DP embarrasing me over periods

and he would literally call me ‘unclean!’.

Women having periods are not unclean. That's a vile thing to think and a vile thing to say and a despicable attitude to pass on to children.

He’s just emotionally immature. Please never have children with him.

God help you, but you must be desperate.
If you weren't, you would be so long gone.

Misogynistic prick.

Love the overreactions !
But I must have missed the LTB responses. 🙄

Yeah, my 11 year old son would NEVER. He is currently being trained about different products I or his sisters may need fetching from the shop. Always with a bat of chocolate

You don’t know me, my relationship or our dynamic. Anyone who gets icked out super easily by bodily fluids (he really, really does, it makes him go pale and want to vomit) but STILL holds your hair when you’re vomiting, brings you glasses of water while you’re busy shitting your guts out on the toilet and goes out to buy you sanitary products and painkillers when you’re on your period, then rubs your back to help reduce the cramps? Keeper.

What’s your phobia? Would you willingly put yourself through it every month just to make your other half feel better? I know that if I had to walk across a rope bridge over a sheer drop every month to help my other half…I’m not sure I’d be as supportive a partner.

But hey, everyone has their red lines and if your baseline is that your partner has to be good with bodily fluids then that’s fine. I decided a long time ago that it wasn't as important as all my DH’s good qualities and the way he just tries to make me happy every day. So your snark is understandable but ultimately misplaced.

Who the fuck are the 4% who thought you were being unreasonable? 😳

My DD's 17 year old boyfriend buys her tampax and pads when she asks him to if he's popping to the shops.
I could not be in a relationship with a man who couldn't cope with periods.
What would it be like if you had kids with this cock-shine? 🤔

My teenage boys wouldn’t behave like that!

My 18 year old has been with her boyfriend since they were 16. When they were first together he'd bring flowers and chocolates when she had her period- just drop them off at the door. These days he just brings Maltesers, does a hot water bottle (she genuinely does suffer in a way I never did), finds something funny to watch. It's lovely to see. He was brought up with the same, strict, Catholic upbringing to me- keep periods hidden and suffer in silence. He is prone to becoming pretty ill with chest infections so my daughter reciprocates the care. He's just a decent human who loves and respects his girlfriend. Who knows whether they'll stay together, but I'll always be happy that both of their first relationships set the bar for how they both should expect to be treated in future. (Very much unlike my relationships. )

@Someone2025

Raise your standards

He called the OP disgusting

Thats verbal abuse. It will likely escalate.

Please tell me you haven't passed those idiotic ideas on to your children.

People who pass off horrible comments as "only joking" are nasty bullies.

Tell him to grow up and then dump him.

Unfair to 13 year old school boys

I’ve just gone on another thread and said the OP should tell her DP to get fucked. And tbh I can say it again here. Wtf is up with men tonight

@20thcenturygirlwithherhandsonthewheel mine has just finished junior school. He said some of the girls openly talk about period pains to the boys.

Hé sounds like a child.

I’m loving the number of mothers who have young sons that would not be making a big deal about periods. I think recent education has made a difference, my son told me his teacher told them that they would probably have to buy period items for their partners or female family

Don’t be ridiculous !! this is not abuse, a lot of men are grossed out by periods but they might not verbalise it, he needs to grow up and accept it is part of a woman or else he will stay single

That reaction from him would give me the ick, how pathetic. He sounds like an absolute pussy. He needs to get a grip and grow up. He’s a grown man not a 10 year old boy. Tell him how babies are made, if he thinks periods are gross, that will really freak him out.

Bin him. He’s disgusting. I hope you are ok xx

Isn’t he a treat.

Thank goodness he's a DP and not a DH. Makes leaving him so much easier. Can you imagine how he'd react to childbirth?

Man child who needs to seriously grow up.

Tell him that either you have a period or he will be a dad. What would he prefer right now, on the spot. Time’s up.

If it helps give you the idea of the qualities of decent husband material standards……

Mine has helped me dislodge/remove a stuck, very full menstrual cup and got coated in my blood and barely batted an eyelid despite being quite squeamish naturally, because I needed help and was beginning to panic a bit. He didn’t make me feel awkward in any way and has never brought it up again even as a “joke”/to hold it over me!

He has a full understanding of periods (it’s SCARY how many men know NOTHING about periods, or worse very WRONG information!!) and has regularly supported me;
often does a check if we travel that I’ve packed what I need,
has bought me products if needed over the years,
bought me a microwave wheat thing when we had been going out for 6 months for my cramps (he was about 20 at this time!!)
has stripped and washed bedding and pj’s if i’ve ever leaked in the night,
checked when we bought our mattress protector with our new mattress that it was decent enough to actually work for that kind of stuff

Your BF is showing very icky qualities and severe immaturity 😬😬😬😫

Ok, I can't say whether you’re being unreasonable or not because I don’t know your partner or where he’s coming from.

I got together with my partner when I was 27, 15 years ago. My DH was similarly innately disgusted. Still is. Grew up in a house where these things were hidden away and he would literally call me ‘unclean!’. Would even sleep in the spare bedroom when I was on (y’know, I so worked that to my advantage - who knew I could get a whole superking bed to myself for so many days in a row? 😂).

BUT. He has never once shied away from trying to make me feel better. I get a stomach cramp and he becomes solicitous. He will happily go and buy me all the tampons and chocolate my menstrual heart requires. He’ll deal with my wild mood swings with complete tact and no judgement. I’m a textbook PMSer. He’s so much less weirded out before, but that doesn't mean he isn’t still icked out by the whole period thing. He’s still definitely not touching me while I’m on!

I was upset when I first experienced it but, over the years, I’ve realised it’s a personal ick that’s more than made up for with the way he now thinks about how it’s affecting me during that time.

So not going to vote on your AIBU but potentially it could be more like my situation. Or maybe he’s just a proper dick! Only you can work that out.