DP embarrasing me over periods

When I tell my DP I’ve got my period he says “What can I do to make you feel better/more comfortable?”

He will happily go to the shops to get the products I need. We can laugh about these things together, with love, but be never ever makes me feel belittled or gross because of my normal bodily functions.

Your husband is behaving terribly and he needs to grow the fuck up. “Not getting sex” is an excuse to make you feel less than.

Period blood smells when it reaches the air. I can smell my own even when I haven't been wearing a pad for long. Different types of pads absorb the smell better than others. None of this makes periods gross though. They're just part of being a woman.

Its not fresh period blood though is it.

Most women wear pads for 1-2 hours at least. Some wear them for 2-3 hours.

I have definitely smelled when women have been ok their period

Not that I agree with comparison, but we're not talking about saying it at work are we? We're talking about OP's partner asking her what's wrong, in their own home, her answering, and him being grossed out.

What does smell is the misogyny of the above post.

Fresh period blood does NOT smell; you are referring to poor hygiene, not the inherent bad smell of periods. Obviously if someone sits in a full sanitary pad for hours, and it gets onto their clothes, that’s a different situation.

Can we stop this infantile narrative of periods being gross.

Its not about shame.

I am a woman myself. I agree periods or nothing to be ashamed about. Poos are also nothing to be ashamed about.

However we wouldn't say at work "I am going for a poo now" would we. Because its not acceptable to talk about body functions

The same as saying "im on my period" at work, can gross people out aswell.

People don't want to hear about intimate body functions

Periods can definitely smell. Especially if the women wear pads. If she wears a pad, she is basically sitting in blood for hours. It smells.

I remember i always sat next to the same girl in school in science, and i always knew when she was on her period.

As i could smell it

How was he through your pregnancy/birth etc OP?

If he's calling it gross because you won't have sex that week then you can add that to the list of reasons he's a pig.

🙄 it’s not an insult. Teenagers aren’t known for being mature. Your teenager might be but that’s not really typical behaviour.

Unless your DP is 16 years old there’s no excuse

Tell him to grow up and act his age, which I preume isnot 15

Can posters please stop insulting teenagers.

How old is he? Idiot.

If the word period makes you feel sick then that’s very much a you problem.

It shouldn’t be a taboo subject or something women should be made to feel ashamed or embarrassed about.

"It’s really quite odd behaviour for a straight mature man to be so disgusted by the ordinary biological functions of females"

Agree to disagree.

Tell him to grow up and act his age, which I preume isnot 15

Maybe he has never been in a relationship with someone who would feel comfortable mentioning it? How long have you been with him? It sounds a lot more like immaturity than malice to me. It takes a long time for some men to stop thinking periods are gross, farts are hilarious etc!

My husband does not do blood (as in will faint at the sight of too much) but he’s mature enough to not behave like that.

Unless your DP is 16 years old there’s no excuse. Even if he was brought up thinking periods were shameful, it’s upto him to change his mindset, he can adapt.

Oh, I don’t really. And kudos to everyone who’s commented today their 17yo sons don’t flinch; you brought ‘em up well.

I was making a flippant comment about OP’s ridiculous boyfriend and figured it would be inappropriate to imply he was any younger!

AHH🤗 he sounds like a lovely young man, well done mum!

My DS's will pop to the shops and buy my pads if I run out (which is rare because I buy in bulk) and I like to think they'd do similar if presented with the same circumstances or at the very least not act like childish idiots.

This is a horrible man.

He should admit his misogyny, set you free, and buy himself an inflatable girlfriend - all he wants is a handy orifice after all, and not the reality of a real,.live partner.

A big poo stench is completely different from knowing a woman is on her period, which doesn’t affect you at all? If farts didn’t stink they wouldn’t be disgusting, but they do so I send my 10yo out of the room if he does one next to me. If I can’t enjoy sitting in the living room nor can he.

Thank goodness men aren't bothered in my family, my dad was always the first to provide baths or hot water bottles for us girls and very often to many chocolate bars, never made to feel awkward as young teens. Luckily my hubby was brought up the same and will be first to pop to shop or make a nice dinner or just send me to bed etc, even our oldest son of 15 will pop off and suprise me saying he's made me a bath and hot chocolate if he notices I'm bad. So have no worries once my own girls get to that stage. Best to be open about everything and ye nothing worse than the response you got.

I agree with everyone’s views but there is a big double standard on MN. Periods are normal but poops are disgusting. Many people complain that a person shouldn’t poop at work and demand that a windows is open and something sprayed or a person is awful. I remember a thread where a woman was so utterly disgusted because her partner pooped in the ensuite bathroom and she got ‘headaches’ from the smell. She cried over how disgusting he was and posters widely agreed with her that he had no consideration and she should leave.

Bodily functions aren’t accepted as normal on Mn and many posters think other should be shamed. It does seem there’s a double standard when it comes to periods. Both of these things are normal and shouldn’t be shamed in the slighted .

I would say he's immature but that's insulting to kids and teenagers who take all this in their stride. So, I'll just say he's a prick.

Imagine your life in a few years when he's looking after your poonami covered baby.....

He’s ridiculous. My dad is late 70s, old school type. When I was diagnosed with endometriosis he went off and googled, sent me articles that looked helpful, stood up for me in a&e when he was horrified at the pain I was in and picked me up from hospital after my lap excision
bare minimum standards