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Anyone else not like doing anything?

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happy2bstill · 27/08/2025 20:19

Would just like to preface this by saying I am definitely not depressed. Haven't got social anxiety. And have a very happy, stable marriage. And a little family.

Today we've been out on a family day, think trampolining, pedal boats, shopping, lunch at a restaurant, that sort of thing.
I strongly disliked 95% of it, for no reason.
Boats were the best thing. But everything else is just blah, overpriced and mind numbing.
This extends into all areas if my life, I have no hobbies, no interests, nothing that gets me excited, other than the boring, mundane of everyday life (being home, working, family life, Church etc) that's about all I enjoy. Sometimes going for a nice walk.

I can't stand any organised activities that I'm supposed to like, cannot for the life of me understand why people enjoy shopping, pubs, weddings, holidays, travel, cinema, hobbies, classes (like yoga) exercise, social events, parties, festivals, days out etc etc.
I don't even like books 😒

I'm not moaning, I'm just wondering if anyone else is like this? As I said, I am genuinely happy and enjoy my life, until we have to do something 'enjoyable'.

Maybe it's peri-menopause? I've always been this way inclined, but currently it has ramped up to a whole new level. I want to enjoy different experiences, I just don't. And have no desire to try and enjoy things.

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AllJoyAndNoFun · 27/08/2025 20:33

It could be peri to an extent (I am not dissimilar in that I CBA with some stuff I used to like) but I think there's also an element of there being certain things that we are supposed to like and if you don't it is considered weird, but there may also be some random shit that doesn't seem that enjoyable on the face of it but that you find weirdly satisfying (my neighbour does litter picks and loves it- he has a FB page and other people have joined in) . I think the key is just to try that random shit and see what sticks.

Hatty65 · 27/08/2025 20:29

I'm like this to a certain extent, but I'm 60 and happy. I used to be much more sociable, now I'm perfectly happy pottering at home and doing very little. I've done a lot of travelling in my time and a high pressured career. I used to mix with lots of people on a daily basis.

I now find that I really just enjoy the small stuff in life and I genuinely can't be arsed with anything else. I find life noisy - I can't think of much worse than sitting through a music gig, or going to a festival. I loathe motorways, crowded airports and people in general. I don't want to spend my evenings (or days) pasting on a smile and spending time, energy and money on shit I don't want to do.

I would much rather be at home with a coffee, reading in the garden. Unlike you, I do like books, but I don't like tv or movies. I don't want to spend 2 hours sitting through a film.

Radicalpiloti · 27/08/2025 20:27

You just sound extremely boring. I assume if you don’t do any of those things (socialising, exploring, films, books) you’re just watching TV and going to church. But if you’re happy so what?

DesperatelySeekingHelp · 27/08/2025 20:25

I like taking my dog for a walk and going for a quiet coffee / drink with my husband or friends.

Didimum · 27/08/2025 20:24

What DO you like doing?

DesperatelySeekingHelp · 27/08/2025 20:24

Also when I see people at concerts etc I couldn’t think of anything worse.

DesperatelySeekingHelp · 27/08/2025 20:23

I am the same to a certain extent. Most things I find boring. Nothing really excites me. I do think I might possibly have undiagnosed inattentive ADHD tho.

I really can’t be bothered to do anything outside of every day tasks like work etc. I do like to go on holiday but any activities at said holiday I find boring.

Putthekettleon73 · 27/08/2025 20:23

Hmm are you content? Im someone that constantly craves new and interesting things. I have to get out the house most days even if it's just for a walk. But I'd say that wasn't contentment. Sometimes I'm happy to be cosy inside on my own but only with a good book or good telly. I find as I get older I need other people/friends less as my family take up more and more of my energy! But I love a lunch our sometimes and cinema etc.

But if you feel happily content at home that's fine. What makes you happy/on an evening keel? Baking? Cooking? Does good food and a nice cup of tea satisfy you? If so hard off to you. Xx

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