Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

What’s funny?
it’s a thing in turkey and Pakistan also
best not to laugh at things you don’t know about 🙄

This!

Why would there mums care? If anything they might be pleased cause it means there leaving Italian women alone

To be fair OP does sound incredibly naive, and as a single 29 year old on holiday with her parents she is very likely coming across that way to this guy.

I presume because so many women choose to stay in crappy relationships they also chose to ignore red flags and why on earth would he need permission from your parents?

This. It's misogynistic.

It does sound like the stereotypical stories you hear about. BUT no harm going for dinner if you feel safe and parents know where you are. I wouldn’t worry about getting married and visa shit yet! Just enjoy dinner and have fun!

You could move to turkey or his home country jf you hit it off.

We live by the sea in southern Italy. The lads working in the bars, the lifeguards, all the local farm boys, live for summer shags with American tourists. They brag about it openly in the local dialect, and have systems in place to hide it from their mothers. It's a bloody sport here.

Sorry me again. Say no, plenty of blokes in the UK. Statistically this has a poor outcome, enjoy the rest of your holidays

🤣🤣🤣

not for you to say what us what we need. It’s like us telling you what you need.

My friend’s sister in law. Early 30s met a man in Turkey working in a hotel. Fell in love, he moved to the UK to be with her, got married, he disappeared a few months later and she had to hire a private detective to find him to get divorced. She’s a sweet girl and gorgeous too. She was totally blindsided.

Thank you 🥰 I reckon we’d be a dangerous pair of best friends together, and have a great time along the way 😇

In his culture, it’s probably just a normal thing to ask parents. I guess red flag in the sense that he is from a very different culture to you. I was in a multi faith relationship, though I am not particularly religious and my ex picked and choose what parts of his muslim faith to follow. But it definitely caused issues and he was raised in the UK. It can be hard coming from different cultures, and religions, very hard. That said, the muslim man my friend married after meeting him in Tunisia is a muslim, and they’ve not had many issues, but he is even less strict about his religion.

If you go for dinner, just be cautious. Of course everyone will say he is out for one thing and has a different woman every week. Same as what they said about friends Tunisian DH, especially when she supported his visa to come to the UK. It wasn’t an easy process. They’ve done over 20yr now and are genuinely a really happy couple. But afraid that the stereotypes will be what everyone thinks of. Just be careful.

😂😂😂 A potential holiday fling not only discussed with parents, but also introduced to them. My family would rightfully think I lost it and would come to pick me up if that happened.

He asked your mum n dad as no doubt you’d have told them anyway that you were going to go. This way, he looks like a good decent chap for asking their permission. Please spend a day watching scam romance documentaries before you make a decision. Includes scams where people meet on holiday, wife moves over, buys home with proceeds of uk sale home, he’s already divorced, whole family in on everything, she can’t leave / locked indoors, passport taken away. Eventually returned to Glasgow penniless and job less. Thoroughly heart breaking.

That's so wierd op I'm sorry. That'd a red flag already surely, asking for parental permission when it's a 29 year old woman?? Reveals his opinions perhaps on the dynamics of women and parental role/permission needed rather than younhabe your own agency.

Two outcomes really:

Neither of you live in the same country, you don't know eachother beyond pleasantries so why pursue more when there's an end date to your acquaintance? I know you've got out of a relationship so a holiday fling may seem like an esteem boosting thing but really what's the point in spending time with someone you may never see again, and who asked your parents permission to take you out?

And plenty of scam romance documentaries on Netflix.

TBH, @theoneortwo it's the way you are putting so much romantic weight on this 'meeting a bloke on holiday scenario' - it's just way too intense and why people are questioning your maturity levels.

If you just wanted a bit of fun and could treat it like that, I think you would have very different answers on here.

The way you are coming across is a bit Disney princess - true love at the first meeting and all that bollocks.

I wouldn't recommend you going on a date as you don't seem to have the emotional intelligence to recognise this for what it is

This is why you shouldn't go on holiday during ovulation.

Well I'm in Turkey now too, and yesterday two British women in their 30s with 3 babies rocked up to our hotel. The women are wearing headscarves and have the same Turkish father to their kids.
But also someone I know met the love of her life in Turkey and 15 years later have 3 kids.
People are just telling you to be sensible. I went on a jeep safari in Antalya and the single woman was asked for her number by the guide. Go, and keep and open mind if you wish. But highest chance is he just wants a shag

He after a visa listen to your dad and run a mile if you have any thing other then air in your head you should leave well alone

Am I missing something here? You're asking whether you should go to dinner with someone, not commit the entirety of the rest of your days with him. It's not that deep. And the very fact that you've even asked the question suggests you are unsure, so why would you bother?