To tell my husband to stop saying this?

Except that OP didn’t say anywhere in her post that that was what he said. He was likely making the distinction as to how the cut of something designed for a girl would wear differently on a boy, or commenting on how shorts for girls are cut higher. Nothing to suggest that’s what he’d like on a DD, jut that he doesn’t like it on his DS. Once again MN has picked up on a minute detail, badly worded by the OP and is running with it to the point where it derails the thread. If you’re always looking for a perv then you’re always going to find one. It’s batshit.

I mean he is partly right, they’re quite literally girls pyjamas.

Girls ass cheeks are not mysteriously smaller than boys what is it about "girl shorts" that means short shorts

Asked and answered by now but It’s making me cringe so much that the problem is the shorts are too short but he’d be fine with his duaghters shorts being that short? Because girls clothes are sexualised. If they are appropriate for a 9 year old girl they’re appropriate for a 9 year old boy. Either the shorts are too short and don’t cover enough or they are fine, it’s irrelevant if they are boys or girls. I think the problem is you DH knows they’re classed as ‘girl’ pyjamas and that’s what he has the problem with

Sorry but your DH sounds awful. He is a bully.

He's 9
hes at home
its a bit of his bum cheek occasionally

don't be so ridiculous.

It’s the problem with girls clothes all over. Whilst boys can wear longer loose shorts, short marketed even at young girls are virtually hot pants. I hate it and always pass my sons shorts down to my daughter.

in regard to the pyjamas, what does it matter what you or DH husband think. Your son Should be free to choose what he wears and your husband is being v sexist!

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I'd keep the pj's and send the husband back

I disagree with your DH. Your son is wearing the pjs at home so a little bum cheek doesn’t seem a major issue, perhaps at a sleepover but not at home. I did find these on Amazon https://amzn.eu/d/63uPgdB which might keep everyone happy.

This

The three smallest DC in my DD9's class are boys.

And actually, girls go through puberty earlier than boys (there are several in DD's class who have visibly started with growth spurts), so if anything, 9-year-old girls tend to be bigger.

I wouldn't buy any child pjs that showed their bum cheeks, with a boy it's also likely to show gentiles.

I had a very similar situation, both with the cat-mad son and the husband saying stuff like that.
The compromise was, whatever top he wanted, and plain boys' pyjama bottoms/shorts - M&S did some, or we got bamboo ones off Amazon IIRC. And they do just fit better, because even little boys have more downstairs than little girls!
This isn't worth the battle.

How are 9 year old girls/boys' shapes that different that a boy would reveal his bottom and a girl not?

In other words, why is it okay for a girl to wear 'short' shorts and not a boy?

Hi op my son is 22 years old and has the same pjs he also has a pink and blue set with paw prints on them.

Your husband is being a dick.

Sounds to me that your dh is a seething mass of insecurity as well as an unpleasant bully.

The not fitting properly sounds like an issue, but after saying that your husband sounds like a dick if he's always getting on at him about them being "girls" pyjamas.

With regards to trust, they are not going to know it was me who took them. I would not threaten it beforehand or confess after

So you'd throw away their belongings and lie to them about it? Truly stellar parenting there.

I don't. Truly.

They are a single item of clothing with no sentimental value.

My children, and most others I presume, are more resilient than to be "fucked up" over the loss of a pair of shorts. I can't imagine anyone becoming a serial killer, agoraphobic, bad at relationships, unable to hold down a job, needing a life of therapy because one day they lost a pair of shorts.

With regards to trust, they are not going to know it was me who took them. I would not threaten it beforehand or confess after. Parents wash dirty toys, replace dirty toys, replace fish and hamsters, tell kids that Santa will only bring them gifts if they are good, do the elf on the shelf thing etc.

I can't imagine one of my children being "fucked up" because a pair of shorts went missing one day. Are there really people out there for whom this would be a lifelong issue? I am not trying to be funny. I genuinely want to know and am curious as to why you would think that.

Clearly a girl in picture with dog print and a bit femine cut .but in own house does it really matter and if hubby won't shut up just buy son a longer pair of plain shorts sorted and no moaning

I don't like your DHs attitude. They're pyjamas and your DS likes them. Why is it okay for girls to have their cheeks on display but it's a massive deal for DS?
Tell him to stop bullying your DS and I hope you don't have any DDs with his attitude.

I think your DH is in the wrong and I'm surprised his attitude so openly exists in this day and age. He reminds me of the boys described in Richard Beard's book Sad Little Men about boys who have been made emotionally bankrupt and dysfunctional from being at boarding school. He is bullying your son, but won't see it cos his Dad did that to him and that's what boys/man are. Oh dear, I feel for you and especially your son.

Clearly a girl in picture with dog print and a bit femine cut .but in own house does it really matter

Your DH is stuck in the dark ages! As long as your ds loves wearing them then who cares. Kids don't think like your DH does these days.

The majority of the posters on here thinking this is an issue would, I’d wager, be absolutely fine with a 9 year old girl wearing ‘boys’ pyjamas. Because misogyny. It’s still seen as an inherently bad thing to be ‘girly’.