To tell my husband to stop saying this?

Your husband is an idiot. I’m glad that your son asked him to stop.

Well they are listed as girls pyjamas, sp it's possible that your husband has a little bit of a point, I understand you've sized up, but the style isn't appropriate as he isn't covered- which would be the same issue whether he was female or male.

But on the other hand, why would his friends see him I'm his pyjamas?
Why should he be so concerned with the fact they're girls if he likes them and they fit?
My DS is peppa pig mad. Finding the pj's for boys is expensive and hard to do so if I see peppa pig pj's in the supermarket, they're coming home with us. His little happy face, his comfort and warmth are really all that matters.

Your DH is weird.

Or he could just have been pointing out that they are cut differently for girls and maybe wouldn’t ride up as much as they do on a child of the opposite sex.

This is the kind of fabric I made the cushion out of.

I have just googled 'cat t-shirts with real cats' and loads come up that are just cats.

Your OH is being an arse about it, but unfortunately boys will pick on each other about stuff like this. And the trans thing has made it harder generally for children who just don't fit into very narrow boy / girl boxes. My eldest DS (now 13) isn't stereotypically boyish in some ways - liked pink, likes animals, would definitely wear cat PJs, hates football - so I speak from experience! I've always supported him in what he was into, but I think I was a little niave about bullying potential when he was younger and he's since told me there were issues. As others have said, get your DH to lay off, but maybe don't send the cat PJs on any sleepovers 😂

Just to add, is it possible your DH was bullied as a child and still has baggage about it? If he ruthlessly suppressed aspects of his personality to fit in and avoid bullying, he may be subconsciously scared for your son. Not defending his behaviour, but I definitely struggled with similar as someone who was bullied in childhood.

Fair point.

https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/970304229/unisex-cotton-sleeping-trouser-pants?ref=elp_anchor_listing&frs=1

I voted that you’re not being unreasonable - but the same pjs. With a long trouser/ankle cuff id also available on amazon - could you not compromise by buying those so that dh stops bullying? I agree that if the cut of the short show bum cheeks it is irrelevant whether a boy or girl is wearing them - bum cheeks and genitalia should be covered on soft furnishings surely?

No double standards here, if he was a couple of years older I’d still be saying he could wear whatever pyjamas he wanted.

The PJs are sold on amazon as girls, but the same brands does PJs with an image of a Husky that are "girls boys" and the only difference appears to be that it is an image of a dog rather than a cat. So I think they are just kids PJs and if your son loves them let him wear them.

Is anyone else even going to see them? If he's going to PGL or similar and your dh is worried then you might want to pack different PJs but I wouldn't give the reason, just say you don't want to risk him losing his favourite ones on the trip.

His dad.

It's depressing that so many men believe in regressive gender nonsense, especially for their sons; and that so many women don't see this as a red flag, or even check what he thinks, before having kids with him.

Unless he’s wearing his pyjamas out on the street, who is going to bully him?

Tell your dh he can shell out £55(!) for these more ‘boyish’ cat pyjamas, if he likes! (Photo will have to be approved, I think, before you can see it).
As for the current pjs, I can imagine that at a sleepover, unfortunately he might get some comments - kids can be brutal, but your ds should feel comfortable wearing what he wants to, in his own home.

Unfortunately they probably don’t. Boys are only allowed to wear sports, gaming and superhero themed clothes it seems.

I agree that they’re clearly girls pyjamas and designed as such. I think your DH may be right to be concerned about bullying. It’s all well and good making a point about gender stereotypes but don’t expect your DS to have the courage of your convictions, keep the top but get some more appropriate bottoms as a compromise. (It’s most likely the top it he loves anyway).

But if they are riding up to expose his arse they don't fit him absolutely fine do they

I like the boys one. Might be tempted to get a pair myself if I thought there was any danger of me being able to fit my fat (female) arse into the size 15-16.

Grown women can wear what they want and expose what they want. But not little children in my opinion. Of either sex.

Clearly this is not marketed at boys and is not a design most boys approaching senior school would be interested in wearing. Personally I think the husband is more concerned at his son being babied although it's interesting how opinion swings because we all know what things people would be saying to OP about how he's being damaged and it is causing him to be bullied if he was still wearing these in another year or two. Such are the double standards of the MN massive.

This talk of being cut differently for girls is it a bit ridiculous at that age. Why would girls need a shorter short for their bodies?

I doubt people would have any issues if there was a 9yr old girl buying pjs from the ‘boys section’.

Your husband sounds like a revolting bully, is this really the role model you want your children to grow up with?

Complain to the supplier that they should not label them as "girls" just as childrens.

Would your dick of a husband be any happier with these? https://www.marksandspencer.com/pure-cotton-surf-cat-pyjamas-1-16-yrs-/p/clp60736421

and I'd buy him a set of these to wear - they are blue and long www.amazon.co.uk/Girls-Black-Pyjamas-Print-15-16/dp/B07FTSFHDF/ref=pd_day0fbt_thbs_d_sccl_2/257-1363191-8062547?pd_rd_w=ZJ3sE&content-id=amzn1.sym.11a4d54e-1e50-4bfa-9630-b6658636e953&pf_rd_p=11a4d54e-1e50-4bfa-9630-b6658636e953&pf_rd_r=NBAKDXK5VR8EG9RX4M9B&pd_rd_wg=hPfR9&pd_rd_r=e8e7e1aa-32de-445c-8800-2591aedff67a&pd_rd_i=B07FTSFHDF&th=1&psc=1

OP it does actually say on the link that these are girls’ pj’s. Not that l think that excuses your DH’s behaviour, but a quick google reveals plenty of cat designs for boys. Maybe a compromise would be for him to wear the top with different shorts. I think the priority here is to shut down the comments, and maybe have a quiet conversation with your DH to point out that he’s subjecting his child to bullying behaviour in his own home.

Sounds fab. 🤩

Your husband is being an arse.

My son also loves cats. It is difficult to find cat stuff where they don't have bows in their hair etc. which he wouldn't have liked because he doesn't like cartoons. When he was younger, I would get him plain pyjama bottoms and the you can find some cat t-shirts that aren't prettied up. I'll try and find some, although it has been years since I bought any.

I also made him a pillow out of cat fabric. I'll try and find it