Anyone else not like doing anything?

Nothing weird about that. If I didn't have kids I wouldn't do all the family funfairs, boat rides, cinema, and whatever else. I don't hate most of them but I think these things are widely acknowledged to be mainly for the kids.

I suspect most people actually find it quite dull listening to other people talk about their hobbies.

I've got hobbies. I don't chat about them with my friends, though, because I'd imagine it would be very boring for them. I might say, in passing, 'I was up late last night finishing a hobby related thing' or 'I spent most of my birthday money on [hobby]' but that's about the extent of my hobby related chat.

My friends and I mostly talk about our lives, families, stuff that's happening in the world, shared memories, that kind of thing. I met up with my two best friends recently; two of us have hobbies and the other one really doesn't, but the one without hobbies is not less interesting to talk to.

Mundane of everyday life (being home, working, family life, Church etc) that's about all I enjoy.

OK, so just... do those things, then? It's not compulsory to do 'activities'.

What do you mean by 'family life' exactly? Presumably family life includes doing things. I can't imagine that your family all just sit there staring into space all the time.

Yes. No hobbies makes you dull. Nothing to talk about for one thing.

@Hatty65 I could have written your post. I am exactly the same as you.

One man's meat is another man's poison, and I suppose the bottom line is, if you are content to do very little but are very happy, that's all that matters, i.e. peace within yourself. However if you do little and would love to or cannot do more, well that's a problem alright.

There is a lot of pressure to conform to what others think (their) normal is.

If you are happy and content and don't need constant things to do or stimulation or a mad social life or volunteering or exploring or travelling - all the things we are told we absolutely need then it's great. I think a lot of people project onto others. I ignore all that and get great enjoyment from doing as little as possible according to the "orders and advice" from others, and read, research, plan trips, do the garden, sit in said garden, watch the birds and the trees from my garden, enjoy silence, daydream and so on. I get up early and honestly before I know it it's time for lunch, then a walk, then coffee, then again, before I know it, it's time to go to my lovely comfortable bed to watch some crap on Facebook videos or listen to a podcast and zzzzz.

I love when people call around to visit, primarily because it makes me clean the place thoroughly to give the impression that I am very tidy, neat and a great cook. It works lol.

At the risk of being labelled, I admit I am retired now. But I'm no penniless hermit, quite the opposite in fact, but on MY terms!

The OP has a full on job??

I don't think so.... but wait to be corrected.

Some responses on here have given me a good laugh!

I cannot see what's hard in enjoying a film though. What is difficult about that?

I'm trying to figure out if you find all those things you listed less fun than your daily life, or if you find them overstimulating and you are struggling to recognise that feeling?

I am very much a 'live your life how you want to' person, but I am a bit confused by the wide variety of things you don't enjoy... if you were being really, really honest with yourself, are you quite a negative person in general?

I will hold my hands up that I'm not religious, so maybe church fulfills you in ways we might not realise on this thread!

'Mundane of everyday life (being home, working, family life, Church etc) that's about all I enjoy.'

You enjoy those things. Nothing wrong with that at all!

I can relate to an extent. I have many, many interests but, with most of them, I can enjoy them/learn about them by myself. Some of my happiest moments have been alone. It may be sad but it's the absolute truth. I have always made myself tolerate noise and crowds in the past but am now am managing it and decided not to feel guilty or weird for not wanting to be part of noisy or crowded events.

I'm happy with my own company, my thoughts, my own surroundings, my pets and my husband. I would love a really good, close female friend and it's not for the want of trying, believe me. But I won't be used as a convenience or a sounding board and would rather have no friend at all than one like that.

I probably sound bitter but I'm more at peace since realising and accepting these things than I ever was when I was forever hungry and chasing.

OP, live your life as you want of course. Just make sure you don’t limit your children’s opportunities, and do encourage them to socialise if they want to, even if it means gritting your teeth and playing along!

I'm curious the poster's nationality and views at large ...would be revealing as to why doing things the British way almost deafened her spirit

Rugged.

I'm not here to be listened to. Lol. I'm here to practice my English and rejoice in batshit bonkers British opinions....you can't catch this old rigged one with insinuations my dear. Two daughters with massive homes in Cranleigh ...

I do things. Weddings, holidays, gigs, pubs, restaurants but truth be told I’m happiest when at home

Measles is now killiing children because people have stopped vaxing. It disgusts me.

Depends....I just got one tetanus vaccine because have taken on a very old dilapidated allotment but other than that, has been my choice....the GP is more polite that many on here

I mean anyone who defines individual freedom as not vaccinating their children is not worth listening to either.

I doubt the poster posted very genuinely but there are many click baits posts like these, where the poster doesn't come in again and strangers are left tearing each other down....but also helps foreigners like me seeing how deeply ruined the individual and their freedoms in this country is ....an eye opening thread again and again. Keep posting folk , it's revealing

Yes, everybody should be vaccinated.

As a foreign national having had to come here to retire and observing with fresh eyes what's on mumsnet, people feel entitled to post that many people need social services, lonely unmarried men who live happily with their ageing patents have to be ??? registered somewhere with adult social services, everyone needs to be vaccinated, shy kids have to be forcefully socialised and if not, sent to CAMHS because if you are shy you must be abused, autistic or experienced hidden trauma....these batshit bonkers country's list goes on

Certainly not mine, no. I’m a bit aghast that you seem to think this is at all normal.

I'd have said two years ago that I'm definitely not depressed either op.

Turns out that's not true and medication has helped immensely.

It won't turn you into a party animal but having such a small life is just not right IMO. Do you just stare at the walls?

But isn’t that the majority of peoples lives? Work, family, home. You have church too - not much time for much else? All these people saying it’s dull and boring - you just don’t need the outside stimulation.

Everyone's different, some people like having every day filled with activities and some people would hate that. I struggle with enjoyment being set up like Christmas or a day out in three weeks. I look forward to it but feel a bit flat like a previous poster said as it doesn't live up to the hype? I don't have any hobbies and it's not for the want of trying probably 95% of them. I just get so bored and never go back to it. I don't mind socialising every now and again but the best part is coming back home and breathing a sigh of relief 😂 my favourite thing to do is to just chill at home, usually watching the same TV series over and over again. I also hate reading and never pick up a book. I do have ADHD though so not sure if it's related 😂.

for those saying the OP has no stimulation, she does go to work and church. It could be she has a very full on job, so just doesn’t have the need or energy for more stimulation outside of work, more needing to decompress. Particularly if you throw in still being in the trenches of parenting younger children.

The problem comes when children grow up and you retire. Then suddenly you’ve lost your social contact and mental stimulation via work and kids who fill your spare time aren’t doing that any more. The good thing is the OP does go to church, because they are excellent at finding things to fill your time if you offer.