Guests and disturbing them

You know people have days off, right? 😂 some also work night shifts.
Even on a work day I don’t need to be up by 7. On a weekend it will be at least 8am before I’m up unless I need to do something specific.

I’m so glad everyone I know isn’t as judgy and narrow minded as you are and allows other people to live life the way they feel most comfortable.

To insinuate anyone who doesn’t get up by 6 or 7am doesn’t have a life and doesn’t pay taxes is beyond insulting and completely unreasonable.

People are allowed to utilise and enjoy their 24 hours however they wish. There’s nothing impressive about being in bed early and getting up early. That’s just the way you choose to use your time. It’s not superior.

My point is, her son is not a guest .. he’s her son. I would definitely expect my son not to be having sex on a sofa bed, presumably in the living room where any family member can walk through. Common courtesy and decency.

So glad everyone I know is up by 6am in the week and 7am at the weekend because we all have lives to lead and taxes to pay

Every single person you know?! Wow!

Goodness knows how I lead my life or pay my taxes when I don't wake up until 6.40 in the week and sometimes 9 at weekends! Will the tax office be knocking at my door to complain?!

I dont have cats and dont encourage overnight guests. If I did allow someone to stay it would be a concession. I would make it clear that they had to fit in with my comings and goings. My house - my rules. Same if I was sleeping on someone elses' couch. I would expect to fit in with their rules.

Nobody needs waking up it's totally chill. Everyone is happy.

We're all awake when there are things to be done so in bed by 10, not sitting on our phones until 2am.

If I was retired maybe I'd shift my mindset and stay in bed a bit longer but as it stands I make the most of the weekends

At the weekend I would leave them to sleep without disturbing them (unless I had to) until 9am

Why are you wringing hands over your own son?? Surely you would have told him that he needs to be up by a certain time? It’s your son.

7am at the weekend! What joy to be had in your house 🤣 sounds like being in barracks.

Do you not work? Imagine not starting your day until 9am 🙄

So glad everyone I know is up by 6am in the week and 7am at the weekend because we all have lives to lead and taxes to pay

I had cats for years and never noticed any odour except for when they broke wind. Their fur was always immaculately groomed and shiny.

You're being really weird now.

I didn't say you shouldn't respect the host's routine, FFS.

I just said I'm glad none of my hosting friends are early risers, that's all.

Respect the routine of the person you're staying with. ✌️
OP appears to be up early, and it's her house so....

If a guest expects someone to dramatically alter their routine then the guest either needs to have a rethink or find a hotel.

If you have a guest round you respect them full stop. I haven’t said “don’t wake them up”, I’ve said do it gently and politely, not being an arrogant, rude arsehole.

As it turns out, it’s OP’s son, but even so… if my mum had ever done that to me I’d have been furious! But she never did, because she’s not a twat. She’d just crack my door and speak to me quietly to wake me if it was necessary for some reason.

There’s no excuse for defending utter rudeness no matter how you want to dress it.

One can only hope it was a joke, but defending it is just as bad!

His girlfriend is in bed with him, though. For a number of reasons, I would say that it's definitely best to err on the side of caution before going into the room they're sleeping in.

Not for you, I'm sure. But it is for lots of people - especially those who don't have kids and/or work from home. Not everyone's the same. There's nothing wrong with getting up at 7am if that's what works for you but it would be early for a lot of people, especially if they not working that day (which people typically wouldn't be if they're a guest at someone's house, I think).

I rarely go to bed before midnight, but I wouldn't tell other people that 'midnight isn't remotely late' just because I'm a night owl.

except normal people tend to give their bedroom to their guests when they don't have a guest room.

If you have a living room that a separate room and a sofa bed, you can chose to keep your bedroom because you can still go anywhere in the house.

Having guests in the living room meaning you are stuck in your own bedroom? very weird

And anything before 9am is unbelievably rude -unless specific activities already planned. People make an effort to wake up before that, but the host doesn't make noise until at least 9am.

there's always one 😂

If you're sleeping on a sofa in someone else's living room then you respect their way of living.
As already stated though, pp was probably joking.

Opening curtains in someone else’s bedroom when they’re sleeping? Awful thing to do. For me that would be very painful to my eyes of a morning, I hate light coming in when I’m asleep or just waking.

Asking “aren’t you up yet??” When they are clearly not, just provocative and judgemental. Not everyone’s body is happy getting up early, and may need a more sedate wake up call (if one’s is actually even necessary).

The phrase “chop chop” is never ok. It’s riling and not an appropriate thing to say to another adult.

All of those things together? Would make me think they are a rude, arrogant person with no concern for anyone but themselves. So yes “gosh”!!

The clue is in the name: her bed.