To tell my husband to stop saying this?

I love the M&S ones.

The comment was aimed at the fact that they were designed for a girl, not that he would like to see a girl wearing them
I'm not suggesting he'd 'like' to see a girl wearing them. But it's clear that he feels they're acceptable for a girl, but not for a boy.

They are cat pj's so pretty gender neutral IMO.
The only issue I would see is that the shorts are too short (My daughter prefers boy shorts for this reason as well, i have no idea why clothing manufacturers have different more revealing cut for girls). So that aspect of it I may take into account and keep top but change the bottoms.

Tell him to get over himself, we’ve got all boys one wears only boxers to bed and comes down for breakfast in them, another wears full on proper grandad pjs (full length sleeves and trousers) another wears pjs with various animals one, some of which possibly may be more ‘girlie’ but he loves them.
If your son can’t chill out in a pair of pjs in his own home without someone commenting all the time then it’s pretty sad.
My DH is in his 40’s and occasionally has said something looks abit girlie or similar… he usually gets short shrift by my eldest who tells him that he’s a dinosaur and there’s no such thing as girls/boys attire anymore.
2 of mine have ears pierced, one with just one ear but the other has both ears done…. That raised a few comments within the older members of our family and I’m sure his dad was thinking it but our son has the confidence in himself to be who he is and like what he likes.
Your husband will damage his relationship with his son if he doesn’t stop, and seeing a bit of a bottom cheek when your own kid is wearing cats pyjamas shouldn’t even raise an eyebrow.

There are other cat sets marketed as unisex that look exactly the same styles. Maybe order some of those to shut him up. The happiness of wearing cat pyjamas should not be changed in any way, but maybe the bullying can stop. Wearing cat pyjamas is such a small thing to make a boy happy, why would anyone want to spoil that?

Those are great!

https://www.marksandspencer.com/pure-cotton-surf-cat-pyjamas-1-16-yrs-/p/clp60736421

Your husband should back off, but on the other hand, I wouldn't buy short shorts for a boy, and I would find longer bottoms for him to wear (especially around any friends, because yes, if they're obviously a girls' style cut, some kids his own age might very well tease him about that).

YANBU

Here's some for winter

https://direct.asda.com/george/kids/nw2/nw2-superkitties-brave-kids-navy-printed-pyjamas/G008000972,default,pd.html?redirectFromInt=1&cmpid=ppc--geor-------_-dskwid-_dm&utm_campaign=pla:Fashion-Kids_BAU-_Performance_Max&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=19513767745&gbraid=0AAAAADt8Wcnl-M1GSioyvIL4Vpu88nC0K&gclid=Cj0KCQjwn8XFBhCxARIsAMyH8BudBwpkxDJJnRnJCJXf12-f3djz36akwFVW27FBhWaKQgHsAdEd-OAaAoAeEALw_wcB

I think your husband is being ridiculous. My son is short for his age and has short pjs made for his age boys that only come to about mid-thigh if that. He likes short shorts when he sleeps. They're much longer than boxer briefs but not knee length. Sounds like that's what these are on your ds.

I do not understand why girls shorts are thigh length but boys have to be to the knee. Sometimes boys might want shorter shorts and girls longer shorts.

Your husband sound insecure and a bit of bully. Who cares what your son wears in the comfort of his own home. Does it really matter? No, it doesn’t. Is your husband homophobic or just a knuckle dragging fool? Yes, at sleep overs maybe suggest an alternative.
Your son is putting in boundaries and your husband is trampling these. Your son will eventually hate your husband if he continues. Protect your boy and tell your husband to fuck right off.

I think a "why are you bullying our child again?" every time he does it would be appropriate and show your DS that you have his back. If he was actually just worried then a reasonable step would be to say something to your DS when he is packing for a sleepover or having kids over. Saying it apropos of nothing is just bullying.

I thought that. The picture doesn’t look like hot pants at all so wondered if it was some funny deceptive picture. If they’re loose shorts (as they appear to be) it’s normal they might ride up a bit of he’s lounging around. I just don’t think that’s a big deal at home with family for a child that age.

Yes, it's interesting that his objection is not that children should not be showing their arse cheeks, but that only girls should be showing their arse cheeks. Why is this indecent for a boy but not for a girl?

They do say they are girl’s pyjamas- could you not find any boy’s ones. They might fit better

Ask him why a girl is by default more exposed than a boy, in expectation?

This exactly. He’s in his own home, presumably amongst people who aren’t child abusers - so what if his bum shows occasionally? Am I the only person who has an 8 year old who walks around naked with no issue? They’re in the privacy of their own home ffs! And who cares if they’re marketed for girls? He likes cats and they’ve got cats on them.

What a depressing read this has been!

Your son should wear whatever patterned pjs that he likes but shouldn’t be flashing bum cheek when he’s rolling around as kids do. Have him wear different bottoms if these are too short. It’s unclear from your post whether or not this is the case.

Every review says to size up and some with 14/15 year old girls are saying that they need to make them in adult sizes, so they can get their girls them.
They are aimed at girls, there's lots of boys/unisex cat pj's about. He shouldn't wear these to a sleepover and shouldn't be wearing clothing with his arse cheeks out, at home.

Clearly this is not marketed at boys and is not a design most boys approaching senior school would be interested in wearing
But this boy loves them, so really does it matter? They are pjs, and the only bullying this boy is getting is in his own home and from his own dad.

Incidentally @cittykat the company seems to make some in blue, if you want to blow your dhs gender conforming mind. Girls, allowed to wear blue! Whatever next 🙄

Your husband is unreasonable if he keeps going on about it. They are girls pyjamas so I can understand him mentioning it once ‘are they girls pjs, they look like girls style?’ but that could’ve been the end of it. They’re only pyjamas for gods sake.

I do think he could be teased wearing them to a sleepover as kids can be quite rigid about gendered clothing but at home I can’t see the problem.

It’s funny the shorts don’t look like hot pants style at all, one of the reasons I’m not a fan of online shopping!

These shorts look a bit longer but maybe he’d want full length soon anyway as it gets cooler https://www.amazon.co.uk/Anantty-Pyjamas-Kitten-Nightwear-Teenagers/dp/B0CCCWQ4NS

I don’t get why people are obsessing over the fact the item is labelled as ‘girls pyjamas’. That’s what the retailer and/or manufacturer has decided to label them as- purely for marketing reasons. It obviously doesn’t mean that only girls can wear them.

I have female friends with large feet who buy trainers labelled as ‘men’s trainers’. They are still able to physically wear the trainers- their reproductive system does not make it impossible. Nor do the clothing police arrest them for wearing them.

I have a very small friend who is lucky enough to be able to buy tax-free children’s clothing to wear. When she takes her items to the till, no one asks her for proof of age. She is able to physically wear these clothes despite being in her 40s.

Really amused by the idea that people take marketing so literally.

Also @cittykat you could look for T-shirts with cats on and just buy plain cotton shorts separately, which he can then wear together as pyjamas.

Your husband comments to your son are 'opinion' and not constructive. He is being critical and this is both unhelpful and upsetting to your son. I agree that if the shorts are riding up in such a way as to expose his bum cheeks, then that is not really comfortable (literally for him) or anyone else that he's on view to, and that would apply to whatever sex the child is. On that point I do find it odd that your husband thinks they are girls pyjamas. Would it be okay to him then, if his daughter wore 'shorty' shorts? If it were me I would compromise and buy some longer 'non cat' shorts to wear with the (beautiful) cat top. I thinks it's lovely your son is a cat lover and that should be encouraged and not made to be something he would/could be bullied for.