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I don’t understand the appeal of sunbathing?

111 replies

Labubus · 27/08/2025 16:49

I have autism, which may be why!

Can someone who enjoys sunbathing/ lying next to a pool explain the appeal of it to me? I find it boring, vain, and a waste of time! I’d much rather be in the pool having fun or exploring the local area!

However, I’m clearly in the minority for my demographic here! Most other middle aged British women seem to love it! They pay thousands for it! Why?

OP posts:
Chompingatthebeat · 27/08/2025 22:46

Labubus · 27/08/2025 16:56

Vain in the sense that it is physically performative. I know people who get waxed, spend hundreds on bikinis, fake tan, wear a face full of make up etc. in order to sunbathe?

I dont think we're sun bed neighbours

IstillloveKingThistle · 27/08/2025 22:44

I get it .
I like to sunbathe but cringe at the people who put their face and décolletage in the direct sun.

Sod that.
I wear a huge hat and sunnies and never get my face or chest area tanned . I’m fifty tomorrow and get lots of compliments on my skin.

Chompingatthebeat · 27/08/2025 22:44

Its the same as lying on a bed or a sofa but with a bit of warmth on you

Vitriolinsanity · 27/08/2025 22:42

Labubus · 27/08/2025 16:56

Vain in the sense that it is physically performative. I know people who get waxed, spend hundreds on bikinis, fake tan, wear a face full of make up etc. in order to sunbathe?

I know no one like that.

Dozing under an umbrella in the sun is my favourite thing. It doesn’t preclude sailing, diving, cycling, walking, dining whilst on holiday, but it’s so relaxing.

Lesina · 27/08/2025 22:41

Parksinyork · 27/08/2025 17:00

I love it. As long as my face is in the shade and it isn’t too hot. Time to snooze, day dream, make plan, listen to music and read all with the warm sun on your body. I really struggle with the lack of sun light over winter. I’m trying to decide if we can hustify going on holiday in Feb half term.

You can absolutely justify it. I could get through winter without 10 days on Phuket every February. Do it!

Laura95167 · 27/08/2025 22:38

Im usually in the shade but I like that its warm and to read in a relaxed, warm, dry outdoors place. Broken up with cooling pool dips

Couldn't do it exclusively though. Try and get a holiday with a couple of book days and adventure days

Itchyfeetkeepmemoving · 27/08/2025 22:37

Can’t bear it. Can’t bear lounging on a sofa either, but lying in the sun with the feeling my skin is being burnt and only a chemical mix saving from doing exactly that.

I’d rather ‘do’ than ‘be’

Ponoka7 · 27/08/2025 22:33

I'm a bit older than middle aged, went away for a four day break. For the first time ever I spent my time drinking, napping and reading, on a sun longer, but not by the pool. My body needed the recharge. My DD and her friends do similar in November, they have exceptionally physically, busy jobs, six days a week, which intensifies over Winter and they need the down time before it. Also I'm autistic, so is my DD, neither of us can do pools.

Flomingho · 27/08/2025 22:21

Love lizarding it up in the sun 🌞 whether it be in the garden at home or by the pool on holiday. Feel so much better with a tan.

IAmQuiteNiceActually · 27/08/2025 22:08

I'm autistic and I used to like sunbathing as a teenager. These days I love sunbathing on a sunny day in winter/early spring (obviously in clothes!) but I overheat after about five minutes once the temperature goes over 19 ish.

GoldPoster · 27/08/2025 21:53

I don’t enjoy it either. I’ve always assumed people were sleeping off a hangover.

User0311 · 27/08/2025 21:38

I absolutely love it. Pure relaxation! At a beach though not the pool

amberisola · 27/08/2025 21:38

I feel horrible if I spend much time out in the sun, but I do like sitting on a "sun" lounger in the shade reading a good book.

The rest of the family go off doing watersports and other things I find incomprehensible 😅 good thing we're all different...

gallivantsaregood · 27/08/2025 21:28

I live a very, very busy life with lots of responsibility for the health of other family members. I love lying, feeling the warmth of the sun reach my bones, reading lots of books. Pure escape and relaxation. Bliss

Goonie1 · 27/08/2025 21:27

I like sitting on a sunbed but in the shade (because I burn terribly) with a book or listening to a podcast. I don’t have much downtime day to day so that’s my little relax. I say that, however, but usually, as soon as my bum hits the lounger, I usually hear “muuummm, can you just…..” followed by a request of some kind meaning I have to get up from said lounger and do something for someone 😂

ilovesooty · 27/08/2025 21:27

My book melted today and the pages fell apart.

pambeesleyhalpert · 27/08/2025 21:22

I only like it if I’ve got a good book

ilovesooty · 27/08/2025 21:18

FishingForest · 27/08/2025 16:55

I dont like sunbathing
I dont like dogs
I dont like walking

I like sushi
I like cats
I like reading

We are all different, thats all there is to it

I like sunbathing, reading and cats 😁

socks1107 · 27/08/2025 21:17

I don’t like it at all, I swim on holiday doing lengths but that’s after a day sightseeing somewhere. I’d love to enjoy it though and the ability to sit still and switch off! I do envy people that can

TheeNotoriousPIG · 27/08/2025 21:16

I have no idea either, OP, and I'm not ND (as far as I know). While certain areas of my body tan, others remain stubbornly white, and go lobster red and burn in the sun! Also, I'm too British to withstand heat over about 15 degrees, before whinging about how it is too hot 😁

Some people seem to like it, and find it a relaxing way to pass the time (or supervise family members in pools). Also, it's probably quite a novel way to pass the time, given that you can probably sit outside and attempt to sunbathe for approximately 10 days per year in the UK.

Wafflefinder · 27/08/2025 21:15

I love lying on a sunbed with a good book. My kids are of an age where they love being in the pool all day and I’m reaping the benefits of the hundreds of pounds I’ve shelled out for swimming lessons over the years.

It may be dull to you, but for me and DH it’s a well deserved rest. We work full time in demanding jobs, the kids need ferrying to several clubs a week, the laundry and housework are never ending.

ishimbob · 27/08/2025 21:12

I think the difference between this and more niche things is that speaking as someone uninterested in lying on a sunbed all day, people can make you feel like a total freak about it. People just casually assume all the time that lying in the sun is everyone's idea of a holiday

KimberleyClark · 27/08/2025 21:02

I agree with you OP. I get too hot too quickly and have to move into the shade, and don’t tan anyway, so it’s pointless for me.

UnimaginableWindBird · 27/08/2025 21:00

It's a sensory joy. Most of the time I'm too cold and am all tense and hunched up. In winter, you can find me under a heated throw, with a hot water bottle, sitting next to the radiator or in a sauna. In the summer I like to rest and feel the sun on my skin. Maybe I'll read a book or maybe I will just have time to think. I also love swimming, so being able to swim and then warm up in the sunshine and then cool down in the water is blissful.

I enjoy other stuff, too, but that sunshine and swimming combination is the best for when I'm tired and stressed.

TwistedWonder · 27/08/2025 21:00

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 27/08/2025 17:24

Some women like makeup and fashion, some don’t.

I Love fashion but I don’t sunbathe.

You’re not really asking a question are you? You’re simply wanting to point out how superficial you think sunbathing is, and that you are above that kind of vanity.

It’s a typical MN - I’m so superior threads where someone pretends to ask a question but it’s a thinly disguised sneer at others who think see as shallow.

There’s a million and one things I’m not a fan of but hey if others love those things who am I to judge? Different strokes and all that - if no one is harmed what’s the problem?

And I love sunbathing. Laying on a sun-lounger smothered in Piz Buin AirPods in completely switched off from the world sidling up the warmth.