DP embarrasing me over periods

Really? I’m in my 40’s, have had many partners and none of them have a tied like this, all of them have given my sympathy when I have said ‘I have period pain’…..and I have dated some pretty awful men. No one has ever treated me with disgust over my period.

He’s her partner. He should be able to think of her vagina without being queasy.

everyone you meet is jam packed full of blood. If you can’t manage to make a compassionate adult comment when your partner is in pain because you’ve remembered people have blood you should stay single until you’ve mastered basic empathy. She didn’t spray it over him. His eww was really because he thinks women having periods is disgusting. No one should have sex with such an immature child man.

I think just saying the word "period" can make some people feel a bit sick. And also you then think of their vagina and that is a very intimate thing to think about.

A woman at work said to me the other day that she was having her period. I didnt really want to think about blood or her vagina. That was my reaction.

So he is repulsed by the female body? He's a misogynistic nightmare! Get rid and quickly! Does he not realise that this happens to all women?

He should bring you a cup of tea and a hot water bottle really. Did he never meet a female member of the species before?

He is being very immature…..his behaviour reminds me of the boys in our school aged around 12 or 13, sniggering at the sight of a sanitary towel dispenser just inside the girls toilets…….open the toilet door and it was in full view of anyone passing!

Wow, what a man child!

No he did not!, your reading comprehension skills leave a lot to be desired

Throwing the word abuse around casually is idiotic when you haven’t even read the post correctly 🤷‍♀️

It's an example of him being incredibly immature and rude. Unbelievable behavior. I'd tell him how his comments make you feel, and if he didn't stop, dump him.

Ok, that’s fair enough - I can understand that. It’s just different strokes for different folks and I’m sorry our strokes impacted you. Believe me, if I thought it came from a place of misogyny, I would not have brooked it. My DH is the least misogynistic guy I know, frequently gets very angry by any examples he comes across and calls it out publicly - he’s not one for letting it slide through politeness or fear of being judged! Neither of us are.

I won’t lie I voted YABU for even listening or paying attention to him and trying to figure out what it means. I’ll help you out he’s an immature douchebag

I couldn't be with a man who demonstrated such a despicable and obnoxious attitude to something I experience every month, sorry.

Sadly I have dealt with men in authority at work with attitudes like this. One wonders if they have Mothers, aunties, wives or daughters, it's ridiculous.

But it's primarily up to mothers to teach their boys about periods, especially their own, which if they are embarrassed about periods themselves, they won't do, although I thought the subject was covered in school?

Surprised any man between his twenties and fifties has an attitude like this today. I could understand my father's generation, where such things were kept mysterious and deemed in poor taste to discuss, but not today!

I would consider moving on to someone more mature and responsible.

*Corrected spelling

This man needs to grow up or go. How would he help you through child birth if he’s scared of a bit of menstrual blood? Not husband material.

A joke needs to be funny to be a joke. You might think it's funny but there's far too many women still having to put up with such stupid, misogynistic attitudes for me to find it funny.

Sorry, I didn’t put that well - I was hoping the exclamation mark would make it clear that he was joking in a ‘point the finger and do a hammy overacting accent while saying it’ way (especially as I made it really clear that he still does everything bar actually getting my period blood on him, in which case he’d flipping hyperventilate). He doesn’t actually mean it - it would usually have been accompanied with a ‘get thee to the pig shed outside the village, woman! Uncleeeeeeeean!’. Guaranteed to make me laugh, which is the best antidote to period cramps for me.

That’s why I said to the OP that I can't vote on hers because I know from the outside, my relationship could look like an instant LTB but I know it’s not. Only she knows if what he’s doing and saying is driven by an innate revulsion to bodily fluids (genuine issue) but he’s still lovely in many, many other ways or if he’s just a dick.

Me and DH joke when it’s “shark week”. But we’re both doing it so I have no issue. You’ve told him you don’t like it and he’s still doing it. So he’s not listening to your feelings.

Is he 12?

He’s an immature twat.

How immature and disrespectful of him! Women have periods for fucks sake.

Actually I can even tell my 11 year old son if I have a painful period..! My DH happily picks up pads and tampons.

Perhaps he was brought up to think periods are dirty or a women’s secret. He’s needs to educate himself

My DP always says 'lovely' in a sarcastic tone when I tell him im on my period. It doesnt bother me, he doesnt like blood, it makes him feel weird, he has however watched me give birth twice and been supportive the whole time with that. Even when our kids fall over and theres blood he goes weird over it. Some people (not just men) dont like blood, even the mere mention of it. Doesnt make him a Manchild.

This isn't just immature - it's so unkind, and he's not joking. He's just saying that to carry on getting away with this shitty behaviour, and he's shown you his true colours.

Your body is an icky inconvenience. He shield be supporting you. If you stay with him, don't expect any support from him when you're older and in need of more serious care.

TBH I think that quite a few men do have that 'yuk' response to periods but the grown up ones know that it's their problem, a bit like having a phobia, and are able to treat women respectfully in spite of it.

You are with a boy not a man, clearly emotionally immature.

I find anyone who abuses a woman for her femininity abhorrent.

Find yourself a real man.