Prob nothing wrong in going out for dinner but definitely be suspicious if he starts saying he wants to move to the UK quickly to be with you.

Theres no harm in going for dinner, i wouldn’t expect it to progress further but and it’s a big but 2 of my closest friends are married to men they met on foreign holidays when we were younger.
One to a Spanish guy and she lives over there.
One to a Turkish guy who moved over here.
Both of these friends have been happily married for more than 25 years so in my small group of friends the odds of it working are higher than it not.

@theoneortwo honestly have fun but don't bother keeping in touch. Our immigration system is horrible to go through. I met my DH before the current spouse visa rules came in (having to earn 29,000 etc,_,but have seen so many couples completely fucked over by them.

Is he Muslim? What’s your religion?

What if she wants to sleep with him??

OP You do sound like you'd like something to come from this. If so his job is half done already.