Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

But if he asked your Dad's permission, and your Dad said no, isn't that the end of that? 🤔

You've surely searched Kurds on your phone by now.

The naïveté is off the scale.

I married a foreigner and married a Brit but as a Canadian it was hardly for a visa.

It was hard, long, expensive and culturally shocking as I was from an English speaking commonwealth country.

You are letting things run away with you. Itf it’s for a bit of fun then absolutely fine. Anything else he is using you. Seriously. He will do everything right for a long time and when you have fallen hook line and sinker and he has reeled you in that is when his true colours will show. You need to understand that day one.

Why go to dinner to come to nothing? Enjoy the holiday with your family.

I would go for dinner with him, why not? It's unlikely to lead to anything long term but there's nothing wrong with having some fun on holiday!

I had a holiday romance when I was 17 on holiday in Spain. We wrote to each other for months and he came to visit me in England. Unfortunately, once he came here, I realised I didn't really fancy him anymore and had to put on a brave face for the rest of the visit - awkward! Once he left, I let it fizzle out after a few more letters. But I had a great time with him on holiday and have fond memories!

Have you met any men before??

My friend is married to someone she met on holiday in Turkey like this 25 years ago. He wasn't interested in a passport - they live in Turkey - but the culture difference is way bigger than you could possibly imagine. They have lots of friends also in cross-cultural marriages (very few want passports btw - that's just what you hear in the Daily Mail) and all are 'difficult' marriages.

Don't go for dinner.

Tour guide... yeah I met lots when I was travelling in my early 20s, the only ones who didn't have something with someone on the tours was the 2 female guides and one that was in his late 40s and old enough to be our dad! Don't be silly, he literally does this every week, probably twice a week! "Omg you're so special and beautiful to me..." 🤣 come on now.

Kindly op, you are just one of many female tourists he will have met and invited to dinner. What do you think he was doing before you came along? Do you seriously think you’re the only woman that he has done this to?

And what about all the millions of couples where the tourist got scammed or used for a British passport?

If you’re ’not at all into him’ then why are you even writing this thread whilst being ‘curious’ and then running to his defence every time posters try to warn you? As a pp has said, it’s too early for him to be displaying red flags, hence why you can’t see them! The one very big red flag however is that he’s interested in tourists! He won’t show any red flags just yet and may not do for many months or even years. You sound rather naive.

I say go for dinner with him but with your eyes wide open!
be cautious of red flags and don’t fall for any sob stories etc…
if you are genuinely curious then go and see what happens, you have nothing to loose but he potentially has a lot to gain from you so keep your guard up at all times.

Don’t you think you’re jumping the gun? Hes asked you on a first date, not asked to move to the UK or for your hand in marriage!

Go on the date, have fun, do whatever you fancy, but obviously realise the odds are this will be a short term fling. Holiday flings are great!

Seriously, just shag him (safely) and delete his number before you get on the plane. It'll be a happy memory for life.

If they love each other and want to be together, she could move to Morocco?

Don't do it op!

Can there not be a middle ground? I'd be cautious and appreciate that commenters are concerned for OP (though some of you are being patronising and frankly, a little rude), but she's probably not going to end up in Take A Break magazine.

I had an Asian guy fall in love with me on a train once. And another propose marriage to me 10 minutes into his taxi ride to the hotel. It's amazing how fast you can fall in love with a stranger when there's the possibility of British citizenship.

On the flip side, my sister-in-law floated marriage to my brother 2 weeks after he met her on a Sri Lanken work trip. He said yes! They've been married for 7 years and seem pretty happy, have a kid etc. So who knows!! Just take great care, and don't lose your head, that's all.

Not all Kurdish are Muslim by the way......

the fact you are thinking about the future with a man you have not even been on a date with - considering long-term complications between countries etc - suggests you are not ready after your last relationship to make any rash decisions.

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You are reading into this too much OP.
You will be going home in a few days

I know. I dint get how OP does not know this. She’s nearly 30 so not like she’s a youngster 🙄

That's exactly what I thought, too.

Complete with a "Me Now" picture of the OP looking sad outside her house.

you’re naive for a nearly 30 year old adult. You’re not a teen or even a young adult! Do you not get that he is doing his best to flatter you and your parents? His at the honeymoon stage. Yes It comes in stages and when his made you his he will show you the final stage which is his true colors. His likely to be Muslim so if you married him he’s expect you to convert, demand you wear hijab and stay indoors a lot. If you have kids they will be raised in his falth.

listen to your dad and others on here 👍👍👍

He could be buttering you up to sleep with you, get you pregnant & come over to the UK. It's a cliche, once he's here and got his passport, he'll dump you. A similar situation happened to a friend of mine when she went on holiday to Egypt. It didn't end well, the guy turned out to be a sexist, controlling prick. Block his number and on all socials and avoid him like the plague.

British women are known by these men as easy so he'll be looking for more than just dinner. One way to find out what kind of guy he is is to ask him if he'd like it if his sister was in the same position as you. I bet you he wouldn't like it if a guy approached his female relative which shows he sees you as lesser than his female relative.

So are the posters calling the OP immature and daft.

equally as 'charming.'