Taylor Swift engagement - puzzled

Maybe he’s just a genuinely good bloke who can cope with his future wife’s stardom and the others couldn’t. They’re engaged, let them be.

They weren't her type. They were stopgaps until she met her type.

Thought this too. Presumably she's thought 'these soft arty boys don't work out for me, maybe I need to give someone different a try'..

I've seen this plenty.

The 'type' isn't working out so you try something else.

Politically, she is a Democrat; he hasn't outright stated his politics, but his close family are Democrats, and his social media activity includes likes for Kamala, etc, so it is probably fairly safe to assume he is similar.

I think, maybe more importantly, he is unfazed and unthreatened by her fame and celebrity, as he has experience with a similarly motivated fan base in the sports world.

Something I have noticed sometimes (Nigella is the other one that springs to mind) is that very successful women often have partners who dislike the very thing that is their superpower. So, Saatchi was such a picky eater that Nigella couldn't cook for him, and Taylor's popularity was a thing that made Joe Alwyn uncomfortable. In both cases, these women who have built their fame (or some of it) based on particular aspects of themselves are left having to compromise that very thing to make their partners comfortable. It's an interesting power dynamic, I think, and not necessarily a very positive one.

Anyway, she seems to have found an umproblematic guy who makes her happy. He is well thought of by everyone who knows him and is visibly excited for and supportive of her success in all its aspects. Good luck to them both, I say.

I know very little about either of them but get the impression she's met a decent man with own life and career who isn't intimidated by or jealous or her fame and wants the same things out of life.

Seems like a result to me.

Well look at how they all ended. Seems pretty sensible to try something different.

What's the quote about madness being doing what you've always done but expecting the outcome to be different? She's dated similar types of guys, it's never gone the distance. So she's looked for someone different and it's worked.

I’m going with YABU just because I don’t really think she had a type at all over the years?

I mean, what does Matty Healy have in common with toddler Kennedy?

True. But, what's the point in being a Democrat if it isn't to broadcast the fact, it would be very out of character.

I think getting engaged is a hint she wants marriage?
I agree he's not her usual type and she does seem to have a type. Which might be why this one has become so serious relatively quickly.
What's her dad like, women often marry versions of their fathers!

And re physical types, some of us just aren’t wired that way. The last guy I dated was 5’4 and about the same width. DP is 6’4 and a beanpole.

Sometimes its the person not the look or vibe, and while arty poets may have tickled her fancy before, someone who is so invested in HER art and poetry instead of setting up a rivalry will make her life so much more fun.

“I’m better at writing was just a way to get you biting, the truth is that our egos are absurd.” (MH)

I didn't have a type at all. Fancied and had relationships with all sorts of different guys but definitely fell for & married a different type to them all. It was like a biological need to be with someone who'd be a good dad and loyal husband. He's not a republican though!! 😂. I think Travis kelce is gorgeous and surely someone with such kind eyes couldn't be a Trump supporter?!

Have you watched the podcast? The way they talk about each other is so heart warming and he’s clearly not just some brainless jock, he’s funny and clever and supportive of her.

I’m a massive Matty fan (as my name would suggest to anyone who knows!) but even I am delighted for Taylor that she found this beautiful uncomplicated love with someone who is her biggest cheerleader.

Taylor Swift isn't a Republican so I very much doubt that has anything to do with it. I think they're a good match, it's pretty typical for very attractive feminine women to end up with large sporty men. They look like they could be from some 90s/00s teen rom com which would have been the era Taylor Swift grew up in.

She encouraged her fans not to vote trump so either a democrat or at the least not a trump fan.

I think she is amazing, a fantastic role model to her younger fans, dignified in the press, gives loads to charity, a feminist.

I hope he treats her well and she gets the happy ending she deserves (relationship wise)

She is engaged to a man who is also hugely famous and understands the associated lack of freedom in their incredibly well off lives. They'll have way more in common than with some musician who'll never reach her level of success.

And literally all her lyrics are taken from her real life, are they? So this freakishly successful, rich, powerful woman whose entire life has involved one record-breaking feat after another is really like those tragic, wilting Mn figures glumly writing 'Two years in and no proposal' posts?

Then again she also sang

"All they keep askin' me
Is if I'm gonna be your bride
The only kind of girl they see
Is a one-night or a wife"

"You swore that you loved me but where were the clues?
I died on the altar waiting for the proof"

Is it because her previous long relationship with a soft, arty British boy (Joe Alwyn) didn’t go the distance and so she decided she really needed to change her type if she wanted marriage and kids?

Do we have the faintest idea whether she wants 'marriage and kids'? I can't say it would be uppermost in my mind if I were bestriding the music world like a colossus.

I had to Google the English and gym teacher thing because I didn't understand what she was on about. It will come as a clattering surprise when I say I'm not a Swiftie.

Always had a type. Met my husband so not my type but I am still madly in love and grateful for him 32 years later........

I'm definitely not over invested in this and definitely haven't wondered the exact same OP!!

I don't think it's a publicity stunt. I do wonder if it's a bit of a rebound after Joe (and also Matty).

I really hope they are happy together long term.

I also wonder if they will have babies.

As I say, definitely not over invested.