Aibu about dancing at weddings

You’re most welcome 😆

Thank you, Mr Brent from Slough.

I love dancing, regularly have a kitchen disco moment. Last year I saw a video from a night out, and realised I dance as dad/mum dance. I asked DD about my dancing she said I dance like I'm from the 70's (which I am). Despite the fact she said she loves it as I really let myself go, I know feel really self conscious, so keep it to my home discos

I feel your pain

I do NOT dance, ever

I tried once when I was 17, it was a disaster, so embarrassing, I have no clue and even watching people dance, I get embarrassed for them, they look ridiculous

I just thank god that I am old now and have arthritis and other health problems so I have a good excuse not to dance😁

Just ask the DJ to play Beautiful Sunday and do

THE SLOSH!

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=yG22freyTlg

I should’ve added that by “well oiled” I mean a few drinks - you obviously don’t want to be the person twirling on the dance floor while everyone else is still finishing their dessert…..

I think it’s one of those things anyone can improve at. One of my kids goes to a lot of dance classes and I’ve noticed when she is with her friends (who also go) just bopping about they are always in time and they just seem to move so fluidly. I’m sure it’s at least in part due to spending hours a week dancing but maybe they’ve also partially gone for that as an activity because they are good at it. I went to classes for years as an adult and enjoyed it and am happy enough to take to a dance floor and bop along but I’ve never have the poise the kids seem to already have at 10ish years old 😂

I think dancing is like most things, where you can certainly improve even if you have little natural talent.

Incidentally, I did loads of dancing training as a teenager and can dance very well, but I hate bopping at weddings. I need choreography and classical music 😂

Try Ceroc. Very little footwork, very little worry about arms because they are mostly connected to your partner, and can be danced to many rhythms. Particularly useful for weddings if you have a partner also up for it, but if not the classes are v good at making people swap partners. Plenty of people go alone.

This is some great advice, OP.

How to dance

I'm with you on this! I can't dance to save myself. What makes it worse, is that when I've decided to just go for it and have fun people have told me that I can't dance - usually the following day. It's knocked every little bit of confidence out of me with regard to dancing, so I now just don't join in at all!

Lots of YouTube videos to give you confidence.

We have a strong ND steak in my family and we’re all rubbish dancers. It’s because we work best with rules, and there are no rules in party dancing. Even when there are, as in ballroom dancing, one partner leads and the other has to follow, very challenging for the ND mover!

The best advice I can give is to forget what you might look like and don’t think of your limbs as having to do a particular thing. Learn a basic step for your feet and don’t try to get creative. Once you find your rhythm
everything sort of falls into place.

Wonder if a 'dancey' exercise class like Zumba, Jazzercise or Clubbercise could help? They teach you rhythm and movement - Clubbercise is even better cos it's in the dark! Everyone is doing the same movements and focusing on themselves!

Love the boxing chicken suggestion. Seriously OP the only set move dancing at weddings is Agadoo, or Superman so as long as you can pretend to sneeze or ski or shake trees you're good to go

I used to tell my sister to close her eyes and listen to the beat. You can feel it in your body.

I find joining in the dancing fairly early in the evening helps, I’m up there as soon as a good song comes on. Sometimes it’s a bit fake it to you make it but it does get easier.
Standing in the middle of lots of other dancers rather than being in the edge of the dance floor also helps.

Boxing chicken for the arms. Arms bend, slight boxing motion. Clap or wave every few beats. Or hold a beer, which removes one arm from the problem.

Several proseccos will help you more than any dance class can.

The only thing you need to learn is to not feel awkward

now I appreciate that’s easier said then done

dance is movement to music so as soon as you move however you feel in response to the music you are dancing . Anything

practise in your living room - bounce to the music of tv theme tunes and the radio

I find slightly closing my eyes helps , as does looking at the floor and ignoring everyone else ( although you move better with your head up and involved )

the best dancers are those who smile and have fun and don’t care

Clapping is good too, pointing, clappping and waving one or both arms help with the what to do with your arms thing. Then just move your hips and legs a bit.

I voted YABU, as yes you absolutely can learn. However, my vote is for.... no-one cares at a wedding, just jump up on the dance floor and shake your booty 💃
If you're entering your local Strictly... then you can learn.

No one cares what you look like. Honestly. But, easier said than done, focus on other people or the music or anything but yourself. Once you're self-conscious, it's really hard to dance and enjoy yourself. A definitely have a few drinks.

You can definitely learn!
There's probably a tutorial for dancing at weddings! A glass in one hand and your phone or something in the either might give your hands something to do while you swing your hips and shuffle your feet. Its definitely easier after a drink or two but the longer you leave it, the harder it is so next party, just ho for it!

I am sure you can find some good tutorials on YouTube.
I watched a good thing on Instagram basically showing four classic moves such as side to side stepping, some finger pointing in the air and a couple of other moves and then joining them all together. It looked really good and very simple.
Whenever I’ve been at a wedding there’s probably a few good dancers and everyone is bopping about and grinning.
Dancing in the kitchen is a good suggestion.