Would you take this job with a 3 year old?! I’m torn!

Do it. What a great opportunity. It’s not just the salary you need to think about your pension too.
Agree a cleaner would make life easier, also get a robot hoover, a fluffy duster and a flash power mop. DH will have to do half. Congratulations on getting such a great offer, it will set you up brilliantly.

@Amivei you both need to run the house, outsource things such as cleaning share our chores and work as a team

@Amivei - at first you will be completely exhausted (at least I was) but your body and mind will adapt. If you can (financially) contract out cleaning and ironing so it eases the pressure. But I would personally take it..

Indeed!

I work compressed hours from home, and I manage to arrange tasks around work breaks (the old "laundry in before I start, in dryer at lunch etc" routine, slow cooker meals), do a FT job and have my son back at 5.15.

Plus, you know, get a cleaner.

You both need to adapt and that includes your DH everything will need to be split far more equally and it all worked out.

I assume you have a DH? If so you split the nursery drop offs between you and both take equal responsibility for cooking, shopping, cleaning, laundry etc
If you can afford it you get a cleaner

@GreenFlag

would you? Why?

I’d let someone without a kid do the job.

I am worried I won’t have the time to do proper meals or keep on top of running the house.

@Amivei What on earth do you do that takes six hours a day to clean a house and cook?

I would take the job and get a cleaner.

How do people find these jobs that are 70k remote working when suits as long as deadlines are met?? What field are you in OP?

And I think it’s a no brainer to take the job, unless jobs like this come up all the time for you. There must be a reason you applied for it?

if you're working everyday the house wont get any more dirty or untidy if everyone is gone

You can put the washing machine on a timer so it's finished at a certain time and hang it up on your lunch break.

get a robot hoover

if you have an extra 70k coming in hire a cleaner

learn to batch cook or get a slow cooker and get the food on in the morning and its ready for dinner.

Yeah, stay at home so you can make proper meals, OP. That’s more important. You don’t want your family living off ready meals.

Yeah, stay at home so you can make proper meals, OP. That’s more important. You don’t want your family living off ready meals.

how can you turn that down?

What exactly are you doing whilst dd is at nursery? ATM. I mean exactly.

How long does it take you to get home? Do you immediately empty the bins, empty the dishwasher, put a wash on. Decide what to have for dinner and take something out the freezer, or better still take it out the night before. Set eufy to hoover.
I am naturally organised and can have the house looking semi - respectable within about 15 minutes. Then the rest of the day is mine. You'd then have from 10 till 3, 5 hours to yourself, before you even need to think about going to get DD from nursery at 3 pm and the dinner is already ready and the house is semi tidy.

Do you have that mindset already because if not, you're going to need it to get it all sorted in your mind and planned out so it's very easy to handle before you take a job like this.

Take the job, get help in place, give it a go. You may not get another fantastic offer of a well paid flexible job like that again. Even paying for lots of help you'll make a good salary and in time you'll manage to do more life admin.
-Cleaner, or even a housekeeper a couple of mornings a week, get your beds changed and sheets washed, a supermarket delivery received and put away etc,
-consider a superior ready meals like cook.net or a meal kit,
-ironing service,
-gardener,
-window cleaner etc
& get as much as possible done for you.
-Get your partner to do some of this life admin including booking and organising payment for some of it.
Make sure the bit about 2 days a month, in the office, is in your contract so they can't change that to more frequently.
If, even with all the support in place the job is too much consider negotiating a reduction in hours.
I say all this as someone who had to go back to work full time (with a 45 min journey to work) and weekend work in addition to weekday, with two children, one under 2 and the other preschool. Planning is the key, protecting your weekends for time with family is essential. It's exhausting but possible.

Take the job. Sounds like an absolute gift.

Take the job. Ive worked full time with 2 kids and only breaks for mat leave.
Yes the house is not as clean and tidy as I would like and meals are not cooked from scratch and we have ready meals some nights. But we are happy and life is good.
You have a great opportunity and you should take it. If you hate it and want to go back to being a sahm then you can always leave. But to pass up on a great salary and opportunity in this job market would be crazy. Just give it a go and see how it works.

I wasn't actually suggesting OP goes to the office more (just realised it could be read that way though, yes!) just saying I would be prepared to take that role even if they were asking for 2 days a week in the office. But it is a very valid point that her DH needs to understand she is working and should step up domestically when she does.

Honestly I would take it but meeting client need and your non negotiable times would have to line up, will you need to put 3yr old into nursery earlier to make 9am meetings,
2 days in the office will you need someone else to do drop off and pick ups, if you will need to work weekends to make deadlines will your partner step up

Personally I would take it and like you say overpay mortgage, put some into ISA for child give it a year and reassess.

Defintely will require good time management and out sourcing so don't expect to be everything to everyone

Go for it 😊

I mean, I earn half that, twice the children, can’t work when I want or do 9-4, DP does his share 50/50 and it’s pretty doable. Doesn’t feel like much of a dilemma to me but I understand it’s always daunting going back after a break.

Going back on those terms and that salary sounds like a piece of piss from where I’m standing. Unless you have a useless partner, a 10-bed mansion or insist on cooking Ottolenghi 25-ingredient recipes, why wouldn’t you be able to get everything done in lunch breaks, weekends, and after 4pm?

I agree with this, do more hours in the office so it's clear to your DH and DD that you have an actual real job. Otherwise there is a risk that you will WFH and carry on with the usual housework which will burn you out.

Sahm for 10 years here - go for it. If it doesn't work out you can always give it up. Getting 70k jobs offered to you will be rarer and rarer.
Do factor in some basics like cleaners, childcare, and how both your dp and you are going to divvy up chores or outsource them to make sure you both have me time, us time and family time.

Absolutely take it! Also for house chores download and follow the organised mum method. Game changer!

70k is a huge huge wage. it's a no brainer. Why is DD in nursery so long if you are a sahm? If you need that much downtime for yourself (which is unusual), I can see why you might struggle. But most parents work full time - not even from home with much younger DC. You will get used to it and worse case, you resign if it really doesn't work for you. I would give it a shot (but for me 70k seem to be a lot more money than for you).