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To think it’s not sad to go for dinner at a fancy hotel used for filming?

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tarregone · 28/08/2025 11:00

We are on holiday in Sicily and near a hotel used for filming of a famous tv show. It has a very well rated restaurant located in said fancy hotel.

I thought it might be fun to go for a nice dinner at the hotel. DP says it’s sad to only want to go somewhere because it was used for filming. He thinks it’s a bit sad really, especially because we couldn’t afford to stay at the hotel. He thinks it’s wannabe to go and snoop around a posh place where we could only afford dinner

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Ilovelblue · 28/08/2025 15:32

A friend and I had dinner in a hotel used for filming a series we were totally hooked on at the time. I got somebody else to arrange the exact table the main characters used. It's a good few years ago now and I'm not sure she ever realised it wasn't a coincidence where we sat! I can still laugh about it to this day.

TheGreatWesternShrew · 28/08/2025 15:24

I think it’s a very normal thing to do actually. People like to see beautiful places used for film sets because it adds a layer of interest.

Is your husband normally so nasty to you?

Sunnyscribe · 28/08/2025 15:21

Possibly it feels pretentious to go somewhere like this when it's not in keeping with his ordinary lifestyle, he would feel out of place, trying to be something he's not, that sort of thing.

Not judging it as good or bad but that's my view on the psychology behind it.

IzzyHandsIsMySpiritAnimal · 28/08/2025 15:20

It's exactly the sort of thing I'd do.
A few years ago we spent a few weekends visiting various filming locations for a series DC had enjoyed watching. It was really interesting to see them 'in the flesh'.

ZoeCM · 28/08/2025 15:17

He sounds completely up himself.

Keyhooks · 28/08/2025 15:13

He sounds sad.
A fun sucker.
Head off yourself.

C152 · 28/08/2025 15:10

Restaurants are for enjoying delicious food. If the location/surroundings are good enough to be filmed, then surely that suggests an even more pleasant experience? Go and enjoy your meal, OP. (Leave DH in the hotel if he's going to sulk.)

Allisnotlost1 · 28/08/2025 15:05

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 28/08/2025 11:12

#TeamOP

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OP this is a very normal thing to do. People stand outside the front door that appeared in the movie Notting Hill. I would draw the line at that, but fancy hotel that appeared in a show you like? Get in. If he doesn’t like it, leave him behind.

party4you · 28/08/2025 15:04

Different people have different ideas of fun. I’m not sure I’d call it sad but it wouldn’t interest me in the slightest and I’d rather go somewhere which is known for nice food / somewhere I’d enjoy.

godmum56 · 28/08/2025 15:02

BriceNobeslovesMurielHeslop · 28/08/2025 15:00

Ooooh @tarregone if it’s White Lotus and your husband relents, please take lots of photos and report back.

bugger relenting just go without him

Robin67 · 28/08/2025 15:01

He sounds like a horrifically boring person to be married to and to go on holiday with.

BriceNobeslovesMurielHeslop · 28/08/2025 15:00

Ooooh @tarregone if it’s White Lotus and your husband relents, please take lots of photos and report back.

TheNeatCoralCat · 28/08/2025 15:00

It’s definitely not sad to want to do that - I would suggest the same thing! Men can be funny about money and status etc, maybe a bit of him feels bad that he can’t afford to treat you to a stay there and it’s making him defensive. Push to go but nicely.

Bepo77 · 28/08/2025 14:56

Does he tend to be contrarian in other contexts? Sounds more like a personality thing than an actual dislike of nice dinners.

whynotwhatknot · 28/08/2025 14:50

everyone does it if the food is good why not

RaddledOldSandal · 28/08/2025 14:40

Your DH is a total party pooper! It’s great seeing filming locations. When we were in Cambridge my DH happily allowed me to drag him to Grantchester for lunch, even though he knows I mostly liked the show because James Norton was dressed as a vicar! 😍

Harry12345 · 28/08/2025 14:40

Dh is sad

Poshjock · 28/08/2025 14:36

Meh, my whole wedding was planned around my husband's love for Home Alone 2 Lost in New York.

He actually wanted to get married in the Plaza but we couldn't afford that so ate there a couple of times instead. We have pictures at the the little bridge in Central Park and the angel christmas lights outside Rockefeller Centre purely because the feature so heavily in the film. Likewise we spent a lot of time in FAO Schwarz (also features in Big).

When we first talked about getting married and I said I wanted to get married abroad, he instantly said New York - and it was purely because of Home Alone. Oh and yes, we had to get married at Christmas. I kid you not.

YANBU

godmum56 · 28/08/2025 14:35

Not sad at all. I'd tell him if he doesn't want to go he doesn't have to but you are going. I too have had a Singapore Sling in Raffles, in the 70's before it was renovated, been for drinks and lunch at the Singapore Hilton around the same time. Have a lovely time.

StupidRules · 28/08/2025 14:30

Depend on the hotel and the show really. If it was a show you loved and the hotel and setting were particularly beautiful then I don't see it as an odd thing to want to do. Plenty of people visit Edinburgh and York because of certain streets featured in Harry Potter for example.

MyMilchick · 28/08/2025 14:26

Of course it isn't, he's being a weirdo

NachoChip · 28/08/2025 14:26

If it's open to non-residents, then it would be the norm for diners to go and enjoy a meal there not just those staying and so who, prey tell, is going to be the ones thinking you're sad? Methinks DH has a bit of an insecurity.

NachoChip · 28/08/2025 14:25

If it's open to non-residents, then it would be the norm for diners to go and enjoy a meal there not just those staying and so who, prey tell, is going to be the ones thinking you're sad? Methinks DH has a bit of an insecurity.

PigletSanders · 28/08/2025 14:22

Your husband’s inferiority complex is showing. He’s besieged by feelings of inadequacy, and wants to stay within his small comfort zone.

Now THAT is sad.

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