Aibu about dancing at weddings

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Baddigood · 27/08/2025 20:17

Just back from my cousin’s beautiful wedding and it’s another occasion where I feel I’ve missed out again as I just can’t dance so avoid the dance floor at all costs

can I learn? If so how?? I just want to bop around to dance floor classics not give a performance - I just feel so self conscious! I don’t know what to do with my arms - whenever I have tried to dance I look awful and don’t enjoy it.

I have watched YouTube videos, tried copying others, tried listening to the beat and moving in time - is this something I can learn?! So jealous of those who move well and look confident

YABU - you can learn to dance at any age

YANBU - not everyone can dance/learn to dance

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sweeneytoddsrazor · 27/08/2025 20:24

Most party time dancing doesn't have set moves as such, it's just people doing their thing whatever that is. The more self conscious you are the harder it is. The old phrase dance like nobody is watching is what you need to go by

Poodlelove · 27/08/2025 20:23

Drink loads , I have noticed that those who do are the best dancers at weddings.

BlueyGreyWhale · 27/08/2025 20:22

I don't think dance floor dancing can be learned. If you drink, maybe you just need to be a little inebriated.

RabbitintheHeadLamps · 27/08/2025 20:22

Do you drink? Getting well oiled first helps loosen you up.

If not then the old advice of “dance like no-one is watching” is good.

Faceonthewrongfoot · 27/08/2025 20:21

The trick is not to care what anyone thinks and just move any way you want. I mean, probably avoid an Inbetweeners style dance across the dance floor, but otherwise - nobody cares. Don't over think it, just relax and have fun.

Clawdes · 27/08/2025 20:20

Just get up there and let your celebration of the happy couple be more important than your self-introspection. Very few people are great dancers.

Pancakeflipper · 27/08/2025 20:20

Dance in your kitchen to the stuff that makes you want to move your feet. The more you do it the more fluid you'll feel.

You'll find your groove, your moves. And smile

MyAcornWood · 27/08/2025 20:19

I don’t think many people are good dancers really, I do honestly think it’s just a case of having the confidence to get up there and do it anyway. I guess you could take classes but just ‘practicing’ by cavorting around your kitchen until you feel more at ease dancing sounds just as good to me!

Thisisbetweenyoumeandtheinternet · 27/08/2025 20:19

I love this post! I also feel like this and expect loads of people do. A few drinks tend to help!!

Whattodo76 · 27/08/2025 20:18

You can definitely learn! Go for it! Can you take a few classes?

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