DP embarrasing me over periods

Calling your partner disgusting is abusive. Raise your standards @Shessweetbutapsycho

Dump him. If he thinks periods are gross, how on earth is he going to cope with any of the myriad of things that can come with a long term relationship- sickness, injuries, childbirth (if that's on the cards for you)?!

I used to work with some grown men, as in fully in their 50s, and when we had someone from a menstrual poverty charity come into work to do an awareness talk they all talked loudly about how periods were disgusting and they shouldn't have to hear about them and how their partners/wives never mention anything about them in front of them because it's gross. Your DP will become one of those men. Is that who you want to be with?

My DP is a dream about periods, asks me about my cramps, buys me tampons, makes me a hot water bottle and gets me a big bar of fruit and nut because he knows that's my favourite when I'm on. I am grateful but consider this very low bar stuff.

It does seem very childish to be grossed out by it. My husband will wash my reusable pads. He even hand washes them sometimes when needed…he’s never been one to ew my periods. In fact he would go and get painkillers or whatever I needed to help

I bet this isn't the only example you could give of this sort of behaviour OP.

Time to raise your bar. Dump and move on to a better man (or just be by yourself and enjoy not having to share anything with a misogynistic arse!)

He sounds like an immature bell-end and I would say this to his face.

What he should be doing is:

Bringing you a hot water bottle when you've got cramps
Making you your favourite comfort food
Checking you've got san pro and going to the shop for them if you haven't
Generally making a fuss of you (or leaving you alone if you'd prefer)

This is what my DD's partner does for her. Oh, and her DF has done all that for her too.

Your DP is a bit of an arse.

He sounds like a POS - and a highly immature, misogynistic bullying one as well. He wants to humiliate and embarrass you. I couldn’t be putting up with it, and it would be a deal breaker. Any decent mature partner even if they felt a bit awkward or grossed out by it (which they shouldn’t be) would put that aside and be making sure you are okay, asking if you need anything/get you anything you need and not be adding to your stress or discomfort. God forbid if you go on to have children, he is going to get a serious shock (please don’t have children with him!) 🤯

I disagree. Menstruation is fundamental to womanhood and he is trying - and succeeding- in making op feel ashamed and embarrassed. That is abusive and horrible.

Would he be fine to go and buy a pack of tampons for you?
That would be my litmus test.

Does he not know how women’s bodies work? Could he find a clitoris on a map? He probably thinks it’s in Illinois. Twat.

Same here.

What a cunt. Chuck him in the sea, OP.

Overreaction much??
from the information presented the partner sounds extremely immature, tactless and very uneducated, but it’s hardly abuse?

Do not have children with this man. If he can't handle a period he definitely can't handle pregnancy and children. He sounds like a childish teenager. Not sure how you stand him.

Don't be ridiculous. He sounds like an immature plonker but hardly abusive.

Unless the drip feed is that he’s actually 14 he needs to grow up and fast.

I’d also add that if you plan on having kids he definitely isn’t the one to do that with. If he’s this upset about a period then he certainly isn’t a man you want to go through pregnancy & postpartum with.

Also calling red flag. Don't waste your time with someone like this, OP.

If he's not mature enough to stop pulling faces and making disgusted noises over the idea of menstruation then he's not mature enough for sex. That's what I'd tell him IF you're not so turned off that you're no longer interested in him.

I'd keep a sharp eye out for other ways he may be trying to belittle you or make you feel insecure.

It's reasonable enough for him to not want to talk in depth about your period, imo, but casual references to it are part of life with most women, and he should be able to control his distaste for blood (or whatever it is that's bothering him) enough to avoid making you feel bad about it.

Don't have kids with him.
Imagine how he'd body shame a daughter.

If he’s not a teenager he needs to grow up and stop being so pathetically childish.

You’re 30 op come on, why are you even tolerating this crap?

Jokes are supposed to be funny...?

Dump this idiot. Even if, at best, the first time he thought he was making a joke, you say this has been going on for a while so he's clearly not listening or willing to adapt his behaviour appropriately.

You are 30. If he wants a sexual relationship with an adult woman, there will be periods. If he cannot deal with this knowledge then he should not be dating.

He’s an immature prick. I’d get rid.

I'd sit him down and calmly and thoroughly explain that he needs to jump the brain-maturity gap from 13 to 30 immediately on this topic. And if needed I would ask him how he would feel if you said 'ewww' every time the thought of his bodily fluids came up. "Oh baby I'm soo close" - 'ewwwww'. And then if needed I would proceed to do just that til he shaped up.

oh its the "just bantz" excuse. Kick this one to the kerb

Alexa play Manchild by Sabrina Carpenter.

(And LTB, OP!)