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House viewings - neighbour refuses to take down flag - Update

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KayleighhMum · 27/08/2025 16:36

Hi all, as a follow up to the previously full thread.

DH spoke to our neighbour again this morning and explained the feedback we received from the first viewings yesterday and that the couple who liked it were put off bidding by the flag.

Our neighbour seemed to understand and said he’d be taking the flag down anyway as the weather is turning.

However, I’ve got home from work to find the flag is still up and he’s also erected a ‘Vote Reform’ banner with Nigel Farage doing a thumbs up pose. So he is clearly taking the piss at this point.

Our estate agent even said to us about having a word so I’ve no idea where we go from here.

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Zov · 29/08/2025 19:11

That would be funny @LivingWithANob 😆The OP saying she is selling it to the council or an HMO.

But seriously @KayleighhMum - if you're still reading. Maybe just try reasoning with the neighbour, and saying his flag is affecting your house sale, and would he possibly be able to take it down til its sold. Say, will you take the right wing stuff down, and the England flag? Pretty please?' 🙏

Don't go in all combative, and reason with him. Offer him £50 to take it down or something! Give it him when you have an offer!

I mean he is entitled to keep it there, and I know you've had a hard time on here, but if it really is bothering you, just be nice to him about it. Clearly what you have done so far hasn't worked.

LivingWithANob · 29/08/2025 17:58

Tell your next door neighbour that youve had a couple of nice families who came round who loved the house but were put off with the flag situation. Say youve been looking into the options available and a quick way of selling is via the government for converting it into a hmo situation for housing our new immigrants or the local homeless shelter is branching out to provide a hmo for their residents moving on (this is what the charity i work with does). So if you end up finding your next house and struggling to sell unfortunately, you might be left with no choice (do a really disappointed/sad face here) and leave that thought with them 🤷🏻‍♀️

Zov · 29/08/2025 17:50

How's it going @KayleighhMum ? has your neighbour taken down his England flags yet (and his Nigel Farage poster?)

Zov · 28/08/2025 16:42

I wonder if the OP's neighbour is doing this to make sure he doesn't get any neighbours like her? 🙈 (Far left/woke/judging anyone who has the temerity to fly their OWN country's flag?!)

OP has gone quiet 👀

1one · 28/08/2025 16:37

An England flag flying in an English garden wouldn't bother me. Even the addition of NF's picture wouldnt put me off if I liked the house. I've lived in the same street as a family who had an Italian flag in their window - fine by me. Also neighbours who put up a Vote Green and Vote Labour and it's fine. Live and let live. I wouldn't vote for either, but it's their choice.

HelpMeGetThrough · 28/08/2025 12:29

Jumpingthruhoops · 28/08/2025 12:20

Because 'Raise the Colours' is a new thing, perhaps!?

I can't imagine anyone seriously objecting to the England flag being flown... in England!
He's subtly - or maybe not so subtly - saying a big FU! And I don't blame him.

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Well it isn’t so subtle now he’s got a picture of the smiling assassin up.

Jumpingthruhoops · 28/08/2025 12:20

CallMeMessy · 27/08/2025 17:07

Sincerely, get a grip.
Could you please take that flag down while we have viewings is hardly bullying.
I wonder why the neighbour decide that now, of all times, was the time for a fuck off big England flag?
perhaps he’ll be off painting a roundabout with the Danish 🇩🇰 flag soon… who knows.

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Because 'Raise the Colours' is a new thing, perhaps!?

I can't imagine anyone seriously objecting to the England flag being flown... in England!
He's subtly - or maybe not so subtly - saying a big FU! And I don't blame him.

Tracklement · 28/08/2025 09:23

This neighbour will be chuckling in to his coffee this morning!

HelpMeGetThrough · 28/08/2025 09:20

Zov · 28/08/2025 09:05

Yep this. As I said further back in the thread, I can't believe the OP started a second thread about this subject. You're right, at this point it is 100% attention-seeking.

Also, the press and media have got hold of the story now!! OMG! 😱

Well.....the OP has got the attention she wanted now!

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If the Fail haven’t got it by now, they probably will at some point. That’ll be a straight to the comments article.

Zov · 28/08/2025 09:05

Tracklement · 28/08/2025 06:02

Sure

but when you have an Op starting a second “update” thread… it smacks of “keep giving meeeeeer attention”

well, this Op got it and now it looks like it might just backfire given it’s made the papers!

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Yep this. As I said further back in the thread, I can't believe the OP started a second thread about this subject. You're right, at this point it is 100% attention-seeking.

Also, the press and media have got hold of the story now!! OMG! 😱

Well.....the OP has got the attention she wanted now!

Tracklement · 28/08/2025 06:02

CallMeMessy · 27/08/2025 21:49

Is all of AIBU not looking for attention, is that not the point of it???

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Sure

but when you have an Op starting a second “update” thread… it smacks of “keep giving meeeeeer attention”

well, this Op got it and now it looks like it might just backfire given it’s made the papers!

CallMeMessy · 27/08/2025 21:49

Tracklement · 27/08/2025 18:59

The OP has been attention seeking on mumsnet (honestly…. Starting a second “update” thread 🙄). It’s backfired!!

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Is all of AIBU not looking for attention, is that not the point of it???

Robin67 · 27/08/2025 21:00

HelpHedgehogsByFeedingThemCatBiscuits · 27/08/2025 18:07

Let's all make fun of working class people without teeth who can't spell!

It's hilarious darling! These people don't even have Miele appliances!

When the bien pensant are in meltdown when a populist government is elected in 2029 historians should be pointed to this thread to understand why it might have happened. The REVELS (Rich Enough to even Vote Liebour) will be in meltdown and packing their bags for Dubai PDQ!

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Even if that does happen, it won't last forever. They will fuck things up even more and the pendulum will swing back in the other direction, as always

SanityLeftTheChat · 27/08/2025 20:12

Elle771 · 27/08/2025 17:45

Maybe this is the answer... long term all the racists can/will only be able to buy/rent together and the non racists can/will only buy/rent together and then they can all live in their own little olde England bubble where everything is fine and Dandy (haha!) And leave the rest of us to it without having bloody farage shoved down our throats all the time

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Does that mean we can send all the HMO's to your areas and let them harass you and your children? I'm all in favour if that's the case!

SanityLeftTheChat · 27/08/2025 20:08

IAmTheLogLady · 27/08/2025 17:24

Is his house attached to yours? I'd wind him up back tell him you've sold the house to developers who are turning it into an HMO.

Clearly you all think anyone is patriotic lives up to your stereotypes of being thick because he could see through that straight away by searching the councils planning applications.

Tracklement · 27/08/2025 20:02

WalkDontWalk · 27/08/2025 19:41

As an added incentive, if it’s empty too long, they up the council tax.

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Only if vacant for more than a year can they do this

BettysRoasties · 27/08/2025 19:43

Tracklement · 27/08/2025 19:37

Sure it does
sure you received a letter from the council saying they wanted to buy properties
sure 😆

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They do, although they tend to be Ex
council houses and normally in streets where they already have purchased a few back.

Our council have done a few but again it’s only if say empty and once belonged to them. Tends to hit with a low ball offer while also a threat of hiked up council tax for owning a second home. If you really piss them off by having it empty for years they start talking compulsory purchases.

WalkDontWalk · 27/08/2025 19:41

Tracklement · 27/08/2025 19:37

Sure it does
sure you received a letter from the council saying they wanted to buy properties
sure 😆

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As an added incentive, if it’s empty too long, they up the council tax.

Tracklement · 27/08/2025 19:37

WalkDontWalk · 27/08/2025 19:36

We moved and haven’t sold the previous house yet.

The letter says, “We have loads of people to house. Wanna flog us your empty house?’

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Sure it does
sure you received a letter from the council saying they wanted to buy properties
sure 😆

WalkDontWalk · 27/08/2025 19:36

Tracklement · 27/08/2025 19:11

The OP doesn’t seem to have had though

what does the letter say?

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We moved and haven’t sold the previous house yet.

The letter says, “We have loads of people to house. Wanna flog us your empty house?’

ReleaseTheDucksOfWar · 27/08/2025 19:27

HelpHedgehogsByFeedingThemCatBiscuits · 27/08/2025 19:02

Personally my view is that only people with a full range of Miele appliances, access to a top private dentist and an IQ of over 132 should be able to vote.

Some people call this eugenics but that's just political correctness gone mad!

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Is age relevant?

Dundonia · 27/08/2025 19:25

Picture or it didn’t happen!

(I really need to see this…)

ACynicalDad · 27/08/2025 19:23

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the5thgoldengirl · 27/08/2025 19:23

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