How do I stop my children from killing each other?

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apparentlyapple · 28/08/2025 20:45

2 girls 7 and 9 absolute chalk and cheese and spend all day squabbling, arguing and physically fighting.
Both girls are lovely on their own but together they just don’t get along, never really have but things seem to be going from bad to worse and summer holidays have just exasperated it.
They have to share a room too which makes things worse but as it’s social housing and they are both girls we can’t do much about that.

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Octavia64 · 29/08/2025 06:42

They will not actually kill each other.

i used to order mine into separate rooms - so one in the living room and one in the bedroom.

actual physical fighting had serious consequences.

OhNoNotSusan · 29/08/2025 06:39

i bet they get on better when alone and nobody sees?

Springtimehere · 29/08/2025 06:35

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Thingyfanding · 29/08/2025 06:22

I’ve had the same issue. Separating them up seems to be the solution but of course when you’re a single parent, it pretty difficult.

DancefloorAcrobatics · 29/08/2025 06:14

I agree with what verycloakanddaggers said., look for their triggers and check your response.

Going forward, try and find what both girls enjoy doing and do these for a short time (preferably before things get heated) . If it gets heated break up the activities.

Find a space, different rooms but not the bedroom for them to go and cool down. It's got to be away from each other and yourself.

dottiedodah · 29/08/2025 05:59

Can you separate the room at all.dividing wall maybe. Try to give attention to each one separately. It's very hard.siblings fight and poor parents get the bt
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verycloakanddaggers · 29/08/2025 05:51

You need to look at everything, and think hard about what triggers it, what specifically they each do, what you do in response and what wider factors there are.

So can you give more info about how what exactly is happening?

Earthbound4 · 29/08/2025 05:45

Is there anyway they could have their own room? Own space?

What is the configuration of your house occupancy and rooms?

Who has the biggest bedroom?

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