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MIL wrong or AIBU?

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ImGonnaKeepOnDancing · 28/08/2025 12:30

My MIL looked after my DD yesterday as I had an appointment that she couldn’t come along to and today my DD wanted to paint my nails so was showing me the things MIL gave her while there. Thinks like hair clips, nail varnish, stick on nails - all fine BUT here’s where I’m not sure if it’s me or her that’s wrong. She gave her glue on nails (like what I’d wear for a night out) my DD is 8!

MIL didn’t ask if it was okay with me or my DH and didn’t mention it when we were there yesterday and telling us the things she had given to DD.

I think the glue on nails are inappropriate for an 8 year old. 1. The glue will damage her developing nail beds and 2. They just seem too grown up for her.

I mentioned them to my DH who is working today when called me on his lunch break and he didn’t respond to it at all, just said “oh I’ll have to go because I need to eat lunch or I won’t have time”

So AIBU or was MIL out of line?

Just to add that I have a good relationship with MIL and she helps us out a lot and has been there for me when I lost my own mum and is amazing with my DD but I feel she has overstepped with these.

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smallpinecone · 28/08/2025 12:38

Don’t make a big deal out of this. She sounds like a lovely grandmother.

KrisAkabusi · 28/08/2025 12:37

It wouldn't occur to me that something like that would need parental permission. How is she supposed to know that there's an arbitrary distinction in your head between glue-on and stick-on?

waitingforever · 28/08/2025 12:32

It isn’t a big deal at all. Don’t overthink … she didn’t ’overstepped’ or anything. Count your blessings to have a lovely MIL and a grandma to your daughter. Gently mention it if you have to.

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