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Guests and disturbing them

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shellyleppard · 29/08/2025 06:44

Just a curious one. If you have guests using the sofa bed what time do you get up yourself??
I need to go downstairs and sort out the cat box 🤢 and get on with my day but worried about disturbing them 😞😍

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Whenthetimeisright · 29/08/2025 07:14

SoScarletItWas · 29/08/2025 07:07

It doesn’t really. It has a feature where you can see someone’s ’Last seen’ time ie when they were last active on WA. You can turn that feature off easily (mine is off). Not much different to a ‘read receipt’ on an email really. You can’t tell someone’s sleeping habits, PP was suggesting it as a way of seeing if guests were active online and therefore awake.

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I understand the reasoning but I still don't like the thought of others having the ability to check up on me like that.
I'm a very private person and it gives off vibes of real intrusiveness.
If I was a guest in their home I don't know what's wrong with a subtle knock on the door if it was necessary to check if I was awake. Not checking my activity on social media.

Moonnstars · 29/08/2025 07:13

Depends on what you have said to them before agreeing to them staying. If they know you have to get up for work and get on with your day then I would say 7am is fine.
Also depends on why you are hosting - are you doing them a favour in saving hotel costs so therefore they need to slot in with you.

Whaleandsnail6 · 29/08/2025 07:10

Whenthetimeisright · 29/08/2025 07:04

Gosh that's really creepy to think other people have the ability to actually check your sleeping habits.
I don't use WhatsApp and I had no idea it gave others such access to your personal life.

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It just shows what time you were last on whats app (and you can turn it off) so it doesn't actually show your sleeping habits.

For example, if you woke up at 3am and read a whats app that had been sent, or sent a whats app, it would say you were last seen at 3am.

BaronessBomburst · 29/08/2025 07:08

8 am for a weekday.
Unless it's my mother, who will have been awake since 5 am anyway.
She actually prefers the sofabed, because as she wakes up so early she can make a cup of tea and watch the birds.

SoScarletItWas · 29/08/2025 07:07

Whenthetimeisright · 29/08/2025 07:04

Gosh that's really creepy to think other people have the ability to actually check your sleeping habits.
I don't use WhatsApp and I had no idea it gave others such access to your personal life.

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It doesn’t really. It has a feature where you can see someone’s ’Last seen’ time ie when they were last active on WA. You can turn that feature off easily (mine is off). Not much different to a ‘read receipt’ on an email really. You can’t tell someone’s sleeping habits, PP was suggesting it as a way of seeing if guests were active online and therefore awake.

Whenthetimeisright · 29/08/2025 07:04

Thefuture2025 · 29/08/2025 06:56

Can you check their WhatsApp last seen to see if they're awake?

Gosh that's really creepy to think other people have the ability to actually check your sleeping habits.
I don't use WhatsApp and I had no idea it gave others such access to your personal life.

FanofLeaves · 29/08/2025 07:02

If I had to disturb guests that early to sort pets out I’d have probably taken the sofa bed and let them have a bedroom. But obviously too late now, I hope you warned them about the early wake up!

Thefuture2025 · 29/08/2025 06:56

Can you check their WhatsApp last seen to see if they're awake?

toastofthetown · 29/08/2025 06:54

Not that it’s helpful now, but I’d have mentioned if you need to be in their room last night. Otherwise I’d give until about 8:30 normally.

Whaleandsnail6 · 29/08/2025 06:51

Do you have to go through the room they are sleeping in? If so then I would go down at about 8am as I feel thats kind of reasonable for a weekday

If its a case of they are in another room that you dont have to walk through then I would go down whenever and not do anything that makes excessive noise (so I wouldn't use the blender or put the washing machine on if they are sleeping on the room by the kitchen) but I wouldn't be as worried about waking them

stonebrambleboy · 29/08/2025 06:49

7 am

SoScarletItWas · 29/08/2025 06:47

I get on with my day as I need to. My cats do their litter tray hokey-cokey from about 5am so that’s when I go and deal!

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