Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

🤣

British whippet. Haha.

How long is it until he gets his British passport and citizenship?

I wouldn't crow too much yet. Folk are only wary because of past experiences and if this is genuine then I wish you the best, but please do not become financially dependent on this man in a strange country.

There are a lot of cultural differences including religion, women's rights, raising your children, your role in the relationship, his parents, money being allocated to different family members etc.

I have a little experience of these matters as a family member had a negative experience with a Middle Eastern partner. I hope the future is rosy for you, but please take care.

A cultural expectation which is inherently misogynistic.
Declaring it a ‘cultural expectation’ doesn’t negate that fact.

How could you say that?

OP is a beautiful blonde bikini Barbie babe.

She goes to Turkey and meets super sculptured Muslim Ken.

True love conquers all.

Anyone who says this isn't the romance of a century is an unkind and racist troll.

My mums Turkish, BTW. She's 80.

I showed her this post and she was most struck by the OPs lack of culture discernment locally.

She said: "of course the bums on the beach will chase a British whippet on the sand for free drinks. This is not Turkey."

So there you go.

And yet mumsnet have checked it out apparently and re-allowed it despite the OP accusing naysayers as racists.

Makes you wonder….

Agreed.

I’m in my 60s too. My husband and I are atheists but we try to be respectful of all religions. My son in law is a Muslim. The fact that he asked for approval to marry my daughter doesn’t mean that anyone was ‘having the final say’ in whether they got married. He was following his own cultural expectation in asking, and we appreciated him doing that.

You haven’t proved anyone wrong. Your experience was unusual and you were lucky . How about concentrating on your idyllic marriage rather than posting fake news on Mumsnet?

Have you read the news? Run a mile.

Dads are rarely wrong on these things.

I can't believe that you wasted so many people's time with a dishonest post.

I don't believe one word of any of this.

Why wasn’t her approval good enough?

He was seeking your approval when he knew she wanted to marry him? Wasn't her decision good enough?

Exactly LOLOL

Did they not ever discuss marriage if they were so serious after a year? blimey this sounds more and more odd

Turns out he is.

He was seeking your approval when he knew she wanted to marry him? Wasn't her decision good enough?
I'm in my 60s and struggling to work out why someone in this day and age would accept that the men make the decisions on marriage and have the final say.
Are you all from a very conservative religious background?

Haha. I went to Turkey on holiday earlier this year and was asked out by about 4 Turkish guys all in their 20s and 30s.
promised me the world. I’m 49 btw
go for dinner by all means but this is not the love of your life.

Creative writing wannabe mixed up with some self delusion that it’s somehow proved that everyone who is calling it out is a racist.

Sounds to me like it’s dodgy af being so obsessed with racism.

He might be the love of your life but there are a few big things to consider before falling head over heels which always skews judgement. The most likely indicator of a successful marriage is a shared set of values and a similar upbringing. Go on a date with him and find out about these things. If they are wildly different, a marriage involving kids will be full of conflict.
Are you the type of person who can have a good time with someone but be practical in terms of a future or are you the type that lets love blind you? If the latter, I'd steer clear of jumping into anything.

That’s a bit of a leap! 😆😆. I doubt that many people really know their future partner very well when they’ve only been dating for a year or so and don’t live together. He knew her well enough to know that he wanted to marry her; he didn’t know us well enough to know if we would approve.

Ha ha ha ha ha!!

Oh OP….

The OP presented herself as somewhat vulnerable and very naive. She seemed to fall in love with this stranger very quickly. We did not know that this was to draw out attitudes to Turkish/Kurdish men, and not a woman asking for advice about a potential romance scammer.

Exactly.
It not racism to Worn young women about potential, well reported scams.
This diminishes real racism- get a dictionary

Then it sounds like your SIL doesnt really know his wife at all then, neither her character, her wishes or what she really wants out of life.

Bit worrying.

I’m glad things are working out for you OP but I’ve got whiplash from how quickly you’ve got divorced, married, and had kids. I think you’ve been very lucky. But it sounds like you’re happy so good on you.