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Freak0000 · 28/08/2025 08:58

I don't think I'm being unreasonable so I suppose it's just a rant.
I know nobody owes anyone anything and so on, but are you only supposed to have conversation and interaction with people in your immediate vicinity? If acquaintances and so on don't respond are you meant to accept that as normal and just accept not speaking with many people?

Friend recently had second baby, about 2 months ago. I guess it's unreasonable to let them know you'd love to come and meet their new baby whenever they feel ready for it, yes I know theyre overwhelmed and tired etc. But they've been posting plenty on social media, 2 weeks ago and no reply. I should've just shown zero interest.

I'm renting my home out and a lad came to view it, told me he wanted to take it and put down holding deposit etc. , I sent him the details and never heard from him again. He could've sent a quick message saying sorry I've changed my mind?

A childhood family friend who also had a baby, as a family we sent her a gift and never even got a thank you, another one where I said I'd love to meet her baby and never heard back again?

I must frighten young children, or these people perhaps don't want anyone other than their 'little family bubble' involved?

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Tracklement · 28/08/2025 09:10

Do you have children op?

Tracklement · 28/08/2025 09:10

How long ago did you send the gift?

and all these examples (bizarrely) involve new mothers

leave them alone for goodness sakes. They’re busy!

ComfortFoodCafe · 28/08/2025 09:09

when mine were newborns, I hated people coming over. Hard enough looking after a baby, drowning in bottles, laundry and housework while sleep deprived & having to entertain guests. Maybe they are the same?

Tracklement · 28/08/2025 09:09

He have you the deposit? And then didn’t bother progressing?

and it’s a case of these people not really regarding you as a close friend as you do them, which is their prerogative

ChilliChoco · 28/08/2025 09:06

With the friends with babies, why not suggest a few dates yourself? I wasn't that into organising or taking the initiative in those early baby days, but if someone said " can I come over this weekend or next Thursday afternoon?", I'd have loved that.

Hatwontfit · 28/08/2025 09:02

Yes that is odd. Communication is sometimes lacking with people. I'd have been flattered and delighted.

Freak0000 · 28/08/2025 08:59

I've no children but I'd be really flattered if someone wanted to take the time to meet mine. Even if I weren't up to it I'd at least thank them and let them know when they could?!

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