Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

Yeah… team Dad

Bloody hell op.

How are you nearly 30, been married before and are THIS naiive?!

Of course he's wanting a shag.
Of course he would like to eventually get a visa to the UK.

It's not the same as bumping into a french or Spanish guy for example. They call what he is doing a business. It's a commonly known thing!

I know two people who have married Kurds. One my parents age, one my age. Neither ended well. For the wife that is. Or their kids. 🙄 For the Kurdish husband things probably ended up pretty rosy.

In terms of the kids of these couples. One of the couples I know had a girl. The husband said on them splitting that if they'd had a boy he'd have taken him back "home" with him for family (in other words his mum and/or sisters) to bring up but as it was "just a girl" mum could keep her. Other couple had a boy. Mum worries every time dad takes him home to visit family in Turkey that he won't end up bringing him back to the UK.

Listen to your dad.

Walk away.

Perhaps dip your toe in the dating pool back home after your holiday if you want the excitement of meeting someone attractive and dating them.

This: recently I came out of a long term relationship and I am currently on holiday
Some men are purposefully looking for, and skilled at detecting, women who have been destabilised and may be slightly vulnerable.

omg you are over thinking it so much he’s only asked for one dinner

I do get your concern but what about the millions of couples that met in similar circumstances and made it work?

There really are not millions. Dozens maybe.

My step sister met a Turkish waiter. My step dad was not pleased! However he was genuine. They had a long distance relationship for a bit. He came to England. They married (in Turkey) and had children. They were married for over ten years (divorced now). It was genuine love. He wasn’t stringing her along for sex or a visa. It can happen. I’m not saying this guy is one thing or the other, just that it isn’t necessarily bad news!

Is he a waiter or does he work for a FTSE 100?

He even asked my mum and dad for their permission to take me - which is when my dad said no and mum said yes..

Sorry but what century are you living in?

Woman go missing in foreign countries.

I’d take your parents with you!

Completely agree. He’s probably a very good actor. He may like you enormously but it’s possible he sees future handouts from you, and keeping you emotionally tied to him from overseas. He’ll be doing his own thing, no emotional tie to you. Perhaps has a family already.

Similar happened to a friend with a bloke from Ghana. So awful.

A fellow Brit isn’t likely to be using tourists to get a British passport or to scam them. Yes there are some shit fellow brits if you want to drag ‘nationality’ into it but to say that going to dinner with a fellow Brit is somehow the same when is not even close to the situation you have posted about.
It’s not the nationality per se as people of all nationalities go out to dinner and date etc, but it’s how naive and gullible you seem to be coming across and that you somehow seem to automatically think this guy has genuine intentions. He may well do! But it’s likely you’re just another tourist in a string of many tourists he’s been in contact with and he’s trying his luck either for sex or something else.
Like I said, you won’t be the only tourist he has or has taken an interest in. Wise up!

Say you don't have a British passport
Then see how interested he is

I personally wouldn't risk being alone with a man I didn't know in a foreign country. Maybe I'm too risk averse but if I was meeting someone I didn't know I'd want to know that I can easily access help if needed and be very familiar with the area if I need a quick get away.

Yes I would.

IME no man asks out a woman unless his ultimate goal is getting his leg over. If he can manage that on the first date then jackpot.

I'm team dad and I know what I'm talking about.

Do not go for dinner, this guy's mates will know all about your 'date' the waiters in the restaurant you go to will shoot knowing looks at him (wink wink) and you will be wasting your precious energy and time in somebody else's game.

Leave it well alone.

Enjoy your time with your parents and I'm sure good things e.g. a partner will come your way nearer to home before too long. You are bored now and crave some sizzling excitement but I promise you it will be nothing but. a waste of your time.

It would be completely different if you met a nice and handsome turk in the office as a work mate.

This man and his mates will almost certainly have zero respect for you.

But he’s a tour guide and you’re on a short holiday. It’s completely different to meeting someone at home and going for dinner where there will probably be dates number 2, 3, 4 etc if you get on and potentially have sex.

You’re only there for a week or 2. And he’ll have another tour group arriving tomorrow and be asking one of those out for dinner too.

Go, have fun, have sex, enjoy yourself. But stop romanticising this. Turkish tour guides are charming, sexy, and have their patter down to a tee. Just see this for what it is.

Because you're being invited out on a date by a man who has access to thousands of fresh women on holiday every week. Who is both from and lives in two cultures who have a VERY different attitude towards women than you've been raised in.

You're on holiday in a country where men in the service industry are renowned for seeking gullible / vulnerable / accessible British women to seduce and use for money / access to a British sponsor / a torrid affair whilst married. His passport would be considered "weak".

If you were on holiday in France and met a French chap, or in the USA and met an American, the dynamic would be incredibly different - cultures are more similar, there's no power behind your nationality to drive more nefarious interests in the same way.

It's not only about nationality. It's geography and timing. Of course intentions are different if you both know there's an expiry date. Brits do it too. How many men of any nationality do you really think want just dinner with a woman they know will leave in a couple of days? Be realistic.

That is on his agenda though.
Listen to your Dad.

Just had a quick look at the Love Rats of Marmaris thing on FB....

Woman asks about a guy who works/manages a restaurant and he is quickly identified as a man who is married with a young baby. Her reaction "No that cant be him, he told me his is single"

Are some women REALLY so stupid?!!

I'd say go but keep to busy well lit areas.

Make sure you go halves on the dinner.

Don't pay just because he's a poorly paid tour guide and you've got a purse full of holiday money.

Enjoy it for the one night it is.

Go for dinner and report back here!