Hi guys!
I've posted a few times on here in regards to my ex husband and our child. We spilt nearly 2 years ago as he was mentally and emotionally abusive.
Since we have split I have tried constantly for him to see our child, trying to set up regular days, overnights, honestly anything you can think of I have tried and he's just in and out of our child's life as he pleases and will often go 4 weeks without seeing them, ignoring my messages etc it's just so stressful.
So he is meant to see our child only once a week on a Sunday 10-3 which he's hardly been doing but yesterday he messaged me to say he wants to this week.
I message back and say ok but it's been 6 weeks since DC has seen him or been at his house so can we do 10-1, my child also has additional needs and last time they were there 6 weeks ago had a huge meltdown to the point of hyperventilating as again it had been 4 weeks at that point that he'd not seen her. Personally think this is a fair request!
Ex husband flies of the handle at this, giving me all the abuse under the sun, how unfair I am to cut his time etc, I'm. Jealous etc, ironic when any other time he's happy to act like they don't exist
Anyway he kept on and on and in the end I said if he's not happy we will stop contact until he arranges mediation/court as this is so totally unfair to our child all the time and also to me as I just don't know where I stand
Is this unreasonable? My child never asks for him but it does make me feel guilty for stopping the contact even though I know deep down it's for the best as he never takes them anywhere or does anything with them when he does decide to see them.
If he does go ahead with this next step I'm guessing it will be frowned upon for stopping the contact? But I am at my witts end and it's really getting to me now. I have about a year's worth of diary/ screenshots of his inconsistant behavior also!