Taylor Swift engagement - puzzled

Without googling I think she’s marrying an American sportsman, possibly footballer, at least I have a vague idea she was dating someone like that. I know I could check, but I don’t want to risk going down a rabbit hole as I know I would. Maybe all her previous relationships have given her a very good idea of what she doesn’t want, so she’s sure when she’s found what she does want. As you get older you get more clarity of thought in these things I’ve found.

I don’t pay a great deal of attention to celebrities, but I do admire her for holding her head high in the face of years of media abuse. I’ve also grown to appreciate her music via my obsessed eleven year old DD. “Mean” really strikes a chord with me. I hope she lives happily ever after.

Maybe his values are more traditional therefore marriage is on his agenda. Maybe if you’re more of a hippy rebel type boy you would be less keen on marriage in general

It’s possible for a man to be exceptionally good at sport and still be a gentleman. The story of how they met suggests that he might be one of the good guys.

💭...but that is precisely what love is! Love doesn't conform to type and often has no rhyme or reason. When I was younger, I was rather superficial and thought I had a "type". As I've grown, that's changed rather considerably (hopefully because I myself have matured and learnt lessons). So outwardly, the type of man I thought I wanted has changed and what matters to me more now is who he is internally. I'm now with the most gorgeous and incredible human being who the 20 year old me most likely wouldn't have given a chance before because of life, societal pressures and because I thought he had to look a certain way.🤭
Outwardly appearance still matters but as I've aged, it's reduced in my priorities when dating. It's just about finding and matching with a good human. 🙂

DH was the boyfriend who was most different to me, esp politically. But he was the most kind and respectful.

I assumed Kelce was a Republican. She seems less vocal about being a Democrat nowadays (since the previous election) or is that just me? I love her and hope it works out.

won one lost one - but it is pretty hard to get to the Super Bowl.

I think he is confident in his own career and in his move to acting (his role in Grotesquerie was something else) and therefore doesn’t need her. He is pretty well known in his own right and very well known in the sporting circles in his own right and comfortable with his family and friends

he has grown on me and certainly has grown on DD who watches the podcasts and to be fair they do model a good relationship

Well, at the risk of being really obvious - what she had gone for before hadnt worked out for her? And to be fair, I dont think there is as much difference between moderate republicans and conservative democrats in the US as there might be between the equivalent here.

Just that as they won one and lost one, at best, it appears to have had zero impact either way.

Yes and they also lost one. Your point being?

Her previous "types" didn't work out so she thought she would try something different.

A lot of women have been there. I have. My DH is the polar opposite of what I thought I wanted when I was younger.

For all the glitz and glamour it's fairly obvious that Taylor is a small town, country fair, apple pie, kind of woman.

There's a lot of cultural capital her previous exes wouldn't have had, Travis knows exactly where she's from. And the fact he's 6 foot whatever, built like a brick shithouse and is totally enamoured with her can't hurt.

Best of luck to them.

They have a common culture, same age and he seems happy to go along with what she wants.

They are in different t facets of the entertainment industry and so are not competing, and are good for each others brands unlike Joe who I don’t think wants to be part of Taylor’s brand.

I think it’s a good match, even if it is a showmance .

Showmance. Obviously.

Her former type obviously didn’t work and this one has. Not everyone dates the same type for years, essentially you’re just dating the wrong man over and over.

Didn't his his team win a Superbowl since they've been dating?

All the men she's dated in the past are her exes for a reason.

If you dated someone who was a carbon copy of your ex, wouldn't that just be making the same mistake twice?

Maybe he's just a really great guy and so she doesn't care that he's not her usual type.

The Daily Mail (also looking into this conundrum) suggests it’s because he’s ‘chivalrous’ which is what Taylor has always wanted.

I have a very tangential link to the Joe/Taylor relationship via a friend - from what it sounds like, his arty but actually just mummy & daddy funded mates never really clicked with her. While they were very happy to enjoy the private jets flying them out to holidays in Greece & parties at the North London mansions, ultimately they all (including Joe) saw themselves as far cooler & more artistic than someone as nakedly commercial & mainstream as she is. Whereas Travis seems all in on everything. Must be nice to have that whole hearted support after a succession of partners (Calvin, Joe, Matty) didn't act in the same way.

And they are both very close with their families. I think that is a pretty strong foundation and there are probably more similarities than differences. He seems to adore her and is tremendously supportive and proud of her, maybe that’s exactly what she needs. She’s spent 20 years writing songs about how she wants to be loved, he just needed to follow directions.

Yes, his age has played a factor in his decline but certainly his relationship has as well. Dinners out the night before a game, the overwhelming attention she gets at the games, he's always looks distracted now when he plays. There's a noticeable difference in his whole persona since dating her.

I saw a clip of that podcast on the news last night and thought he seemed quite nice. Then he used the word "butthurt" and I had to change my opinion completely. (I'm sure he is still nice but I have an irrational hatred of that word and anyone who uses it).

Travis and his entire family are registered Democrats. Just being a football player doesn’t make you a Republican. He was one of the first NFL players to take the knee in support of Colin Kapernak. Jason and Kyle Kelce are massive supports of the Eagle’s Autism awareness charity. They are very liberal people

Taylor released a long statement in support of Kamala and also sold merch to support Kamala’s campaign.

Ia he's the rebound that stuck. I'm pretty sure she wanted marriage and kids with Joe ("talking rings and talking cradles, I wish I could un-recall how we almost had it all" - ok, so her lyrics aren't definitive proof, but 🤷🤷) and Travis is the one if she's going to stick to any kind of timeline. That's not a bad thing - I think at a certain point you grow up and realise that a tall, athletic millionaire who you get on with, who wants the same things in life and who wants to marry you is actually a pretty good catch.

None of my previous partners have been alike in anyway so I do find it odd that people have a type. The only thing is there are a couple of famous people I quite fancy and they look like the LOML.