Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

Based on his action of asking your parents permission……..quite old school in the traditional scheme of things…….why not follow his ethic, and take your mum along as chaperone? 😂

Boat is boat.

The man hasn't shown you any red flags so far, OP, because you don't know him from Adam. Just watch out for casual, innocent requests for money due to generally being down on luck, and pics of a close relative in hospital. If you just want a fling, take usual precautions and keep an eye on your drink. Good luck.

I thought the point was he's a tour guide in a relatively poor foreign country, who meets women everyday and probably goes out with lots of them and may well have ulterior motives for being friendly. And the advice is be careful.

My colleagues and I were worried sick, when a recently divorced colleague married a Turkish waiter (the second one that she had a relationship with). They are still happily married 2 decades later, with 2 young adult children.
However, I know several horror stories too. Turkey is famous for the men hitting on UK women.
Don't go.

Now invested OP - please keep us updated!

Occupational hazard for him im sure.

What a lot of nasty cynics here.
Go, enjoy yourself, have a bit of fun and see what happens. Take care as you would on any first date

Probably picks up a different girl on every tour, if there's one he fancies. Go for dinner, but realise what you are getting into and it's almost certainly not a fairy tale romance. And be very careful where you go with him he may not be the gentleman you think.

I occasionally think of Carol, a middle aged divorced colleague who met a younger Turkish man on holiday and kept flying back. We lost touch when she took voluntary redundancy to fund an apartment new build in Turkey that was being built by his friends. Last I heard was the apartment had lots of building failures and she was selling her house here to go live there and keep an eye on the build 🙄

I’ve left the business now and don’t have Facebook, so I don’t know how it turned out. I do recall she wouldn’t listen to advice.

Same. The relationship became horrific once they me arrived and he treated her like a punch bag and was not allowed to do anything. Thankfully she managed to escape back to the UK.

I know someone who did this about 12 years ago. Whirlwind romance. Perfect guy. She wasn’t looking, etc… She moved there and married him. He fucked off to Melbourne with all her money and “can’t afford to come back”. He’s been in Melbourne for more than a decade and she’s broke and in some nowhere town by herself, navigating a new language, medical system, etc and trying to fend for herself.

Sounds very weird.
It seems this fellow doesn't believe in your own authority over your own decisions.
Big red flag.

What are his hair and teeth like? 🤔

I’ve warned my friends off British men traveling abroad—generally not serious, will go back home and you’ll never hear from them again, etc plus they’ll probably ditch you before the holiday is even over … I mean some people know what’s up and just have fun anyway but there are lots of hopelessly naive people out there

So out of all the holiday makers this tour guide has led, you are the only woman he has asked out lol. Listen to your Dad on this. Tour guides have easy pickings with women on holiday with lowered inhibitions. The "asking your parents permission" alone, being performative manipulation is a red flag in itself.

I live in Turkey and have seen all of the horror stories over and over again. To put it bluntly they are (in 95% of cases) looking for a quick shag or taking you to dinner to find out how much money you have. You can’t blame them - what red blooded male wouldn’t want to shag pretty foreign tourists they will never see again. I have several English friends married to Turks and Kurds and every single one of them has put up the money to open a bar or restaurant with their husbands. One couple are just getting divorced and she is losing everything.
Another night I was in a bar and an English girl came in looking for help. She had moved in with her boyfriend and his family. They treated her like a slave and took her passport. The boyfriend then came to the bar, snatched her phone and was screaming at her. I intervened but the bar owner said to leave it because that is how Turkish men are allowed to treat their women.
So my advice would be to- go to dinner, let him pay, enjoy your evening, even have a cheeky snog. But DO NOT tell him how much you earn, whether you own a house etc. And enjoy the rest of your holiday.

actually, don’t have a fling with him. You’ll be one of many, and that might not be a good feeling for you.
Also, you say you just knew you had to get to know him more.. this is because I imagine he was flirting with you. Flirting can be very subtle - a lowering of eyes then a tiny extra glance, a tiny crinkling of the eyes, a miniscule hint of an intensive look. Obviously it’s designed to make you feel you’re attractive to him. I know a chap who prides himself on doing this.
also well done for doing extra research by posting on here - but that doubt? That’s because something in you has picked up on something off even if you don’t consciously know what!
Whatever you decide, be happy and do keep us posted!

id listen to your dad, or, if you go, be very wary. It’s not rascism, it’s being aware that you know nothing about him, or his friends, family standing in the community etc.
I agree with the pp that said asking your parents is a red flag. It sounds like a deliberate charm offensive.
obviuosly let parents know where you are, and when you’ll be getting home. Ideally don’t get in a car.ideally don’t go somewhere remote.
i say all this as I had a friendly coffee with a chap - broad daylight, lots of people. I woke up briefly to find him doing things to me and woke up properly 1 or 2 days later in a skanky room miles from anywhere. I’m not saying this will happen , he is obviously known to the tour guide company and the hotel, but it does sound like he’s after the challenge of winning you over. He has all the local knowledge, is on his home turf etc, you know nothing about anything to do with him, you don’t speak the language.
i think be sensible, have a fling but know it’s just that. Oh and he will definitely try and charm his way into your pants.

Is his name Costas OP?

Forget it. I expect he does this often and you don’t want to get involved in a long distance romance with someone in a different country. This is a complete non-starter.

It’s one dinner, no harm in going if your are realistic about it being just a dinner and bit of fun.

the concerning thing is that you jumped straight from the idea of what dinner to questions are could it be a relationship/ long term thinking. If this is what you wanting then it’s better not to go.

No harm in just dinner ( be safe ).
But come on , you’ve got ‘huge complex loopholes’ on your mind about long distance relationships.
Get a grip.

Hahahaha

It is quite clear you lack education 😂 unfortunately it means you don't understand that "common sense" and a gaggle of kids means fuck all in terms of being the voice of reason, especially when you clearly take pleasure in bullying someone probably half your age online. Grow up!

I think as long as you understand you will be this week's dinner guest, he will probably have a different one from each tour, in the hope if getting shag, he might have to splash out on a few meals, but I expect he will get one or two during the summer tourist season.