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Is this insensitive or am I being sensitive?

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Whattodo76 · 27/08/2025 14:10

If you talk about having to do something difficult and scary on your own and the other person immediately talks about how they had to do the same thing with their partner, is it insensitive of them?

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Lemoncheesecake007 · 27/08/2025 14:15

It depends…

On one hand they could be trying to relate to you. That they’ve also been there, done that (just different as they had a partner to do it with)

On the other hand if they are trying to belittle you or make comments that “it’s not that hard… me and Ben did it!” Then yes insensitive

DiscoBob · 27/08/2025 14:14

It depends. If the second person was saying 'well, I know I'd be terrified too. It was scary enough for me and I had Malcolm with me' then it's more like they were trying to empathise and just also share the circumstances in which they'd experienced the same thing.

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