Can’t stop this affair

Oops! Guess I'm getting deleted... but the OP said to do it!

Of course you can stop it any time but you won’t because you’re loving the attention and you prioritise dick over dignity.

And what a catch he is m. I mean who doesn’t want a lying cheating cunt in their bed for a few hours before they dash home to their poor unsuspecting wife and kids - I mean it’s every girls dream right? Oh wait

If he wanted to leave he would but he doesn’t and he won’t - have some self respect ffs. Given the choice he’ll pick his wife and kids every time - you’re just the gullible convenience shag

Don't you realise that literally every man who has an affair tells the woman that he would leave his wife, if it weren't for XYZ. There's always an excuse. He's treating you both like dirt OP. End it now.

Of course he is fucking awful. He is risking destabilizing the home life of his disabled daughter. He is using his disabled daughter as an excuse to be a lying cheating arsehole and spinning it as a breathing space from his difficult home life. When does the mother of that girl get a break?

He wouldn't leave, even without a disabled daughter. Because he is a lying cheating arsehole. And you have fallen for the lies.

Yes. Do you think he would be sleeping around if he were not avoiding the responsibilities of looking after a disabled child?

You're an escape from reality - so that he does not have to pull his weight (emotionally, physically) at home.

And if he is the sort of person who would shag about anyway, he isn't a good person.

Look at this objectively. What would you say to a good friend if they came to you and said they were in your situation? Or, how would you feel if you were at home looking after a disabled child and found out the person you thought loved you was banging someone in the office?

Come on!

Sorry but 🤣🤣🤣

Besides, we'd probably get deleted if we called you a twat...

Of course he is. Look at what he’s doing behind their backs; do you know how damaging affairs are on children if they find out.

So is your actual ideal outcome to wait until his child dies and its been a respectable amount of time to dump his wife?

You're his bit on the side. He's never leaving his family and he's never going to 'show you off'.

Quite why you've started this thread, I have no idea.

Using a Scottish term .. you're a different and willing open fud
Nothing more nothing less.

You know, you might both be in love. So what? It doesn’t matter. It doesn’t override everything else. It might feel all-consuming and irresistible but it doesn’t mean you have to do anything about it. You have a choice. You can choose not to shag him. Do that.

Fwiw, a friend of a friend has been in your situation for TWENTY years. She is having am extremely lonely retirement.

There was always, and still always, is a reason he can't leave.

Something to mull over.

Can you stop speaking to him and ask that he stays away from the workplace when you are forced to see eachother. Let him know if he doesn’t you’ll have to let the workplace know why you don’t want to work with him.

Is this real or just a goady wind up thread?
The casual dropping in of the severely disabled child just seems like rage bait.

Out of interest, if he didn't want to leave her, but he still wanted to have his cake and eat it, what would he tell you to keep you on the hook?

And also, he can leave his wife even with a disabled child, he just doesn't want to.

He doesn't want to leave his wife because he ll end up screwed financially. He'll have to pay a shed load of maintenance.And probably give his ex wife most of the house because of their child needs.

He could leave her if he wanted to, but he doesn't want to either.

This.

Yeah, you can. You just don't want to enough.

My sister also couldn't stop seeing her affair partner.

She couldn't stop seeing him when her husband found out and threatened her with divorce.

Her husband did divorce her. Now she still can't stop seeing her affair partner now that he won't leave his girlfriend.

So she lost her relationship for him.And he's kept his relationship. I won't tell you how many years it's been.Because it's embarrassing.

Just give it up, block and delete him everywhere. Go and find someone who's single and when you see him, only once a month interact on a purely professional level. You can do all of that, you just don't want to.

Just because you see him at work doesn't mean the affair has to continue. The best way to get over someone I found is to do online dating. You won't necessarily meet someone straightaway and that wouldn't ideal anyway but it does mean there are other men to take your mind off this one. Move on with your life as this makes it much more likely you will meet someone for whom you are number 1 and you can have a normal relationship with

Find a new job, simple.
Oh and have some self respect.

You don't have to be shagging a married man with 2 kids, just because you see him once a month or whatever in work.
Grow up and get some self respect!

His poor wife, you are both behaving disgustingly 😡

Of course you can just end it. And you should. He doesn't love you. You're just more exciting that his wife who is probably overwhelmed with caring responsibilities. He's a twat.