To tell my husband to stop saying this?

Oh well it says boys so that's ok. Shame they are nearly three times the price.

His arse isn't hanging out, that isn't what the OP said. Sometimes when he's lounging on the sofa they ride up, that isn't the same thing at all.

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These are much nicer with longer shorts.

They are hideous pajamas and his arse is hanging out of the back so they dont even fit.

You could do better than that.

That's a good one. Mine is my ten year old son had a Christmas list. One item was advertised as for girls. I said it was nice but did he think some of his friends might think it's for girls (I didn't want to buy it and then have it discarded as someone said something). He looked at it thought and said it the one he wanted and not to worry as if someone said anything they'd only say it once. He sounded like he was training to be the Godfather.

Not quite sure why you think your 9yo has the definitive answer here!

i wear what I want to wear from the men’s or women’s or occasionally girls sections. But I get to choose and so should your son @cittykat I might argue it should be less of an issue as presumably you our son doesn’t even leave the house in them so seriously it should be a non issue. At the same time he wears them in the place he should be able to feel safest and your DH is doing his best to ridicule him.

I have a great anecdote from one of my kids nursery. The 3 year old boy was going through a princess dress phase and turned up to nursery as Elsa. The teacher made a silly comment at drop off along the lines of ‘you’re a boy you won’t be able to wear dresses when you go the school’. My friend was so furious he went to pick up his son that evening in his wife’s bodycon minidress. you should have seen the nursery teachers face. That’s how a good dad acts.

I don't care if it says 'girls pyjamas' - that's just marketing. It doesn't mean ONLY GIRLS CAN WEAR THESE PYJAMAS. I've bought my daughter plenty from the 'boys' section and nothing on them says only boys can wear those either. They're not in her drawer as 'boys t shirts', they're in her drawer as HER t-shirts.

I honestly hate this shit and feel sorry for your wee boy. His dad is a toxic, bullying prick.

I accidentally hit yabu, should be you are not! He can wear whatever he likes and feels comfortable with, in his own house.

He thought those pjs might get him bullied… so he started bullying him to save the kids at school a job

This ^

@cittykat just wondering, what if it was another way around? OP has a daughter who loves pyjamas with fighter planes emblazoned all over them. Does the Dad feel differently? What does he tell his daughter? Maybe he's pleased she's into 'male' subjects. She can be the next Lioness or Red Rose - great on the pitch. What threat are other girls to his daughter? I can't help feeling that it wouldn't matter nearly as much, and boys are being held to ridiculous outdated standards. Girl tomboys are readily accepted. You'd probably be really happy if your daughter was into STEM subjects or wanted to be an astronaut. Wouldn't you?

Your husband is being unreasonable. Who cares what print the PJs have on them.

Only thing I found when my son wore ‘girls’ tops were the t shirts are cut with a waist shape and didn’t ever quite fit right. But he’s a big kid so baggy t shirts were always better.

I'd replace the shorts at a push, for his dignity, otherwise they are harmless.
My DH might side eye DS wearing these, but he'd never say that he couldn't wear them.
DD has been wearing boys clothes from aged 9, she likes to hide in baggy clothing, no stereotypes.

He’s right though in that they are girls’ pyjamas.

The issue isn’t that, it’s the fact that the DH is making a big deal of it.

Bet your son looks adorable in these, I dont understand your husband at all...does he see children as somehow 'sexual' is it triggering some memory of harm done to him?

These PJs are lovely and I hate that he is destroying your sons innocent enthusiasm...which is where the joys in life grow from (if not crushed).

Your son sounds brilliant as do you.

Your husband is being rather disturbing in his behaviours and should address what this is provoking for him, because this is about HIM...not your son.

Until kids hit puberty and their body shape starts to change, all kids' clothes are kids' clothes. And even post-puberty anyone can wear whatever they like. Men can wear pink and glitter and skirts if they like; women can wear baggy shorts, big boots and shave their heads if they like.

Your husband sounds like a total dickhead, I have to say. The way to help a kid prepare for any potential bullying is to support them to be confident in their likes, dislikes and personality and to be a kind and gracious person. Your husband is doing the opposite of that and worse still - he's the one doing the bullying. Just because his masculinity is fragile doesn't mean his son's masculinity needs to be.

There's absolutely nothing inappropriate with the cut of the pyjamas either. From the way you described them I thought they were going to be hotpants, which wouldn't be my preference for any child - regardless of whether they're a boy or a girl. But those are just normal shorts pyjamas.

If your son likes cats, that's great. Lots of men have made a living from loving cats - e.g. Jackson Galaxy, Cat Man Chris Poole, and countless vets around the world to name but a few. Many more men love cats but do every sort of job you could think of. My own husband and my own dad were just two men I've known who adore/d cats. Your son sounds like a caring young lad who likes animals and that's a great trait for anyone to have.

Your husband, meanwhile, needs to grow up, stop bullying his own child, and accept his son for who he is. It's really sad.

I want some like that now
I'm 5' 10". Do you think anybody makes them in my size?

The only arse issue is your DH not your son's pyjamas.

This was my thought. There are ways and means without being hostile and upsetting people. He is a bully. Does he do anything else like this or is it just this one thing @cittykat

Great post

I clicked on your link and I’m somewhat disappointed that the pjs aren’t some bejewelled glittery blingtastic number complete with cat ears on the hood.

@Shellyash But, if that's how you feel, is the Dad not just pandering to the bully boys instead of standing up for his own son? Couldn't the Dad (or OP) @cittykat say to their son: "Look (son), there are some boys out there who may tease or even bully you if they saw you wearing those pyjamas. Ignore them. They are stupid and ignorant, and can only feel good if they do exactly what their friends do. That's so boring isn't it. They should have more imagination. Hopefully, when they're older, they will, as they'll realise they will never be successful or wonderful just being like everyone else. You crack on and be you, just as you are - and let these silly bully boys just be clones of each other."

Definately get these for winter!

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I never said it makes anything right, I just explained that this is a dad who has recognised something that may draw out his son being bullied has decided to do what he thinks best, albeit probably clumsily. A dad won't stop other people bullying his kids but can take some measures to do what is in his power to not attract attention. No I don't agree with bully's, I hate them. But that doesn't make them not be there.

Sorry, but I don't buy the whole "A grown man is bullying a boy in his own home to prevent possible future bullying" shtick. How can you possibly say that he's humiliating the lad to prevent him being humiliated?

Would it be OK if the grown man hit the boy to toughen him up in case he ever gets punched in the future?