Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

Don't be so silly he doesn't look at u that way!!. He's just gonna use u and ur going to be heartbroken 💔 again 💔. Sos but that's iss the truth of this matter!!. Dad is right!!. After ur holiday block his number and delete him from ur life take u time do what u want but not with this guy.. I know a woman has split from her hubby she's petrified that he will take the kids and off he goes to Algeria no chance after that as he has his rights under his religion.

Only read OP's posts.

Go for it. You'll hopefully have a relaxed , fun meal getting to know someone new.
You sound sensible and capable of extracting yourself from the dinner if it doesn't go well. The time to be wary is if it goes really well and you start to lose your head a bit.
Your parents will be up the road and easily contactable.

All of these Turkish men are like this

What are you interested in? I agree with PP that you sound confused.

Holiday romances can be fun.

It's nice to go out to dinner, flirt and enjoy the company of someone you find attractive, walk on the beach in the moonlight etc. So as far as that goes, why not?

But bear in mind he may very well do it a lot with lots of tourists, and may or may not have a "proper" partner there as well.

Don't get attached, don't over think it.
Assume he does do it a lot, so if you did end up in bed, make sure you have condoms and make sure he's using them. And that you're both relatively sober if you do.

Have a lovely week, enjoy the memories, then come home and get on with normal life.
It's unlikely to last longer than the holiday, and even if by some fluke it did, you've got tons of time to figure that out later.

Oh dear.

I’ve been to Turkey several times. I’ve seen British women get off with a Turk. It never ends well. They want to marry you and live in England.

I would say enjoy your experience and his company just on your holiday, no reason not to - but honestly, be wary, and nothing more.

Yes, they are all so handsome and charming they blow you away with their looks, their personalities…..
I know and have met hundreds of Turkish men, have Turkish friends of all ages, ranging from young to old, many of them are so lovely, many outright ask to befriend me on Facebook…

(It’s so funny, except I haven’t mentioned yet that I’m actually pushing 70…) 😁🤣

I know a number of English women who have married Turkish men, some who have sold their UK homes and used savings - to fund a Turkish family and then find themselves discarded. The Turkish husbands I know haven’t been permitted visas to leave or to visit their wives when in UK.

Some English ladies are dumped but only after liquidating their UK homes and savings to fund a boyfriends business in Turkey (so he can support his children and Turkish wife on the proceeds)

Have fun, enjoy your holiday and good company - while you are there.

Charming.

They always do that.

Make sure he has condoms and uses them.

It’s not about that. She mentioned deeper/long term stuff then that if you bothered to read the post properly. 🙄

I wouldn’t. The whole thing will be like having a stone in your shoe after about 2 days

If you know where you are going keep safe that way by your parents knowing as we would here if we were going on a date we would let our friends or somebody know where we are to be safe.
Otherwise enjoy going out for dinner ignore the cynics.

He will have a new one every week.

Hell no

Everyone is completely overthinking it.

You're on holiday. He's an attractive guy. He invited you to dinner. It's just food and conversation, could become more if you both fancy it. As long as you stay safe, what's there to think about? What would you do otherwise, watch tv in your hotel room? It's exactly the same as if you met someone in the UK.

I've been to dinners/ lunches/ drinks in many countries with so many guys I can't even count. Granted, a lot of it was for work, but also a lot of it for leisure, and never once regretted saying yes to good food and good company.

Just no need to think this will become a LTR, weddings, visas, whatever. Would you think about it this deeply if a nice guy in the UK would ask you for dinner, and start planning a wedding before first date?

You're 29, just go, have fun, live your life. You'll only think about the chances you didn't take.

Sending love from Buenos Aires, and yes, dinner with a gorgeous guy is on tonight's agenda.

Sounds like friend

She actually ended friendships when people warned her about him

The marriage didn’t last the reception

Oh. That old chestnut.

I wouldn't jump to the conclusions some have that he's after money and visas. But I would assume he's probably does a good job and charming the pants off tourists.... Go along with it if you like. But don't end up getting sweet-talked into something bigger.

I'll give you two stories of friends.

1 . Divorced friend met and fell for a lovely Turkish man. He was charming, good looking. She flew out a few times all was wonderful.

He then flew in to stay at her home. Things went horribly wrong. He was bossy, critical of her clothing, make up, sluttish apparently. He strutted around like he owned the place. Expecting to be waited on. She had to tell him to catch a flight home.

1. Friend met a handsome tour guide boat tours. He wooed her, she kept flying out fell deeply in love. He said he was single. He then persuaded her to buy an apartment for her visits which she did, he said it was a good investment. She decided to surprise him. Arrived at her apartment to find Turkish wife and children in situ. That ended badly.

1. Friends got married and honeymooned in Turkey both mid fifties. Became friendly with a hotel receptionist who made sure they had a wonderful time. She was invited to stay with them if she ever wanted to.

A short time later she turned up on their doorstep, had run away from an abusive ex. They invited her to stay and would arrange a visa. She was 25. A couple of months later the marriage was over, the young woman got the house and the husband.

Is that enough for you @theoneortwo

I had a friend who basically had the same story as you.
she had dinner with him, then kept flying out to see him, they got married quickly, it had fallen apart before she had even landed back home. No exaggeration.

It’s not got legs, just don’t even bother wasting time on the dinner.

There is a strong possibility he sleeps with many, many women... if you are okay with that and do want a holiday fling then crack on.
The possibility of this man being the most wonderful, future partner is so low it's probably close to impossible.

You’ll end up as a story in Take a break

My cousin met her now DH on holiday in Greece, but he was a UK national. He was from a different part of the UK and she moved to his home town.

Yes it can end well, but more often than not it doesnt.

I would listen to your father.

Look at it this way, if he is a such a catch, how is he single? I have friends who do or have worked in the travel industry in various ways. They all say the same, that anyone in a tourist based job (rep, guide, bar tender etc) will be on the cop as its like shooting fish in a barrel. You will, as a pp said, probably be one of many and next week it will be another one, who just got off the plane you leave on.

Yes I am cynical, but at my age I have seen far more of the darker side of life to be anything but!

ETA....forgot to say "how is he single? Do you even know if he IS single?"