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To ask, politely, and seriously, if you are in your 50s, what do you look like naked?

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Dontfuckingsaycheese · 28/08/2025 21:12

Hi.
I’ll cut to the chase. I’m 55 and single (happily for the last 15 years or so).
This year, following a rather exciting reboot, I decided to try online dating and I have been having a lot of fun. Met a few nice men. No nasty ones 🙂 I have also fallen in love with my body again and have lost over 3 stone so now just over 9.5 stone.
I am amazed at how good this 55 year-old body looks, FROM SOME ANGLES AND IN SOME POSITIONS. I’ve been making a few videos and stills and I can look damn 🔥
However, I am alarmed how I look, mainly from the front, if I lean forward. Everything prunes, falls and elongates, and it’s scary!! I have met a man online who I am absolutely obsessed by. For a few reasons, it’s been a few months and we haven’t met yet. We’re due to meet up next month. He’s seen some pics and videos of me and loved them, but of course, I’ve been able to carefully curate them. I don’t want him to be disappointed in how bits of me look. I feel like I should warn him in some way. I know it shouldn’t matter, and he should like me as a person, but things have been tres flirty and I’m very keen to make it physical 😉 I feel like just explaining I’m aware there’s parts of me that are a bit time-ravaged. He’s a little older than me, so wondering if it’s the same for him… So he’ll understand I mean, and not run for the hills. I’m thinking of explaining this in terms of wanting to feel confident in bed, so it may be that, at times maybe I may wish to wear a top or something…
I’m wondering how others feel, any pearls of wisdom, advice, reassurance, amusing anecdotes to make me feel better… 🤔

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YouMightThinkThat · 28/08/2025 21:28

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"things have been tres flirty" 🙄

I agree with you @BeaSure

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WinterOnItsWayOut · 28/08/2025 21:23

I think any man likes to see a naked woman and would be pleased whatever the view 🤷‍♀️🤣. At 9.5 stone you must be pretty trim (albeit self critical of a few signs of ageing). I’d be pretty confident he’s no honed Adonis…

I see my Caesarean scars, scar overhang, stretch marks and cellulite dimples as the history of my body and what it’s done for me. I’ve started dating again and no complaints!

well done on the weight loss 👏

Petrolitis · 28/08/2025 21:19

How have you got to the age of 55 and yet are still so absolutely obsessed by the male gaze?

Christ the last thing I'm worrying about is how hot I look for the opposite sex. Most of them just want something with a pulse. Which generally mature women have worked out.

Maybe take some time off to work out why you only value yourself as a perky pair of tits?

Redrosesposies · 28/08/2025 21:16

There's an episode of The Golden Girls where Blanche catches sight of her face when she leans over a mirror flat on the table and vows never to go on top again.

BTW Well done on the weight loss and you sound like you're rocking it. If he thinks you're going to be like twenty something gym bunny, he's just not worthy of your time and effort.