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Elephant9 · 28/08/2025 13:46

Just a chat to understand what’s going on with the influx of England and UJ flags all over the streets?

thoughts?
where did it stem from?
is it making you uncomfortable? (It is, me, but not entirely sure why)

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SanityLeftTheChat · 30/08/2025 18:38

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 30/08/2025 18:16

I haven’t said I think it’s more important than teenage girls being sexually assaulted and covered up by the authorities. I don’t. I think all attacks should be investigated and the perpetrators dealt with. I believe the perpetrators of the Rotherham assaults weren’t asylum seekers??? They were of Pakistan heritage

in 2010 there was a grooming gang in Cornwall, all white men (and one woman). 30 kids abused. Didn’t get as much media or public attention.

It’s hard to say for sure what the ethnic background of the majority of perpetrators overall, nationwide are.

bbc article said
A previous piece of research from 2015 found that of 1,231 perpetrators of "group and gang-based child sexual exploitation", 42% were white, 14% were defined as Asian or Asian British and 17% black.”

it does seem that a lot of people assume it’s always men of certain ethnic groups when that isn’t the case.

the Bolton grooming gang, all look white to me. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c89g293zj2ko

it’s nearly all men though. I’d say that men are the issue. Not Filipino nurses or the owners of Chinese take aways.

Why also do you seem to use the phrase may of may not have done when referring to hotel residents incidents

purely because you haven’t been specific about what incidents you’re talking about. So I don’t know what has or hasn’t been done. Maybe it’s true, maybe it’s social media fear mongering. 🤷‍♀️. You need to be specific.

the police should have followed up and dealt with the incident of the person you know. Bizarre that there was no crime ref number, no investigation. Have the parents complained? Gone to the press?

Why do I need to be specific? Are you expecting me to dox myself and reveal my location along details of victims names? What is your agenda there? Maybe you should just take people's word as you expect us to take your word that these are all hard working intelligent men who plan on boosting the economy. No further action was taken as the parents were strongly advised by the police to 'keep quiet' to prevent repercussions. Now if that isn't covering things up I don't know what is.

OK so you've done your research to show cases of white British people committing crimes, in particular sexual assault. The big difference here is they are prosecuted for it. I've never said white men don't commit crimes at any point, but do we really want to allowing more people to enter the country who will do that and in most cases never even be charged with anything. You are entitled to your opinion and it's clear you will never agree with anything else. I just pray that you or someone you know never becomes a victim at the hands of one of the hotel residents.

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 30/08/2025 18:23

DrCoconut · 30/08/2025 18:20

Our local council has been posting on their social media abut how great it is to see so many flags and how they are now offering help with buying flag poles for community groups. I get the logic that enabling people to display them properly may reduce the numbers being put all over and in unsafe places and waffling about how great they look will also appease a rather vocal group of people. However, I really think it's concerning that this suggests support for operation raise the colours which is not acceptable for a council in an inclusive, modern Britain. They will be hearing from me about it.

I’m amazed any local council have the money to buy flag poles when they seem to be struggling to fund essential services like bin collections, respite care and support mandated by EHPC reports. I’d be questioning them on that if I was local. Surely they have better things to spend tax payers money on?

DrCoconut · 30/08/2025 18:20

Our local council has been posting on their social media abut how great it is to see so many flags and how they are now offering help with buying flag poles for community groups. I get the logic that enabling people to display them properly may reduce the numbers being put all over and in unsafe places and waffling about how great they look will also appease a rather vocal group of people. However, I really think it's concerning that this suggests support for operation raise the colours which is not acceptable for a council in an inclusive, modern Britain. They will be hearing from me about it.

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 30/08/2025 18:16

SanityLeftTheChat · 30/08/2025 18:00

I'd be interested to hear why you think that is more important than teenage girls being sexually assaulted then it being covered up by the authorities. I'm in no way condoning those attacks you have mentioned in any way but why should this be publicised and the assailants vilified when incidents against British women and children are swept under the carpet daily. Why also do you seem to use the phrase may of may not have done when referring to hotel residents incidents. Do you not believe they happen or do you just want to ignore them till it's on your doorstep and happening to someone you know? I personally know of a young girl who was assaulted whilst waiting for a bus home from school after staying behind for exam revision session. She was surrounded by a group of males in a public place and touched inappropriately and forced to touch them whilst being threatened with a knife. When her parents reported it to the police they were simply told it will be dealt with. No crime reference number was issued, no follow ups done.

I haven’t said I think it’s more important than teenage girls being sexually assaulted and covered up by the authorities. I don’t. I think all attacks should be investigated and the perpetrators dealt with. I believe the perpetrators of the Rotherham assaults weren’t asylum seekers??? They were of Pakistan heritage

in 2010 there was a grooming gang in Cornwall, all white men (and one woman). 30 kids abused. Didn’t get as much media or public attention.

It’s hard to say for sure what the ethnic background of the majority of perpetrators overall, nationwide are.

bbc article said
A previous piece of research from 2015 found that of 1,231 perpetrators of "group and gang-based child sexual exploitation", 42% were white, 14% were defined as Asian or Asian British and 17% black.”

it does seem that a lot of people assume it’s always men of certain ethnic groups when that isn’t the case.

the Bolton grooming gang, all look white to me. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c89g293zj2ko

it’s nearly all men though. I’d say that men are the issue. Not Filipino nurses or the owners of Chinese take aways.

Why also do you seem to use the phrase may of may not have done when referring to hotel residents incidents

purely because you haven’t been specific about what incidents you’re talking about. So I don’t know what has or hasn’t been done. Maybe it’s true, maybe it’s social media fear mongering. 🤷‍♀️. You need to be specific.

the police should have followed up and dealt with the incident of the person you know. Bizarre that there was no crime ref number, no investigation. Have the parents complained? Gone to the press?

A composite image of the mugshots of Corey Barret, Richard Haslam and Jack Poulson.

Six men from 'depraved' Bolton grooming gang jailed

A further six men from a ten-man Bolton gang that abused under-age girls for years are sentenced.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c89g293zj2ko

CurlewKate · 30/08/2025 18:10

I have seen several cases of immigrant men being charged and convicted of sexual offences. Are those the ones people are talking about? Lot is there evidence of others?

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 30/08/2025 18:01

Why? Bet the knuckle dragger who did this enjoys a good Chinese takeaway..

Flags..
SanityLeftTheChat · 30/08/2025 18:00

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 30/08/2025 17:50

Feel free to discuss any incident you want. Go on, please do. But I’d be interested first of all to hear what you think about the nurse getting beaten up and told to fuck off back on her dinghy.

Or are you saying two wrongs deserve a right? Are you saying a Filipino nurse deserves to get beaten up because of what some unrelated hotel resident may or may not have done?

I'd be interested to hear why you think that is more important than teenage girls being sexually assaulted then it being covered up by the authorities. I'm in no way condoning those attacks you have mentioned in any way but why should this be publicised and the assailants vilified when incidents against British women and children are swept under the carpet daily. Why also do you seem to use the phrase may of may not have done when referring to hotel residents incidents. Do you not believe they happen or do you just want to ignore them till it's on your doorstep and happening to someone you know? I personally know of a young girl who was assaulted whilst waiting for a bus home from school after staying behind for exam revision session. She was surrounded by a group of males in a public place and touched inappropriately and forced to touch them whilst being threatened with a knife. When her parents reported it to the police they were simply told it will be dealt with. No crime reference number was issued, no follow ups done.

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 30/08/2025 17:50

SanityLeftTheChat · 30/08/2025 17:44

Should we discuss all the incidents with hotel residents that have been caught on film? Or are people still trying to pretend they don't happen? There is a hell of a lot of racism present on this thread but only towards white British people.

Feel free to discuss any incident you want. Go on, please do. But I’d be interested first of all to hear what you think about the nurse getting beaten up and told to fuck off back on her dinghy.

Or are you saying two wrongs deserve a right? Are you saying a Filipino nurse deserves to get beaten up because of what some unrelated hotel resident may or may not have done?

ACynicalDad · 30/08/2025 17:47

I have no problem with flags everywhere, but do wish they use a stencil. Some of the painting looks really crap.

SanityLeftTheChat · 30/08/2025 17:44

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 30/08/2025 17:40

But the flags are emboldening the racists. People are thinking it’s acceptable to tell people to “go back to where they came from”

And then you get incidents like what’s happened this week in Halifax where an nhs nurse of Filipino descent has been beaten in a park by a white couple who were screaming at her to get back on her fucking rubber dinghy. All captured on mobile phone.

a friend of mine confronted two blokes in town yesterday who were ranting at non white people to go back to where they came from. Again she filmed it all.

the amount of racist abuse and attacks in the last few weeks has rocketed

Should we discuss all the incidents with hotel residents that have been caught on film? Or are people still trying to pretend they don't happen? There is a hell of a lot of racism present on this thread but only towards white British people.

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 30/08/2025 17:40

But the flags are emboldening the racists. People are thinking it’s acceptable to tell people to “go back to where they came from”

And then you get incidents like what’s happened this week in Halifax where an nhs nurse of Filipino descent has been beaten in a park by a white couple who were screaming at her to get back on her fucking rubber dinghy. All captured on mobile phone.

a friend of mine confronted two blokes in town yesterday who were ranting at non white people to go back to where they came from. Again she filmed it all.

the amount of racist abuse and attacks in the last few weeks has rocketed

HangryLikeTheHulk · 30/08/2025 17:40

BlueJuniper94 · 30/08/2025 17:16

Define patriotism

Patriotism is love of country, a sense of belonging and pride that can live alongside honest criticism and the wish to make it better.

Nationalism (the flag thing) is different: it elevates the nation above others, often in exclusionary ways, demanding loyalty and rejecting criticism. One is rooted in affection and responsibility, the other in superiority and division.

CurlewKate · 30/08/2025 17:38

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 30/08/2025 17:26

WTF?? Hope someone got that on film.

I hope so too. I would have done, but frankly I was too scared.

FuckOffWithYourEllipses · 30/08/2025 17:26

CurlewKate · 30/08/2025 16:18

There were young men in the Main Street of our small market town (where the only non white people are one of the GPs and the owners and workers in the Chinese and Indian restaurants) waving St George’s flags and chanting “Seig Heil”. Can’t see why anyone would find that remotely alarming. They were only protecting our women and children from a middle aged GP, and some restaurant owners and workers..

WTF?? Hope someone got that on film.

SleeplessInWherever · 30/08/2025 17:17

SeptaUnellasBell · 30/08/2025 17:05

I’m not angry at you love! I’m angry that when things were happening to children in this country, not just Rotherham (you’d have to be really ignorant to not have heard of Rochdale or any other of the towns!) you were all nowhere to be seen. None of you are willing to be seen now either. I’d hazard a guess that 99% of the people on this thread didn’t do anything. But shouting about flags and racism is easy isn’t it? It’s hypocritical.

Nowhere have I said rioting outside hotels or setting stuff on fire is acceptable, it isn’t. But that’s not what a flag is doing id it? Incidentally, I don’t have a flag either!

Edited

It’s not ignorance, we all live in our own bubbles. You know as well as I do that the working class bubble can be small.

I wasn’t looking for that information in my early 20s, and it wasn’t being made available to me.

Many of the flag people are the same concerned citizens as last year’s riots, in a movement endorsed by the same public figures. It’s an insult to anyone’s intelligence to suggest otherwise.

BlueJuniper94 · 30/08/2025 17:16

HangryLikeTheHulk · 28/08/2025 13:51

There’s a good exposé here:

https://xcancel.com/docrussjackson/status/1958229505706971418#m

It’s far-right instigated and funded. People joining in are useful idiots. Nothing at all patriotic about it.

Define patriotism

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 30/08/2025 17:14

They look threatening

why do they look threatening?

There are foreign looking people in my home town hanging around. They’re not speaking English, they aren’t white, they have deliveroo and just eat bags. I’m assuming they are probably immigrants of some sort, I see them coming and going from the hotel round the corner where asylum seekers are based.

I don’t feel threatened by them. They haven’t approached me for money. The only people who ask me for money are the white English “homeless” people in shop doorways.

I volunteer for a homeless charity in the town by the way, I wonder how many of the people suddenly concerned that immigrants get housing over “our homeless “ volunteer.

also asylum seekers aren’t illegal immigrants. It’s legal to claim asylum. 1951 refugee convention. Around half of asylum applications are granted, so they must have had a reason for being allowed to stay. Many others win their appeals. I do agree the process should be quicker and people who aren’t granted asylum should be made to leave.

Eaglemom · 30/08/2025 17:08

TheNoonBell · 28/08/2025 14:02

I think they look great. Nice to see them flown outside of sporting events for a change.

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You like seeing the England flag being flown with the sole racist purpose of intimidating people?
Oh lovely.

SeptaUnellasBell · 30/08/2025 17:05

SleeplessInWherever · 30/08/2025 16:55

You read and understood what I said.

What’s with the anger? You seem deeply offended that I’m not from your exact postcode.

I’m not a traitor to the people of Rotherham for not believing that it’s acceptable to shouty march outside of hotels and set stuff on fire.

It isn’t, end of story.

I’m not angry at you love! I’m angry that when things were happening to children in this country, not just Rotherham (you’d have to be really ignorant to not have heard of Rochdale or any other of the towns!) you were all nowhere to be seen. None of you are willing to be seen now either. I’d hazard a guess that 99% of the people on this thread didn’t do anything. But shouting about flags and racism is easy isn’t it? It’s hypocritical.

Nowhere have I said rioting outside hotels or setting stuff on fire is acceptable, it isn’t. But that’s not what a flag is doing id it? Incidentally, I don’t have a flag either!

CherrieTomaties · 30/08/2025 17:00

SleeplessInWherever · 30/08/2025 16:55

You read and understood what I said.

What’s with the anger? You seem deeply offended that I’m not from your exact postcode.

I’m not a traitor to the people of Rotherham for not believing that it’s acceptable to shouty march outside of hotels and set stuff on fire.

It isn’t, end of story.

I’m from Rotherham. Still live here now.

Please ignore the poster trying to shame you. You absolutely do not have to explain yourself.

SleeplessInWherever · 30/08/2025 16:55

SeptaUnellasBell · 30/08/2025 16:48

At 24 years old, you weren’t aware of 1400 girls being raped and worse in just one town alone? Not the rest of the towns with the same issues up and down the country? Not one little nugget of information about it? Social Media was a thing then yeah? I wonder why that is. What have you done since about it still happening?

Have you publicly supported Sammy Woodhouse, another of Rotherham’s victims, who had a child with her rapist. He was one of the few who went to prison for it, in her campaign to stop fathers of children born to rape being able to be granted parental responsibility like what he did? Surely you have publicly supported that? Or would that be racist too?

You read and understood what I said.

What’s with the anger? You seem deeply offended that I’m not from your exact postcode.

I’m not a traitor to the people of Rotherham for not believing that it’s acceptable to shouty march outside of hotels and set stuff on fire.

It isn’t, end of story.

SeptaUnellasBell · 30/08/2025 16:52

R0ckandHardPlace · 30/08/2025 16:45

And what did YOU do when ten times as many girls were being abused by white British men?

Campaigned. As I have done since it happened to me. Girls being abused is, what shall I say, very close to my heart, after what I went through. I think you’re getting yourself in a muddle tho - which white, British grooming gang, were protected by police, social services, local and national government because of racial tensions and community cohesion? Which is still ongoing.

SeptaUnellasBell · 30/08/2025 16:48

SleeplessInWherever · 30/08/2025 16:39

Honest answer?

Nothing. I was 23 in 2013, obviously therefore 24 in 2014.

At that age, I didn’t know where Rotherham was, nevermind anything that went on there. The whole thing will have gone directly over my head.

I can’t recall what I was doing at 23, working in a call centre I think. Possibly. But I know I wasn’t watching the news.

At 24 years old, you weren’t aware of 1400 girls being raped and worse in just one town alone? Not the rest of the towns with the same issues up and down the country? Not one little nugget of information about it? Social Media was a thing then yeah? I wonder why that is. What have you done since about it still happening?

Have you publicly supported Sammy Woodhouse, another of Rotherham’s victims, who had a child with her rapist. He was one of the few who went to prison for it, in her campaign to stop fathers of children born to rape being able to be granted parental responsibility like what he did? Surely you have publicly supported that? Or would that be racist too?

SleeplessInWherever · 30/08/2025 16:48

R0ckandHardPlace · 30/08/2025 16:43

I saw a government post this week stating that it’s a myth that we give them phones. It’s asylum charities that provide them, not the taxpayer.

@MyFoodBillHasGoneUpAgain You are very typical of a UK public who sees a couple of bad apples, and extrapolates their wrongdoing to taint an entire demographic. The facts are there.

These ‘luxury’ hotel rooms have been stripped of facilities and had three extra beds stuck in there. I’m not sure how hard up you’d have to be yourself to describe a Travelodge with no TV as “luxurious”.

They get £9 a day for food, clothes, toiletries, phone top ups, transport, haircuts etc. That is NOT a luxury lifestyle. It’s poverty. These are facts, easily verifiable facts.

If some toe-rag is crammed into a room full of designer goods then he’s obviously obtained them by nefarious means and should face the full force of the law.

But using that anger against entirely innocent people who have done no wrong, and are living an absolute dog’s life in limbo in awful conditions waiting for their asylum application to be dealt with is cruel, unfair and really stupid. There are far more asylum seekers who take their own lives than rich ones poncing of the government.

It’s the same as fucking idiots who see a person on PIP going on holiday, and declare that all disabled people are scamming fraudsters and resent their meagre benefits. It’s a vile trait that makes me feel ashamed to be British.

This.

There are 3 of us in my house. If you filled my fridge with food (which isn’t how they’re fed, they’re given essentially bread and rice) and then £27… we’d be skint within the day.

They’re absolutely not welcomed in with luxury.

R0ckandHardPlace · 30/08/2025 16:45

SeptaUnellasBell · 30/08/2025 16:32

I’m asking you, someone who is so vocal in what you think is right or wrong, to tell us all what you did when thousands of little white British girls up and down the country, were being groomed, raped vaginally, orally and anally, trafficked, threatened (along with their families), tortured and inpregnated for being white working class - sub-human in the eyes of the groups of Pakistani Muslims with the full support of their wives who knew all about it. Little girls who were not protected by police, the local governments or other authorities because of ‘cohesion’ and a fear of being labelled racist. What did you come and say then? What did you say when the Jay report was released in 2014?

What did any of you, who are throwing strops about flags, do then?

And what did YOU do when ten times as many girls were being abused by white British men?