Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

Emmafuller79 · Yesterday 23:16
Don’t think so sunshine. You’ve fallen for the cliche dinner invite in turkey, have no idea many Turkish men target white British lady’s for 🇬🇧passport, Won’t listen to your dad and act a bit like a lovesick teen.
i been on the planet a lot longer then you sunshine👍, have 3 kids, soon to be a nanna and have all
sorts of experiences in different parts of uk. The only thing I lack is education but so what as educated people don’t always have what I have - a big family and common sense. 👍.
............
What a horribly written, chavvy post. You shouldn't go around calling people 'Sunshine' in that manner, saying "I been...", and the like. The plural of 'lady' is 'ladies' for goodness sake, you don't have to be particularly well educated to know that.

You say you are soon to be a 'nanna'; if you speak like that in real life I wouldn't want you around small children.

The least you can do is proofread what you type before posting.

Turkish men want young girls for a shag or visa. They often have a young wife back in their village. They know that older women have money and will play the long game in order to get it.

When I lived there I saw lots of 60 year old women with 24 year old waiters and lost count of women who were scammed and ended up penniless. They'll tell you you're different from other English women and how beautiful you are. Go if you want to but please don't be fooled.

He asked your parents’ permission so that they see him as a good bloke. Very likely stage act.

Of course you can have a holiday romance, just be careful where you go, ensure it’s local, that someone knows where you, watch your drink, take your phone etc.
No harm enjoying yourself, just take care and don’t drink too much. Have your wits around you, be careful.
He won’t be a strict Muslim if he’s taking you out, it’s simply not allowed. Only Halal dating is. Whether his mum and dad know he dates westerners is another story.

I wouldn’t think of it as anything more than a holiday romance though, if you are likely to get very attached I wouldn’t go as I’d question his motives. I also don’t like many aspects of the Muslim way of life, the way animals are killed -halal, views on homosexuality, not liking dogs. For any relationship to work your views need to align somewhat in my opinion.

I have Muslim friends who aren’t strict and not religious, married to friends, have dogs, also mum friends through DD I’m not racist before anyone clutches those bloody pearls!

Go to dinner but be smart and safe. Have a lovely time and make your own mind up. Beware of love bombing x

I know one. He moved to Yorkshire with his English wife, then left the marriage when the baby was a week old. Never saw him again.

I married one from the ME in my early twenties while living there. He was a chivalrous gent up until the ring was on the finger.

Spent thousands on his spouse visa and once he came over here, the marriage only lasted a couple months. I later found out his previous girlfriends before me were mostly old English or American woman, it’s as clear as day he was only after the passport.

If you have a child with him, he can easily leg it to Turkey with the child and you most likely won’t see your child again if that were to happen. One of my friends is married to a man from a similar country and he travel banned the child. My friend and her child cant leave until the child is 18.

Now I used to work with many Turk men and men from ME countries. Mostly friendly and pleasant but I would never get into a relationship with one again. The religious differences are far too prominent.

My ex wasn't a strict one UNTIL we married. This has happened with all of my friends who also married men from these countries. Most have ended in divorce.

If you want a no strings attached holiday romance then go ahead (and use protection!). Every LDR I have been in I have been cheated on so I would think very carefully about starting one.

“You think I want to make fuck with you, but I don’t want to make fuck with you, fuck is fuck, and boat is boat”

“absolutely bloody charming”

Go Dougie and Jeanette

Op, I think @Emmafuller79 has given a very realistic view. She came on here to help you but you accuse her of having a bee in her bonnet and today being ‘next level’. If you’re hell bent on not listening to sensible advice then just don’t post on here asking for advice. You’ve obviously made your own mind up about this guy regardless and just seem to be getting extremely defensive about him, to the point you’re arguing with posters who have come on here to give you the advice you asked for.
You do seem somewhat very blinkered and naive. I think this guy can sense this from a mile off. Predators are well known for seeking out gullible and naive people and I think he’s spotted you from a mile off.

I really think it’s quite likely he has a wife and kids.

if one person said it it could be bonkers yeah. But quite a few of us are saying same things. I think it’s you who’s bonkers for not listening to us or even bother to looking it up. Google is your friend 👍

I think the heat may have got to you.
Give him a miss, hes after a quick bunk up.
He's probably got more than you on the go as well. Listen to Dad.

Do t be silly, OP. Really.

A accusation is a confession…
feel free to keep your comedy comment’s coming though 🍿🍷

Same, someone I went to school with, got married, had a kid and he damn made sure he got British citizenship. Surprise, literally that week he received it he was gone, left her raising their son. Amazing how their relationship broke down all of a sudden.

I wouldn't touch him with a bargepole. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Asking your parents for permission 🙄 no he isn't being a gentleman, he sees you as a possession owned by your parents, specifically your dad.

😆

True. It is a thing out there. He could have kids also

It’s really not. It happens in stages. But I can’t be bothered to explain it to you as your one of these who doesn’t look stuff up/think
it won’t happen just cause it didn’t happen to you and your 6 friends. 🙄

I would be concerned he is already married.

There's maybe a 2% chance this guy is acting in good faith. Would you get on a plane with those odds?

I know someone who did this. It hasn't ended well. I also knew tons of guys when I was at college from a similar country. They had relationships with local girls but they also had wives back home. One of them told me once.

You sound vulnerable to be taken in because you aren't even questioning it. Are you a bit lonely? If so this is not the answer.

My friend when she was younger met a Turkish waiter. He completely love bombed her, promised her the earth, got her pregnant. She went ahead back to England and waited for him to join her. He never did. A week later he married his fiancée and never spoke to my friend again. She raised the child on her own.

This is not the only story I’ve heard of this from Turkey either. Sorry but have to agree with the others this is such a cliche scenario you would be wise not to engage any further with the bloke. If you meet him can guarantee he’s going to love bomb you.

OP its your turn this week to be woo'd it will be someone else next week..just saying