Anyone else not like doing anything?

Not everyone is able to gain any enjoyment from reading, though. DP has ADHD and dyslexia, if anything reading seems to distress him.

The same knowledge can be gained from documentaries, movies, etc.

We need to team up - I hate researching and booking holidays but love going on them!

Be my travel agent!

Initially I was with you - I have a coworker who has an activity planned for every day of the week - because the thought of having hobbies/activities that I must attend sounds miserable, but I admit not enjoying anything is a bit much for me.

When you say you don’t like holidays, is this any holidays at all or just certain types?

Not everyone has to like books, but what do you like doing besides church and home? I don’t know, for yourself?

(I don’t think there’s anything “wrong” with it, I’m just curious)

Gosh so many rude people on here. What happened to live and let live?

I hear you! Not everyone is blessed with a ‘passion’ - my sister often says she wishes she had a ‘passion’ like me (mine is animal welfare - dogs, cats -canine/feline behaviour mainly, but also horses, donkeys and British nature, trees etc..). And sociology, politics/geopolitics (weird combo I guess).
I feel like I was born with an innate interest and concern/love for animals, but it was encouraged by my experiences as a child /upbringing, I guess. DSis more sporty, as are the rest of my family. I can’t stand sport or anything competitive. And anything that is ‘organised fun’ has always been ‘organised hell’ for me. I’m not completely anti social, but I can only do a couple of hours in the company of others, which I enjoy, but it has to be time limited, then I crave my own time.
I have also got less social as I got older - all fairly normal. You don’t ‘have to have a hobby’ or explain your lack of, to anyone. My BFF enjoys art, cannabis, sleeping, hiding under her duvet and reading and also wishing she could go to bed for a year. Yes, she has been depressed, but a change of meds has worked wonders for her. The cannabis has been a lifelong habit that she loves - I couldn’t think of anything less appealing, but I enjoy nice glass of wine. She’s allergic to alcohol. The only thing we have in common really is our shared family history, our love of (now being) anti social and the love of our homes/duvets!
Stop ruminating about it and one day you may well find yourself knee deep in a craft/business/keeping chickens/ helping a charity… if not, and you are happy, so be it. You don’t owe a ‘hobby or interest’ to anyone-just enjoy your lovely family.

There could be a MH cause, but the exact same can apply to busy people.
Some people feel they need to stay busy because they can't bear their thoughts, or because they've been socialised to live that way.

I think it sounds quite healthy to find enough joy in your day-to-day - working, family life and so on. And I totally understand not liking for example concerts or festivals.

I do find it a bit odd to not like any books or any films or any kind of travel or holiday though.

I feel like this lot, not always, but frequently. My husband on the other hand enjoys everything. I wish I was different but I’d just be pretending. I don’t understand why I’m like this but I suspect I’m not neurotypical, have a poor imagination and get bored easily and this combination gives me a low threshold of enjoyment.

Merely pointing out that the OP is contradicting herself. She says she likes ‘family life’. Family life does not involve staying indoors. Days out, such as the one the OP describes, are a normal part of family life.

I think the OP sounds practically dead, personally.

@TheBerry

At least she’s happy. I’d rather be happy and boring than somebody who gets irrationally angry at other people for just living their lives without hurting anyone.

I’m not remotely angry.

I could’ve written your post. I’ve just had the summer off work and I’ve happily done nothing. I’ve pottered, phone scrolled and been in my own head. Any ‘activities’ have just got in the way of that. YANBU.

Are you interested in your children OP? I might not want to go on a boat but I would enjoy taking my children on one, to see how THEY enjoyed it.

I don’t know if it’s the same OP, but I love booking interesting things, holidays, days out etc and look forward to them but as soon as I’m actually doing them I lose interest and tbh can’t be arsed with whatever it was I looked forward to for weeks 🤣

At least she’s happy. I’d rather be happy and boring than somebody who gets irrationally angry at other people for just living their lives without hurting anyone.

do you work full time? Is your job a bit full on? I know when I was working full time in a stressful job, I wanted my evenings and weekends to be about rest and catching up with housework/errends. I didn’t need lots of additional stimulation.

Hopefully you’ll find something’s you enjoy as your dcs grow up and you wind down to retirement or else it’s going to be hard. Theres always some people who have nothing but work and struggle when that ends, but then you mention the church so perhaps you can get more involved there.

i'd find anyone who said they don't enjoy 'books' alarming tbh.

Books/reading are the window to knowledge, to escapism, to learning. Anyone who wilfully avoids reading is, imho, concerningly insular, or wilfully seeking to be uneducated.

You might be digging a pearl there. My father raised me to never believe in friendships , according to him everyone out there was to scam me. Why go on holiday, just study, work and give him credit. I chose not to believe him and had friends and toured Europe.

He was religious also but in a horrible way. Something resonating here, op or not

What will happen when your little family gets bigger and moves away first to university and then possibly to the other end of the country/overseas? How will you fill your time then?

What will you talk about to your DH? Other than your DC, what do you talk about now?

I'm also wondering if you have anhedonia.

And if you were perfectly content, would you be posting about this state of mind on Mumsnet?

@verycloakanddaggers

So people should live in a way they won't enjoy in order to honour people who will never know how they lived?

No. I've said twice now people should live as they wish to. The OP is very free to live any life she chooses.

Do I think it's a high quality life or want it for myself? No.

If I'm being brutally honest I've met people like this IRL and I've always suspected its because of either a very limited or limiting upbringing or extreme social anxiety, or because they've been socialised to believe that their family should be enough for them (as a lot of women are). I don't think its natural for human beings to want to live a life almost entirely devoid of any kind of stimulation or interest and I suspect this is something the OP has been brought up to think she should feel.

But as I've said, it's her life.

everyone is different, but I think its strange to be so.. uninspired as you, and possibly unhealthy to have zero interests.

Your idea of things you enjoy would bore me to death quite frankly.

Lady, go on scenic drives ....this is fun.

I don't like crowded things, so days out to crowded places are not enjoyable. And as I get older I enjoy pottering gently at home much more. But I do love days out to quiet places, travelling, theatre, swimming, cycling. So can't really relate. But does it matter? You are content, that's all that matters.

I thought you sounded quite reasonable until you said you don't like books .

I get all you say. But you don't like books...not even a Bible ?? What denomination are you ? Church is still a social space

Am I the only person who.doesn't want to spend all year round with my little family? Admittedly my DC are young adults and don't want to spend all their time with me! But I would be so bored never seeing anyone else.