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On holiday and they’ve taken the key and won’t answer their phone

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User8182737484849 · 29/08/2025 12:50

On holiday with a family member. We don’t always see eye to eye, but I thought this trip might be a chance for a bit of a reset.

Today we decided to do different things.

Normally I’ve had the apartment key when we’ve gone out together, but I asked them to pop it in the key safe this time. For whatever reason, they didn’t — and with their phone switched off I can’t get hold of them.

I’m making the best of it with a quiet day to myself, but I can’t help feeling a bit upset. It’s left me feeling quite stuck, literally and figuratively. I can’t leave the apartment! I’d never want to make someone else feel like that.

Any advice on how to handle the rest of the trip without letting this sour everything?

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PiggingBastardPigs · 29/08/2025 14:48

Idontjetwashthefucker · 29/08/2025 14:46

You're the only one mentioning men, there's been absolutely no men involved in this thread

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I mentioned men in a quote in a general context about the whole forum. The post the other poster was quoting was about men on holiday, specific to this thread.

VoltaireMittyDream · 29/08/2025 14:47

SirBasil · 29/08/2025 14:26

You two are clearly far too young to travel without adult supervision

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I was imagining them as spiteful old ladies! This is totally the sort of thing my great aunt Molly would have done to her browbeaten sister when circumstances compelled them to live together in old age.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 29/08/2025 14:46

PiggingBastardPigs · 29/08/2025 14:45

They got their pile of quotes mixed up, lol.

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You're the only one mentioning men, there's been absolutely no men involved in this thread

PiggingBastardPigs · 29/08/2025 14:45

CustardySergeant · 29/08/2025 14:42

What's the relevance of this comment to this thread?

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They got their pile of quotes mixed up, lol.

ItWasntMyFault · 29/08/2025 14:45

EasySqueezy · 29/08/2025 13:36

Seriously I would pack my bags, leave the apartment and go home. Let them return to an empty place and wonder where you are. Then don’t answer your phone.

I would absolutely do this.

There’s a key safe they could have used but made the decision to lock you in instead.

I’d make the decision to go home and leave them to it.

PiggingBastardPigs · 29/08/2025 14:44

wuminty · 29/08/2025 14:42

I think you should go on holiday with the odd couple sisters. A trio of flakes posting would make for a great thread.

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Do you want to come with? 😁

Delphiniumandlupins · 29/08/2025 14:43

Not using the key safe is ridiculous. It's there for days like today, so you don't always have to go out together. Can you get in touch with the apartment owner to get a spare key? Or else just go out for the afternoon/evening and make sure you're out until after they'll be back.

CustardySergeant · 29/08/2025 14:42

Bathingforest · 29/08/2025 14:14

When women will stop fucking go on holidays with men who hate them or they do hate.

What's the relevance of this comment to this thread?

wuminty · 29/08/2025 14:42

PiggingBastardPigs · 29/08/2025 14:40

Yep, men-hating teachers!

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I think you should go on holiday with the odd couple sisters. A trio of flakes posting would make for a great thread.

SingingintheRadiator · 29/08/2025 14:41

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MrsTerryPratchett · 29/08/2025 14:41

@Thefastandthecurious5and OP, you need family therapy or to go non contact. Utter batshittery.

SirBasil · 29/08/2025 14:41

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oh so NOW that one of you not being in might cause a problem - that may affect you - has occured to you, it's an issue.

PiggingBastardPigs · 29/08/2025 14:40

wuminty · 29/08/2025 14:38

Could be the teachers lol 😂

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Yep, men-hating teachers!

wuminty · 29/08/2025 14:38

PiggingBastardPigs · 29/08/2025 14:37

Well it’s certainly a trope that it’s kids but I reckon it’s adults with nothing else to do.

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Could be the teachers lol 😂

Hysterectomynext · 29/08/2025 14:38

I agree. I don’t think kids bother with mumsnet

but bored adults yes

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Well it’s certainly a trope that it’s kids but I reckon it’s adults with nothing else to do.

Hysterectomynext · 29/08/2025 14:36

Put door on latch and go out. Take your valuables just in case

Cosyblankets · 29/08/2025 14:34

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I agree

wuminty · 29/08/2025 14:33

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ScurryfungeSpuddle · 29/08/2025 14:33

Bathingforest · 29/08/2025 14:14

When women will stop fucking go on holidays with men who hate them or they do hate.

No idea.

You might want to start a separate thread with your question.

This thread has nothing to do with men.

FluffyBoob · 29/08/2025 14:32

User8182737484849 · 29/08/2025 12:50

On holiday with a family member. We don’t always see eye to eye, but I thought this trip might be a chance for a bit of a reset.

Today we decided to do different things.

Normally I’ve had the apartment key when we’ve gone out together, but I asked them to pop it in the key safe this time. For whatever reason, they didn’t — and with their phone switched off I can’t get hold of them.

I’m making the best of it with a quiet day to myself, but I can’t help feeling a bit upset. It’s left me feeling quite stuck, literally and figuratively. I can’t leave the apartment! I’d never want to make someone else feel like that.

Any advice on how to handle the rest of the trip without letting this sour everything?

Why oh why did you go on holiday with them????

DancingNotDrowning · 29/08/2025 14:32

@Thefastandthecurious5

Your behaviour is petty and spiteful.

no wonder your sister prefers to spend time in the apartment away from you

Lavender14 · 29/08/2025 14:31

AugustSlippedAwayIntoAMomentInTime · 29/08/2025 13:52

Poor.

If you genuinely thought she'd be in the apartment all day, you wouldn't have needed the key yourself. She'd have been there to let you in.

Utter dick move on your part.

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Agree with this. It made more sense for the person who'd be closest to the apartment to have the key so they could go out and back as they pleased. If you're on a day trip you've no need of it anyway and could just have let them know what time you'd be back. This was a very selfish move on your part and I can see why she's annoyed. Wanting to stay around the apartment didn't mean she won't change her mind or may decide to take herself out for lunch or for a walk etc.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 29/08/2025 14:28

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Also, why would you put your luggage on the conveyor belt when you're still faffing about putting stuff inside and attaching a luggage label? Wouldn't it make sense to find somewhere out of the way to sort your bag out and then put it on the conveyor belt when it is actually ready?

I wonder if there was a queue of people behind you looking on, thinking, "Take your time, love, it's not as if any of us have got a plane to catch."

SirBasil · 29/08/2025 14:26

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You two are clearly far too young to travel without adult supervision