DP embarrasing me over periods

Is he 14?

He’s a child

My boyfriend at 16 was more mature than your adult partner.

Fucking weirdo.Dh went and got me tampons 2 months into our relationship when I came on unexpectedly without batting an eyelid.Has he no sisters,mum,female friends?

My brother (who grew up with 3 sisters) makes rude jokes about it to us, it is quite funny tbh! But i think a partner doing it crosses the line.

I have to say the only men ive been with in my past who were completely nonchalant about periods- both of them were medical doctors.

I dont know why men are so childish in general

dump him, then do not date ANYONE until you have some confidence and understanding of your value. I assume your background has resulted in your not realising that comments like this show how immature and what a misogynist he is. You deserve so so much more op.

This ^

Excellent!

It's not clear how long OP and her DP have been together but I wouldn't tolerate this nonsense. It's childish and ridiculous. Typically when challenged he says it's a joke. Very unattractive.

Maybe they’d rather not know. Why do you feel the need to tell them?

You’re unlucky here OP, the vast majority of men are really mature about women’s periods in my experience, and they’re usually quite proud to be progressive in this respect.

Pretty much rhis.

Id humiliate the bastard back - but actually whats the point of being together in that case.

He sounds very immature

He sounds like an ignorant misogynist fifth-former! And an extremely rude and unpleasant one at that! I hope you stand up to him op and tell him to grow up and that he wouldn’t exist without the female reproductive system.

Are you intending to have dc with this manchild op? If so, you might want to revisit that plan? This is the last sort of attitude you need in the delivery suite. It’s so disrespectful.

Post C-section, my dh had to help me to walk to the bathroom and pee in what can only be described as a metal pan as they wanted to measure my output. And I was still bleeding then of course. I will always remember how sweet he was about it.

That's a really shitty attitude from your DP. He's trying to make you feel worse when you're already feeling crap and that's just plain mean.

I hope you're not too entwined - mortgage etc - so you can just walk away from this unkind man child. You deserve better.

No, more likely he is simply an immature arsehole.
Not everything is abusive. MNetters throw the word around like confetti.

He’s a disrespectful, immature misogynist. Or would rather be in a relationship with a man?

Either way you can do better, there is no future with a man who treats you with disgust for any reason.

He is really immature. My DH grew up as an only child with quite old school parents. His mother calls periods ‘lady things’ is a stage whisper, he never jokes that it’s disgusting although we sometimes make lighthearted jokes in general. I did ask if he’d buy pads for me and he said ‘yes but you would need to send actual pictures of the packet to get as it is overwhelming!’ He makes me hot water bottles and cooks me dinner and says ‘just get through today (when I have bad cramps) that’s the worst of it’ .

The thing is yes the comments are a bit immature but what would bother me is the fact he knows you don’t find it funny and he does it anyway. Why? He’s not joking with you he’s making fun of you and that’s not kind. I hate the “lighten up it’s just a joke” mentality, it’s usually spouted by mean people to justify their meanness.
Are you happy in this relationship? Do you feel good about yourself?

Well, he’s an immature twat, isn’t he?

Find someone better. My husband has always shown nothing but kindness, bought me tampons 100s of times, and quietly dealt with cleaning the bedroom carpet when I’ve leaked massive clots onto it as I climbed out of bed.

He’s very immature and sounds utterly tedious. I just said exactly the same thing to my dh and he said “poor you…do you want me to grab you some nurofen?”. My 7 year ds gave me a hug and said “Is it your period making your tummy hurt?”. So basically my 7 year old has more empathy and understanding than your dp.

WTF? This is such a red flag OP.

I'd be disappointed if my sons ever reacted like that even as children.

He's trying to embarrass you about a completely normal part of being a woman. What if you had a daughter with him? Would you let him do the same to her? You deserve better.

He sounds immature and honestly I'd be leaving. there is no point in having a man who is going to make you feel bad about your noraml bodily functions - just imagine you have a baby- the changes that brings etc, or - god forbid something worse like cancer or a major illness - which brings changes, bodily functions etc - imagine what he will be like then... and get rid of him.

and also Becasue I'm a petty bitch, the next time he is about to "finish" I'd say "eeeew, gross" because quite frankly (in my opinion anyway - I know not everyone feels the same! don't yell at me!!) It is gross.

Also, you can bet he verbally abuses her in other ways.