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To consider singing lessons in my 40s?

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vetprob · 27/08/2025 14:43

I love singing, just for fun.

I can hold a tune but my voice is pretty weak and starts to hurt after a while (belting out songs in the car - I wouldn't inflict it on anyone else!)

So does anyone else do this or is it a bit frivolous at this point?

I feel like it's the first time I can afford to do something like this for myself.

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MC846 · 27/08/2025 17:13

You're 40 not dead, go for it!

Itsjustlikethat · 27/08/2025 17:12

Amazing idea! Your post actually inspires me to seriously consider this. Music brings so much joy. Why not?

HelpMeGetThrough · 27/08/2025 17:06

QueenOfToast · 27/08/2025 15:12

I don’t know what singing you want to do but I would recommend joining something like rock choir. You’ll do vocal warm ups and learn some singing technique as part of your session that you can practice at home.

Not suitable if you want to do classical or opera type stuff, but I find a bit of group singing to be very good for the soul.

A rock choir? That sounds brilliant.

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vetprob · 27/08/2025 17:02

ItsDarkINeedToSleep · 27/08/2025 16:53

Omg id love to have singing lessons. Im not great at singing. i sang to my cat and she walked over to me to check i wasn't dying.... Its not the best review ive ever had 😂

Haha I love that. Cats are brutal! At least she cares though 😊

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vetprob · 27/08/2025 17:01

Needacupofteaandcrackers · 27/08/2025 16:30

I’m Interested but have been told a few times to stop even trying to sing 🤣 they were being kind so not a mean way iyswim , can anyone really be taught to sing? Is there any hope for some people ?

Aww I really hope so!!

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vetprob · 27/08/2025 17:00

Onthebusses · 27/08/2025 16:26

I wouldn't call it frivolous actually because I believe that singing is something of a magical healer. You're using frequencies, it can lift a mood. I'm not saying it cures cancer or any woo, but it is genuinely uplifting and has a tangible emotional impact.

So I would consider this a mental health spend and you can't put a cap on that. I also love singing! I sing a lot at home and own a karaoke machine for this purpose.

It's all about breathwork and output control and not singing from your throat. You should do the lessons becuase you can harm your vocal cords if you sing incorrectly. Whereas singing properly will have unfettered positive impacts, plus you can impress at the karaoke and get a few pats on the back which also help one's mood!

Thank you that's really interesting 🙏

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ItsDarkINeedToSleep · 27/08/2025 16:53

Omg id love to have singing lessons. Im not great at singing. i sang to my cat and she walked over to me to check i wasn't dying.... Its not the best review ive ever had 😂

SharpWriter · 27/08/2025 16:48

Bass player here. I'd say absolutely do it. Lots of people learn music in their teens/20s then come back to it in their 40s/50s. I'm in two bands and one of the singers started in choirs - vocal coaching makes a huge difference; as a pp said it's all about technique.

Needacupofteaandcrackers · 27/08/2025 16:30

I’m Interested but have been told a few times to stop even trying to sing 🤣 they were being kind so not a mean way iyswim , can anyone really be taught to sing? Is there any hope for some people ?

Onthebusses · 27/08/2025 16:26

I wouldn't call it frivolous actually because I believe that singing is something of a magical healer. You're using frequencies, it can lift a mood. I'm not saying it cures cancer or any woo, but it is genuinely uplifting and has a tangible emotional impact.

So I would consider this a mental health spend and you can't put a cap on that. I also love singing! I sing a lot at home and own a karaoke machine for this purpose.

It's all about breathwork and output control and not singing from your throat. You should do the lessons becuase you can harm your vocal cords if you sing incorrectly. Whereas singing properly will have unfettered positive impacts, plus you can impress at the karaoke and get a few pats on the back which also help one's mood!

Sandy91 · 27/08/2025 16:23

Absolutely go for it! 😊

AmyDudley · 27/08/2025 16:20

Do it. Singing is great fun and massively good for your mental well being.

Blueuggboots · 27/08/2025 16:17

Go for it! I had singing lessons and loved it. So therapeutic.

smallslyfox · 27/08/2025 16:13

Singing is pretty much scientifically proven to make you happier so if you can get better at it and dedicate time to singing I say go for it! And learning anything is good for the mind and soul!

Lazygardener · 27/08/2025 16:09

Not singing, but I took up a musical instrument in my 40s, and it was a great decision. Apart from learning the instrument itself, I met many new friends and had great fun. You are absolutely not being frivolous. Go for it!

CoffeeCantata · 27/08/2025 16:06

Absolutely go for it - you’ll get hooked!😀❤️

Steph341 · 27/08/2025 15:48

I think that's a really lovely idea. I can't sing for toffee sadly.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 27/08/2025 15:39

OP, I think Rock Choir do a first free 'taster' session so you could go along and see what you thought without any financial obligation. I was in a Rock Choir for a while, but didn't love it so concentrated on the other choirs 😂

As to finding a teacher, my London borough has a list online.

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vetprob · 27/08/2025 15:37

RetiredMan · 27/08/2025 15:32

I wish I could sing. I've always had a terrible singing voice. I downloaded an app that was supposed to help you. It started by conducting a test to measure vocal range. Apparently about 2 octaves is typical. My measured range was well short of 1 octave. I gave up.

I did that test also. Apparently Adele suits my natural range but I never got any further than that.

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vetprob · 27/08/2025 15:35

QueenOfToast · 27/08/2025 15:12

I don’t know what singing you want to do but I would recommend joining something like rock choir. You’ll do vocal warm ups and learn some singing technique as part of your session that you can practice at home.

Not suitable if you want to do classical or opera type stuff, but I find a bit of group singing to be very good for the soul.

I think Opera is far far beyond me haha! I like that suggestion, thank you.

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vetprob · 27/08/2025 15:35

Octavia64 · 27/08/2025 15:07

I had my first singing lesson yesterday!

I’m not very good but it was so much fun and do nice to do something for myself.

How did you find a teacher?

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PoshDuckQuarkQuark · 27/08/2025 15:34

Absolutely do it! I started drum lessons in my 40s and love it!

RetiredMan · 27/08/2025 15:32

I wish I could sing. I've always had a terrible singing voice. I downloaded an app that was supposed to help you. It started by conducting a test to measure vocal range. Apparently about 2 octaves is typical. My measured range was well short of 1 octave. I gave up.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 27/08/2025 15:15

I was in my 40s when I started singing lessons. Then I joined a choir. Then I joined another choir. It's one of the best things I've ever done (I'm 61 now)! Go for it!

QueenOfToast · 27/08/2025 15:12

I don’t know what singing you want to do but I would recommend joining something like rock choir. You’ll do vocal warm ups and learn some singing technique as part of your session that you can practice at home.

Not suitable if you want to do classical or opera type stuff, but I find a bit of group singing to be very good for the soul.

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