To tell my husband to stop saying this?

My 9yo son has always been into rainbows and bright colours, so often things I buy him might be thought of as "girls". PJ's/pencil cases/squishmallows, that kind of thing. Little Bird clothing was made for him 😂

He got a new bike for his birthday. Colour options were charcoal, red or aqua with purple (clearly the "girl" option). Showed his dad and he said he preferred the charcoal but he knew which one DS would want... so that's what he got.

I love that he's not afraid to choose the stuff he likes 🌈

You keep saying they fit him fine but if they are showing his bum cheeks they clearly don’t fit him. I think you and your dh should sort this out between yourselves and agree a solution rather than your dh having a go at your son and you defending your son. That just puts your son in the middle of you both and isn’t good. Given your dh’s main objection is that the shorts are too short, and you admit that they do ride up, why don’t you agree a compromise with your dh of keeping the t shirt but buying some better fitting shorts. If your son goes to a sleep over showing his bum cheeks that’s not good (just as it wouldn’t be good for a girl either).

Well the shape is clearly a style usually worn by females and it says do in link .so on one hand your husband correct .but in your own house who cares .if friends coming for sleepover just wear other pjs simple. But a bit much a grown man bullying his own child.

Surely the shorts are just like boxer shorts? There’s no issue with these pjs! Tell your son to rock these kitty pjs!

Taking the outfit and throwing it away then denying any knowledge of where it had gone. You don’t think there’s something the least bit cruel about that ?

Your husband sounds like hard bloody work. Your son is wearing the PJs in the house, not dancing up and down the street in them.

My son often wore his sister's old nighties to bed, because they had characters he liked on. Your husband is a dick, let your son wear what he wants.

The shorts don’t look extremely short to me. My teenage dd has short pyjamas shorter than that and they are not too revealing. The only difference is that the cat pyjamas have slightly shorter sleeves than is normal on ‘boy’s’ pyjamas, for some unknown reason t shirts marketed for female people sometimes have that shorter cut.
I agree with you OP, they are simple pyjamas, there is very little difference in style and shape from something marketed for a boy, I think the assumption is more an aesthetic one , that girls and women like appealing animals, while boys like trucks and dinosaurs. Or apex predators like Polar bears or Tigers.
It’s all nonsense of course.

They clearly do not fit him absolutely fine if they're showing his bum. It's a weird hill to die on but you do.

I think what OP is saying is that the cut of the shorts mean they ride up his hip when he's sitting down with his knees tucked up? Because they stop mid/upper thigh probably.

Whereas boys'/men's shorts are usually further down towards the knee in length so they wouldn't ride up that way.

These look fun! I think my DS would have liked those and the short looks a little longer than the other pair? As it is, at 17 and 6ft 4, my son loves Magnum PI style shirts and ones with loud oriental patterns and um pink (esp cerise) is one of his favourite colours (fat face often do mens tees in vibrant colours and designs). I do feel men/boys should be allowed to wear whatever they like but it can take confidence to tell your mates to bog off if they tease.

The link to the pjs title says ‘girls’ but this pair .. https://amzn.eu/d/5ma2ogo EXACTLY the same but a dog top says boys.. so it isn’t the style it is the fact it is a cat which makes it ‘girls’?? Which is idiotic..

The man is a massive bully and a 9 year old child doesn’t need to be sexualised by his father.. that’s gross. He needs to grow up.. there is no such thing as ‘girls/boys’ … anyone can like and wear anything… remind him this is no longer th early 1900’s and society has evolved and those pjs go up to 15-16 so buy every size!!!

Sigh, he didn’t say that, he’s not saying god I love little girls in short shorts, he’s saying girls tend to wear this style not that he would want his own daughter to wear them,

I don’t feel this is acceptable, you’re basically accusing the man of being a incestuous paedo, there is absolutely nothing to suggest this man wants to see your girls arses or even worse his mythical own daughters. Too far. Far too far.

Except husband thinks that’s ok for girls?

Your DH is being a Dick about it
BUT while your son should be able to wear what he wants unfortunately if he wears those PJ's in front of friends it could attract some bullying.
Its not right and its not fair but its a fact

If my 9yo DD had bottom cheek showing I’d be replacing the pJ bottoms as not fit for purpose. I think that is more the thing than boys / girls. Certainly my girls inherited plenty of “boys pjs” from their brothers. There shouldn’t be a difference but boys PJs tend to be made of thicker cotton and have more coverage girls are often very flimsy.

@cittykat these are marketed as boys pjs but gasp have pink on them... try these! https://www.amazon.co.uk/Ksajwzf-Pyjamas-Colorful-Nightwear-Teenagers/dp/B0D8J4YGHQ?th=1&psc=1

They’re pyjamas so I really don’t see the harm. It’s not as though he will be wearing them out so the fact he feels the shorts are too short shouldn’t matter as the only people who are going to see are you guys in the home.

So short they're riding up his bum? Not appropriate.

Agreed. I often buy mine shorts marketed as ‘boys’ shorts so that they’re not too short. I didn’t realise I was ruining their lives by buying them clothes that say ‘boys’ on the description!

Who is going to see this? They are pyjamas. For wearing in the house. I don’t understand why any family member would be offended by a bit of arse cheek, whether it’s on a boy or a girl.

OP, your husband sounds as if he needs to trail his antiquated brain into the 21st century. FIL used to get all worked up because our eldest son liked to play with his cousin’s old dolls’ house when we visited. I still remember DS1 saying ‘But it’s just a house. We all live in one’😆 We bought him similar for playing with at home because he loved it so much.

my husband thinks the shorts on the pyjamas are too short. Like little hot pants. Sometimes when son is lounging on the sofa they ride up and some bum cheek is visible. This angers husband and starts him off on his “girls’ pyjamas” conversation again.

OP can you tell us what your DH actually meant. People keep landing on this and as usual a minute detail is being picked apart and detracting from what you’ve actually asked. People are implying that he’s some sort of perv who wouldn’t mind seeing his DD’s bum in these kinds of shorts, which l’m sure isn’t the case. Can you please clarify as l think your wording may have given the wrong impression.

Your husband is a bully.
It will move on to something else, thats the way bullys are...always have to be critical.

It is not normal to comment negatively like this.
It is what bullying parents do.
Your poor son.
He will feel this and it will do damage.
He has asked his father to stop, but his bullying father is intent on bullying.

Protect your son.

I have two preteen girls and it drives me fucking bananas that their shorts are mainly tiny and their tops/hoodies all cropped. It’s weird.

Which bit(s)? The joggers? Chucking the pants? Bullying or buying him crazy clothes?