Taylor Swift engagement - puzzled

I'm an artist myself and always went with soft, arty boys for ages and it never went well and I ended up happily married to a manly engineer. My SIL always went for more rugged, handsome guys with beards and who were always suited and booted. Now she getting married to more homely looking man who is a bit of a geek, not her usually type at all but sometimes the man we really click with is not our usual type or who we expect.

I'm always quite bemused by the people who claim not to care (probably true) but are really quite annoyed that anyone else might. They seem to be sufficiently annoyed to click on a thread to tell people about it, it's odd to be so put out by other people enjoying something fairly benign imo.

It's okay for people to like things and people that you don't, and vice versa.

I think most of the world’s population hopefully don’t give a shit.

My DH is completely different from all the men I had relationships with and was attracted to before. Two of my very good friends also ended up with people pretty much opposite of what they were looking for.

I think moving away from a 'type' is actually a sign of maturing and realising the qualities you really want and need in a partner.

They seem very together and I wish them well.

I’m so glad she’s got Travis because he seems like he really adores her and isn’t that we all want really
plus as a huge swiftie I am just so genuinely happy for her

she irritates the life out of me

Not the point of this thread but I agree. Maybe because of her heavily Hollywood style PR driven mediocre music.

In This country because there's no parliament in session yet and there's only so much that can be said about flags.

I don’t know much about her exes or fiancé (or her really) but I think it’s fairly common to have ‘a type’ then realise that someone who doesn’t fit that type at all is actually the love of your life

I agree - I also think he seems very able to deal with her fame and success and it must be hard to find a man like that.

I’m puzzled why it’s such major news.

You can’t use the fact that they got engaged a year after that “leak” as evidence that it was real, because it’s also the behaviour of two people who are not in a fake relationship.

My DH (of 21 years) was very different from everyone I had dated before him. Guess there was a reason why others didn't work out and he did 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think you’re painting her exes with quite broad strokes. Apart from being skinny British boys, Joe and Matty haven’t got that much in common.

Maybe she just grew up and found who she needed.

Love to see this! My current DP is so different from any man I have ever dated / been in a relationship with and I have a good feeling about it. Still early days though!

I don’t follow celebrity stuff, but Taylor Swift is exactly the same age as me and it’s good to see a woman who very publicly played the field through her 20s and early 30s, dating numerous guys, fall in love and get engaged in her mid-30s. 💜

I've cycled through footballers/rugby players for a few years, then dated a few a musicians, married and divorced a musician, and now my current partner is neither sporty or musical. He's a geeky PC gamer. If I was ever asked if I had a type I would probably say musicians though. Sometimes you can date people who aren't your usual type and it work out without it meaning your type has changed.

Very happy for her though 🥰 this is the kinda love she's sang about wanting her whole career.

Well my type was exclusively men, indie men. Until I met my wife. Who isn’t indie in the slightest… and isn’t a man.

It doesn’t matter if you think you have a type as many people are sharing, one day you meet someone and types go out the window

I think that she's an American girl at heart, who found the idea of dating an English gent romantic, but in reality wouldn't want to have moved to the UK, nor him to The States. I think that Kelce is a really physically big man that just makes her feel safe. No one is going to mess with him and he will act as her bodyguard/protector. I think that it's also due to timing - her wanting to settle down and him being at the height of his career (in terms of achievement rather than longevity).

I think it’s this. Their family backgrounds and upbringings are similar. She’s fooled around but ultimately ended up with someone who feels closer to home.

They’re both successful, motivated and driven. The big difference to me is that he is a very masculine man whereas the others were a bit more wafty.

I agree with you Op.

I think having a rigid ‘type’ is fairly silly and a bit unusual. People certainly have characteristics that attract them, but there’s nothing to say that the specific characteristics that attracted her to Joe Alwyn aren’t the same ones that attracted her to Travis Kelce. The men she’s dated might all have a cracking sense of humour and share a love of nineteenth century poetry.

We do not know these people. We have no idea what their personalities are.

This! The way she is with Travis and her behaviour since being with him has been so much more confident and unapologetic. Just look at pictures of them together compared to pictures of her with Joe. He makes her feel confident and loved! I think she took a risk after hearing him talk about her on the podcast and it obviously paid off! On his political views my instinct tells me he wasn’t that into politics before her but she’s probably opened his eyes to a lot of the stuff she is passionate about and because he seems an all-round solid guy he is willing to listen and be open rather than come from a place of defence. I think Joe always seemed a bit over woke and pretentious in this area tbh.

Why obviously? Why can’t famous people just fall in love and get married without there being a conspiracy theory?

If it helps, OP, I always went for arty, floaty, long-haired types as a teen. Met my sporty, beer-drinking, outdoorsy now-husband in my 20s and quickly realised that while those others might have been pale and interesting, he was secure, kind, welcoming, open-hearted, supportive, and SO much more fun to be around.

I was no longer being tortured (pun intended) by passions and neurotic feelings and who outdid who in any way, or panicking over how they behaved with my friends and family - with this new type I’d never gone for before and never thought I’d go for, turned out to be exactly what this arty, floaty, introspective type (me) needed.

Loads of people end up marrying someone who's nothing like their usual "type".