DP embarrasing me over periods

Oh grow up.

Its not misogynistic at all to say that some people get queasy when they hear about blood.

The only thing disgusting here is you and your mysogyny

Saying ‘eww’ isn’t verbal abuse - I do sometimes shake my head at posters on here. His behaviour is very immature, so that’s what I’d be talking to him about. Ask him why he still has a teenage boy’s silliness about women’s bodies, and tell him his ‘eww’ comments remind you of those awful religious men who view menstruating women as unclean. I’d imagine that knowing he looks rather like a childish misogynist might make him zip his lips. Why is he saying these things? Did he grow up with a family where these things weren’t discussed? No sisters? Limited experience of women?

The thread EVOLVED as threads do - to talking about periods in general.

Yes women have talked to me about periods in graphic detail at work.

But this whole thread is about the OPs husband expressing disgust at her just saying she was on her period.

There is nothing wrong with a women telling her partner she’s on her period. If anyone feels uncomfortable simply hearing the word then that is their problem.

You’ve tried to suggest women are talking about them in graphic detail at work! That’s not the case, this is about being able to talk to your partner about something that causes you significant physical discomfort and pain.

The OP isn’t exposing this man to any ‘bodily fluids’ by saying ‘I’ve got my period’.

I bet he wouldn’t be happy if she said ‘Ew, disgusting’ and recoiled away from him when they’re in bed and he tells her he’s about to come.

I have never expressed disgust and I agree that people shouldn't do that.

I just said that i can understand why some people get uncomfortable hearing about them

Most people are neutral about them

YOU are not neutral about them. You are actively unhappy to hear about them and grossed out by hearing about them.

I am not neutral about women suffering thousands of years of misogynistic disgust over periods and still reading in 2025 about women who find other women mentioning them nauseating, though they have periods themselves, and freely expressing that view, though you certainly have the right.

That's why my posts sound angry.

And I don't know what do for a living, but at the bottom of the working ladder, women are still faced with issues like no adequate toilet provision being made. Having to request absence from a post (to male supervisors who make a disgusting face) to use the bathroom. Being called skivers for using the loo too frequently. Being expected to sit with a tampon in or pad on for hours, so as to not break up the shift, or until someone else can handover. Being expected to carry on if handover isn't arranged or arrives. Toilets with no pad dispensers. Toilets with no tissue. A lot of working women take the pill because they in part do not want the agro, stress and humiliation of being put in such positions. Yes in 2025, this still happens. Pads are stolen from shops because some women cannot afford them, and Welfare does not apply to women an extra £5 a month towards something they do naturally, but must pay to manage.

I have stories I can tell you, but you'd be too grossed out.

Nobody is saying you need to be delighted.
Just don’t express disgust at women having periods. It’s not difficult.

First of all: stop being so angry. It is not that serious

Periods and Poos are both bodily functions to excrete waste.

Nobody is delighted to hear about them. That is being realistic

Having a strong disgust response to periods is indicative of internalised misogyny. Periods are not inherently disgusting.

You're expressions of obvious disgust over women's periods is worse than a few 'rude' comments.

And yes, you do have a phobia.

Even now you equated a woman simply mentioning that's she's on her period with a man saying he's going to do a 'big' poo.

Tell me how those expressions are even similar?

Earlier you said a women simply telling you her period has arrived made you think about her actual vagina and made you feel queasy and it was inappropriate therefore to mention. That is not normal. Why on earth would you think about another woman's actual vagina?

You may have thought such thoughts and reactions were normal before, but now are being told that it's unusual. Outside the norm. Because it is.

I have a phobia of heights. I feel queasy and dizzy in high places and can barely stand on a balcony. Went to a water slide in a park in Florida and had to push against a crowd of people to get off the stairway as I couldn't hack it. I know I have a phobia and I know my thinking is irrational and I own that.

I do not think others shouldn't mention their travels to mountain peaks or high places or think they're disgusting. Mentioning those things does not give me a negative feeling.

No one announces they're 'going to poo' (large or otherwise) and a woman doesn't say she is going to 'bleed'. They say they need to use the bathroom/lav or they're on their period. Anyone who finds the utterance of either phrase upsetting in metropolitan life is greatly over analysing it, deliberately framing it in a negative way and frankly showing a lack of control over their thinking.

Neither phrase is graphic in any way. Neither has connotations of misogyny in quite the same way as being 'upset' at the mere thought of a woman's normal bodily functions does either.

Sadly they'll always be a time when due to periods arriving early or endometriosis or PCOS or period poverty or some other issue a woman might have to confide that she needs help or support in dealing with it (borrow a pad, a trip to the shops to buy replacement knickers, time to use the bathroom, or buy pain meds) and how dreadful that they might avoid confiding in a man, but choose a woman, and that woman, who menstruates herself, gets the ick and finds it upsetting and finds it inappropriate that they even mentioned it.

Really?
that’s such a shame.
I mean it’s not something you’d talk about in a restaurant while eating, anymore than you’d talk about pooing… but in a marriage with your husband?

I disagree with you.

my own blood doesnt make me nauseous of course. The same as my own poo doesnt make me nauseous.

I dont have a phobia and i am not disturbing. Dont be so rude.

If we are talking about being in the workplace for example, I am realistic that talking about bodily functions can upset other people

We all poo.

If a man came up to you at work and said to you "I am going to do a big poo now".

Would you feel upset and uncomfortable. You don't want to know about it, right?

Are they boys?

Either way, have a conversation with him to let him know this is not acceptable.

Your ex was being a dick for calling your period disgusting.

You can dislike something without calling it disgusting. You don’t need to make people feel bad because of an issue YOU have.

I have a phobia of something other people find very normal. I know this is a ‘me’ problem so don’t call people disgusting for not feeling the same way I do. That’s the point people are making.

So sorry, if you're this queasy about blood, what do you do about your own periods?

How would you handle your child menstruating?

When a woman tells me she's on her period, I just think she's on her period. I don't think about her vagina. I don't think about the blood or get graphic images going through my mind about it.

You have a phobia. But women should still be able to mention it. You're a woman yourself. I'd find your disgust disturbing.

I expect that reaction from men of a certain generation and still find it fairly anachronistic, as if 50% of the population should all not bleed or mention it for their comfort, or they're disgusting.

Sex itself isn't a queasy clean activity is it? Lots of bodily fluids involved there, but people like the OPs partner don't seem to have an issue at all with those, when some come from the same orifice.

can you address it? Husband every woman on the planet has periods and I’ve had two kids. What is your problem with this? It’s normal female anatomy….’

he should be the one feeling an idiot definitely not you

Yes but not just at work.

I think some people find it makes them physically queasy to talk about blood. They cant control it

Like at work when a woman came up to me and said she had her period. I wanted to provide her comfort , but instantly my stomach felt nauseos. I couldnt help it.

One of my exes was very good about periods. He used to massage my stomach.

One of my exes - if he saw blood on the sheets said it was disgusting. He couldnt handle the sight of blood at all

My son is 17 and whilst not his favourite topic, he doesn’t behave like it’s disgusting. He knows how women work! 😄😄seemingly OP’s husband doesn’t!

She didn’t say all gay men are automatically disgusted by periods. The point, which seems to have gone right over your head, is that he seems to find WOMEN’S bodily functions disgusting, and therefore he might be better off with a man who won’t be able to disgust him with periods. I think your homophobia viewpoint is the odd one here.

But we’re not discussing a work situation are we?
Women should be able to tell their partner that they are on their period without being made to feel embarrassed or uncomfortable.
For many women being on their period also means being in physical discomfort. Why should women hide this or pretend it’s not happening just because some people aren’t mature enough to be able to discuss it like an adult?

Jesus Christ, talk about missing the point.

It is absolutely pathetic for a man to be ‘grossed out’ by a woman’s period, especially when she’s birthed his children.

Equating the smell of poo with period blood is ridiculous.

And no, I can’t smell when women are on their period - unless they have poor hygiene.

Period blood smells, everything has a smell, skin has a smell, hair has a smell. Things dont only have a scent because they're 'dirty'.

I think we've lost sight (smell) of what is actually human. Things have a smell

And in fact how our bodily fluids look and smell (and they used to taste them too), is a big indicator of our health

I can often smell period blood on people, including myself