To tell my husband to stop saying this?

Why would he be happy if it was his a part of his daughter’s bum visible, not his son’s?

Ugh. Your H sounds just revolting, bigoted and backward.

I have pointed out that the only one bullying him is his own father.

A very valid point.

My DD was a big fan of the Marvel as a child and we'd buy her boys pyjamas because they were the ones that tended to have all the Avengers on. She was a big fan of the Black Widow but it was hard to buy only BW jammies because "certain shops" deemed Marvel to be for boys. 🙄😭

I agree that PJs marketed to girls tend to be too short (another reason DD grew up in boys ones instead), and that's a valid concern. But this guy is being unpleasant and a bully. Tell him to foxtrot oscar in the strongest terms.

"why don't you just buy...." comments are a bit odd. The ds has a pair of cat pyjamas already that he's perfectly content with. If there's really an issue with the fit of the shorts perhaps he can mix and match with something he already has but I suspect from what the op has said that this is a non issue.

Get him one of these ...
https://catsprotectionteemill.com/product/boy-who-loves-cats-kids-t-shirt/Denim%20Blue/?options[]=Size:9-10y&currency=GBP&cgi=1&cgi=1&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21733350940&gclid=Cj0KCQjwn8XFBhCxARIsAMyH8Bu6r3eASVzjpb23aex4ACtzQzT4GCZItX14W4RCOtDf3VO1TUgkJ0oaAgueEALw_wcB

Well you said it - no-one has taught the bullyish boys right from wrong. When is someone going to - or are you happy to accept that society is just like that? "Be the change you want to see." Reading your words made me think of the time I was in the car with my Dad driving. He saw a girl wearing a short skirt walking on the pavement and said: "Well, she's just asking for it." I didn't agree with him then but knew he would never change. He went on to commit sexual assault but I doubt he even thought he'd done anything wrong. Are you prepared to put up with that for an easy life?

Cute!

your son sounds lovely, you sound lovely, your husband sounds as if he needs to calm down and back off

Toxic maculinity and anxious conformism all tied up together...your hubster sounds pitiful. Hes got his own issues to work out and should leave the kid out of it.
Cat pjs are cool, as everyone know

Sorry wrong pic

A 10 second google and LOADS of non pink cat pjs.

It makes me so mad how few animal clothes there are out there for boys. My son desperately wanted kitten pyjamas but he didn't want pink ones. I ended up getting photo ones made with our own cat on.

I assume that your husband wears boxers or less to bed? If so, i would point out the sheer idiocy of his comments.

9 year old balls don’t tend to pop anywhere tbh.

So many comments on here that i have hardly read any. But i am going to jump in on your DH side. Mine would do the same and the total reason he is doing it is to protect your son. Kids are merciless and heartless and all it takes is for a friend to see these PJ's and your kid will be bullied relentlessly. DH is doing it to stop this happening. As hard as it seems and as unkind as it seems, as a bloke he knows only too well trigger points for boys to be unkind to each other. Even in this day of correctness and acceptance of everyone and everything - no one has taught the bullyish boys whats right and wrong.

Wellllll, I suppose he means that in a proverbial daughter´s case, her balls aren´t in any danger of popping out at any given moment.

I would be uncomfortable with a girl wearing those shorts to bed, tbh. I think they are inappropriate for either sex - though the print is neutral. I would buy PJs with longer trouser legs for a boy and a nightdress and shorts for a girl.
A bit old-fashioned, I expect.

I have to say, I preferred nincompoop, as suggested by @CeciliaDuckiePond😁

my husband thinks the shorts on the pyjamas are too short. Like little hot pants. Sometimes when son is lounging on the sofa they ride up and some bum cheek is visible. This angers husband and starts him off on his “girls’ pyjamas” conversation again.

No 9yo is going to know that those pyjamas are specifically marketed to girls. And even if they did, it's pretty normal for kids to wear what they like from across the spectrum, although I think you see more girls wearing "boys'" clothing than vice versa, not least because girls' and women's clothing tends to be lower quality and less utilitarian than boys' and men's at similar price points. If the shorts are clearly too short or too revealing, that's a separate issue. But then, it's a bit suss that your husband seems to think that showing "bum cheek" is normal (and "hot"?) for 9 year old girls but completely unacceptable for 9yo boys.

Also, it seems like your son is so far wearing these at home in the company of his family, not even AT a sleepover. If he's at risk for being bullied by his friends, classmates, etc., he needs his family to provide a respite and to stand up for him rather than bullying him too. If your husband's intentions are truly good, why can he not just say "those pajamas are fine around the house but let's choose something a little more sturdy for a sleepover..." ?

There you go, OP! On top of all the paedophile and misogyny accusations, along with demands you re-assess your marriage, here's the icing on the cake.

Well, to be fair they are described as girls pyjamas.
Buy a pair of longer shorts to match top. But at his age he can wear anything he wants

Just wondering if it is ok for girls to wear eg Spiderman pjs? Or train ones? Or cars ones?

Your husband is being a total knob. Of course your DS should wear his pjs if he likes them.

I don't think your son has a pj problem, I think he has a father problem. What does your DH hope to achieve by this behaviour? Making your son more "manly"? I worry how far your DH is prepared to take this treatment of your DS. His behaviour suggests he may be somewhat homophobic. Better hope your DS is not gay.

Id be asking why are such short shorts ok on a girl but not a boy though?

The “he’s approaching secondary age” viewpoints on this thread are so sad: it reminds me a little of the thread about brothers taking a bath together. A strange determination to stop children being children as soon as possible. What could be more innocent than a small boy who loves cats wearing his cat PJs? Society will come along and quash any non-conformity before long; why’s his dad so determined to rush that process at home, his safe space to be whatever he wants to be, to be comfortable?

I have 4 boys and I don’t know any of them who would have had a problem from other people about wearing pyjamas like them- they look like boys or girls (colour print etc).

Agree your husband is being an arse. God forbid you bought girls pyjamas - how dare you buy something for a boy that isn’t Minecraft or a tractor!!!

I have two boys who regularly pick things they like from the girls section and especially pyjamas (real Squishmallow phase here at the moment) they’re bloody pyjamas for goodness sake.

I did have a look, and if you agree on the shorts could you get these ones with the trousers?

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