Anyone else not like doing anything?

I don’t relate - I feel things very strongly, like a good book, a gig, a happy time. But I think the people saying someone else’s life being different means they are boring are being fucking rude.

There is a condition where you can’t enjoy life. I think it’s seen as a symptom of other conditions rather than a standalone. Anhedonia. I have had it as a symptom of depression. It’s maybe worth looking into what it might be a symptom of? But if it’s normal for you and you’re happy enough, then ignore.

So people should live in a way they won't enjoy in order to honour people who will never know how they lived?

This doesn't offend me at all, because it makes no sense!

You sound a lot like my mum. She could probably be diagnosed with agoraphobia, but she insists she just loves being at home and doesn't enjoy x,y or z. Her conversations are incredibly limited - the weather, that she's put the bins out, what she's having/had for dinner, that kind of thing.

As her daughter it really frustrates and upsets me just how little she is doing with her life. I suspect it makes her risk of dementia much higher too.

Yes the things are all commonly done (although pedal boats are pretty missable!) but some people do feel content living quietly.

Do you feel uncomfortable if people are a bit different to you?

I don't think its based on insecurities, who would feel insecure about the fact they do more with life than this?

Look a quiet life is fine, its a free country and people should do whatever makes them happy.

But life is a gift. When there are people in the world living in extreme deprivation, someone who is so willfully shutting out anything fun and restricting their life in this way just makes me feel sad. Sorry if that offends you.

This. Although the OP doesn’t appear to have enjoyed her ‘little family day out’, either.

As I have got older I have occasionally started to enjoy a holiday, or a gig. It's usually when I let go of worrying how everyone else is enjoying it. I genuinely used to not get it before, and be dying to get home. But staying in and doing nothing is pretty awesome. I love work.

I find it odd that you don't enjoy any of the millions of books and films in the world. Not one?

But all the things the OP describes are ordinary life. Going on a pedal boat with your children, socialising, shopping, exercising, going on holidays.

I love my ordinary what people would call boring life. I think that’s a great way to be! My favourite place is home and whenever I’m out and about or at events all I think is when can I go home and sit with a cup of tea 😅

Maybe op just wanks 24/7. She’s ruled everything else out

I find a lot of organised events underwhelming, and sometimes have a hard time thinking of what, in particular, I’d like to do.

But I tend to enjoy most things I do do, and I rapidly start to feel trapped and restless and despairing if my days are too mundane and samey and I’m not moving through different environments.

I’m always jealous of people who can say with absolute certainty that they want to spend the solstice at Stonehenge, or go to Disneyland, or go dog sledding in Iceland, or learn to play the accordion or whatever.

I can see how I might find those things fun and interesting if I had to do them on an assignment for work or something, but I’d never have a hankering to do them.

You sound bored and boring tbh. There are literally millions of books in the world how can you not like any of them? Same with hobbies. I think it's extremely dull to not be interested in anything.

what do you mean you enjoy family life? isn’t that all the stuff you just mentioned - doing activities with your family? i’m finding it hard to think what you mean outside of this. doing the kids’ dinners and baths and so on?

how do you pass the time when the kids are in bed?

i think you sound very different to me and maybe even to most people but i don’t think that’s a bad thing. be who you are and don’t force yourself to enjoy things you know you don’t

As someone who supposedly believes in God, I think your outlook is a little strange, yes. I don’t believe in anything other than science and the chances of you being here are about a billion to one. So please try to make the most of it. Once you’re dead that’s it. There’s nothing but worm food.

I like doing most stuff but primarily because i enjoy hanging out with other humans in general

The things you didn’t enjoy on the family day out sound quite child-centred and I can imagine many adults find them boring. If you like nice walks, make that the focus of some family time.

I'm not a huge fan of many of the things you listed. But I have found things that I DO like.

It's OK not to like stuff that most people like. You like family and church - that's OK too, if you're content. But if not, try other random stuff to see if you like them.

I also think saying you don't like books, holidays, sports etc is rather broad. I suspect most people could find SOMETHING they liked in all of those categories, they're so broad.

Maybe you'd like Twilight rather than War and Peace, or Three Men in a Boat rather than The Kite Runner.

Maybe you'd hate hiking in the Himalayas but love a holiday learning pottery. Or skiing instead of lying on the beach. Or some kind of volunteering vs camping.

Maybe you'd like ceroc rather than jogging, or octopush rather than bowls. Or gardening in an allotment.

I often find I don't enjoy things if I feel like it's overpriced, so I do try and seek value for money. The pressure of "I must enjoy this because it cost so much" often spoils it for me.

PS if you like your work I think you're lucky, I've never had a job I didn't hate.

What's always interesting is how furious some people get when someone feels happy enough in their ordinary life.

The reality is that some people like to do a lot and some people like a quiet life.

Anyone who gets personal/critical about the other choice reveals their own insecurities.

What were you like pre kids/ when you were younger?

I mean if you’re happy then fine but what do you do with your time, what do you have to talk to friends or family, or people at church about?

Do you work? Do you get any satisfaction from that?

What will you do when your family grow up and have their own lives, what if they decide to up sticks and move to Australia?

Why does it not surprise me that you have a "little family"....

Honestly your life sounds excruciatingly boring and I would go nuts if I lived like you. But you do you etc. You don't need anyone else's permission to live a very narrow and dull life.

It sounds very boring, what do you talk about?

You're a person who enjoys being home, working, family life, Church.

You don't have to do the other stuff (except maybe weddings etc) and if you're content in your ordinary life you're very lucky.

Why are you questioning yourself if you know what you like and feel content?

I'm like you to a certain extent; don't like social or planned events. But I would put your church in there as well:).

I do love reading, walking in the nature, swimming. Just not a social butterfly I suppose.